In looking for a partner, I am more concerned about their “aesthetic” than their looks/education
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or salary.
My priorities are someone who is: -Modest -Very organized and clean, both with their living space and their personal belongings. No mess whatsoever. -Fashionable (in my opinion) -Perfect teeth -Frugal/excellent personal finance habits -Thin -Environmentally conscious -Good at decorating I am sure there’s more I am forgetting. But if they fit that criteria I could care less what their education level, profession, etc Now why is this so hard to find? |
Anonymous
| You don't want a partner. You want a mannequin. |
Anonymous
| You're shallow as hell. |
Anonymous
Just the opposite. I don’t care what their income or profession is, nor do I care where they live. |
Anonymous
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Are you a dude looking for a chick or another dude? |
Anonymous
Chick looking for a dude |
Anonymous
| With the exception of teeth and weight, this is almost exactly what I look for in a housekeeper. I have had several, and they are excellent housekeepers. I can tell you from experience though, people like this don’t like to live with other people. They had all been divorced multiple times. |
Anonymous
| What if their profession is serial killer? |
Anonymous
Are you okay with dating MSM because I know the perfect guy and he needs a wife like yesterday! |
Anonymous
MSM? |
Anonymous
| Your ideal is...Felix Unger? |
Anonymous
Men who have S*x with Men |
Anonymous
| I enjoy sex and looking at someone with a healthy body and feeling secure that someone will be around for awhile but that's because I actually want to converse with them, not just have sex. So really if I didn't care about conversation it would just be because of sex and looks which then why do I need to be in a relationship? Just watch videos of pretty people and hire good looking people for sex. I just really don't get it. Either gender. It's like they are a different species to me. |
Anonymous
Because you have a laundry list of things that are either strict requirements ("no mess whatsoever", "perfect teeth") or so subjective as to make it easy for you to dismiss anyone for virtually any reason at all. Like your requirements for someone who is fashionable and good at decorating actually mean "dresses how I want them to, has my exact same taste in decor." That's insanely limiting. The other thing this list tells me is that you think your taste is *perfect*. This makes you rigid. You might meet someone and go in their house and see a piece of art or furniture you would never buy and think oh this person has bad taste they aren't for me." When instead you could be curious -- what do they like about this, what drew them to it? It allows you to get to know them, perhaps discover merit in a choice you personally would not have made. This is actually one of the best things about relationships, when your partner expands your horizons and makes your world bigger. There is just no room in your priorities for people to be human and variable. I'm guessing you have very high self esteem and are looking for another version of you. That's really not how most relationships work. I'm not saying you have to be opposites, but if you ever marry, the person you marry will be different from you. That should be something you embrace, not resist. Otherwise, it's going o be a tough path to walk for you. |
Anonymous
| How shallow. |