In looking for a partner, I am more concerned about their “aesthetic” than their looks/education

[Anonymous]

I think if you switched the word for aesthetic for type you wouldn't be flames as much.

I think certain aesthetics do sometimes encompass a certain number of traits that relate to a type someone may prefer.

[Anonymous]

You do care about looks fashion and teeth fall into that category

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're shallow as hell.

Just the opposite. I don’t care what their income or profession is, nor do I care where they live.

NP here, in addition to being shallow as hell, you aren’t very bright, are you? You clearly don’t understand what “shallow” means.

[Anonymous]

have you found any men that fit your perfection requirements, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think if you switched the word for aesthetic for type you wouldn't be flames as much.

I think certain aesthetics do sometimes encompass a certain number of traits that relate to a type someone may prefer.

It's still just as shallow. Op is free to be as picky as she likes, but she admits her list is making dating difficult so maybe she should reevaluate

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're shallow as hell.

Just the opposite. I don’t care what their income or profession is, nor do I care where they live.

you are shallow in a different way

[Anonymous]

I am a woman, married to a man, who fits 6/7. He is not thin (definitely not fat either, but has significant muscle and not thin or skinny). While it is helpful to have a husband who prioritizes being tidy and a pleasing household environment, I can honestly say that these characteristics are pretty unimportant in what keeps us together.

Also I suspect OP is male claiming to be a woman. Either way, my opinion is that if you focus solely on these attributes and neglect things like personality and values, then you may be overlooking someone who would be a great partner to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:or salary.

My priorities are someone who is:
-Modest
-Very organized and clean, both with their living space and their personal belongings. No mess whatsoever.
-Fashionable (in my opinion)
-Perfect teeth
-Frugal/excellent personal finance habits
-Thin
-Environmentally conscious
-Good at decorating

I am sure there’s more I am forgetting. But if they fit that criteria I could care less what their education level, profession, etc

Now why is this so hard to find?

Instead you can marry someone educated and well employed and have similar values as you do.

They’ll be able to hire help to clean, organize, decorate and recycle.

They can pay gym/dietician/aesthetician/orthodontist to attain and maintain prerequisite looks.

But somehow they hardly ever do. Aesthetics will never be their priority now when they are rich, because it simply never was. For them aesthetic will always be a waste of money, time and resources.

Op, I get it , I believe you'll have to look among architects and designers.

You're married to an architect or designer? How did you meet your husband?

My husband is artistic and fashionable, but not necessarily into decorating. But I come from a family of architects and designers, so I know these men exist.
Of course, the easiest way to meet them is while still in college, but after that maybe going to museums, art shows, and through friends in those circles. They go to thrift stores as well. If you're on dating apps, definitely look for them and state that designers get an extra plus.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:or salary.

My priorities are someone who is:
-Modest
-Very organized and clean, both with their living space and their personal belongings. No mess whatsoever.
-Fashionable (in my opinion)
-Perfect teeth
-Frugal/excellent personal finance habits
-Thin
-Environmentally conscious
-Good at decorating

I am sure there’s more I am forgetting. But if they fit that criteria I could care less what their education level, profession, etc

Now why is this so hard to find?

You are looking for a gay man

[Anonymous]

Let's break this down.

-Modest- I don't even understand this one.
-Very organized and clean, both with their living space and their personal belongings. No mess whatsoever- Why does this matter? Why can't you hire this out? As long as they aren't hoarders, men are fine with others picking up after them. I like that dh is below average messy.
-Fashionable (in my opinion)- wives dress their husbands if they aren't fashionable. This is nbd.
-Perfect teeth- $2500-5k can get you some good ortho
-Frugal/excellent personal finance habits- As a wife I do all of our finances
-Thin- I agree this is moderately important.
-Environmentally conscious- they recycle? Don't fly on airplanes? Drive a Tesla?
-Good at decorating- never met a straight man who decorates. In fact, I like decorating and would be upset if DH wanted any input

I think you've missed a lot of major categories, like personality and interests. Are they kind? Do they like children?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let's break this down.

-Modest- I don't even understand this one.
-Very organized and clean, both with their living space and their personal belongings. No mess whatsoever- Why does this matter? Why can't you hire this out? As long as they aren't hoarders, men are fine with others picking up after them. I like that dh is below average messy.
-Fashionable (in my opinion)- wives dress their husbands if they aren't fashionable. This is nbd.
-Perfect teeth- $2500-5k can get you some good ortho
-Frugal/excellent personal finance habits- As a wife I do all of our finances
-Thin- I agree this is moderately important.
-Environmentally conscious- they recycle? Don't fly on airplanes? Drive a Tesla?
-Good at decorating- never met a straight man who decorates. In fact, I like decorating and would be upset if DH wanted any input

I think you've missed a lot of major categories, like personality and interests. Are they kind? Do they like children?

Sounds like you’re happy to be married to an ill-dressed, conceited slob with no aesthetic sense or financial acumen, so of course you wouldn’t appreciate OP’s list. Different strokes and all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're shallow as hell.

Just the opposite. I don’t care what their income or profession is, nor do I care where they live.

But you want them to be excellent decorators? 🤔

[Anonymous]

OP, here is my list:

Well educated (at least a masters since that’s what I have)
Owns his own place or on track to
Laid back
Kind
Taller than 5’9”
Not a complete slob
Has his own interests
Likes to travel
Has a dog or wants to get one

I found someone who fits all of this … bc it’s actually somewhat realistic especially in this area.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let's break this down.



-Fashionable (in my opinion)- wives dress their husbands if they aren't fashionable. This is nbd.
-Good at decorating- never met a straight man who decorates. In fact, I like decorating and would be upset if DH wanted any input

DP. Seriously who do you hang out with? Sounds like you simply don't know any man who's into design, gay OR straight.

And having to tell your husband what to wear is as admirable as having a man telling his wife what to wear.

[Anonymous]

Things like an aesthetic can change quickly as one gets older.

Things like personality and education level usually don't vary as much, or the signs are there.