What’s the dating scene like for a 39 year old, divorced dad of 2 kids

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Anonymous wrote:If you're in shape and make good money and have some semblance of a personality it is not that hard to date and establish long term relationships with girls in their late 20s.

Yeah, no.

And stop calling women girls.

It's true, about 1/3 of all divorced men end up remarrying women at least 6 years younger. 1/5 marries a woman at least 10 years younger their second time around

Have you ever been a single woman in your late twenties? I have, and I would never have dated a 39 year old, let alone a divorced 39 year old with two kids. There are childless men under 35 who are in good shape and make good money. You guys are delusional.

I mean, those are just statistics - I'm delusional...about... statistics? You can look it up, google is your friend

Statistics also say that second marriages have a terrible success rate.

This is just not true.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you're in shape and make good money and have some semblance of a personality it is not that hard to date and establish long term relationships with girls in their late 20s.

Yeah, no.

And stop calling women girls.

It's true, about 1/3 of all divorced men end up remarrying women at least 6 years younger. 1/5 marries a woman at least 10 years younger their second time around

Have you ever been a single woman in your late twenties? I have, and I would never have dated a 39 year old, let alone a divorced 39 year old with two kids. There are childless men under 35 who are in good shape and make good money. You guys are delusional.

I did date a 39 yo at 26 (and later married him) and I would not have touched him with a 10 foot pole if he were divorced, let alone divorced with kids! That is a HARD dealbreaker.

Haha, me too. 27 and 38 here and I would not have gone on a single date with a divorced dad. And I was the outlier amongst my friends ok with someone 10+ years older. And I DEFINITELY wasn't looking for fun "just sex" with the above. There are hot young guys for that.

[Anonymous]

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What is wrong with you? I am not with any number of men on a regular basis. I do not even want to remarry. Kids are baggage in dating. It is reality. You do not seem to understand logic.

You did not have the guts to answer the question in the post. Did your parents tell you were baggage?

Do you tell your children they are baggage?

Are kids only baggage when a divorced mom (or dad) is trying to date? What about the children of someone who is widowed. Are her children baggage?

What? No. But they are...in dating...in all scenarios. A package deal is baggage in any scenario.

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I wasn't trying to be funny, and I didn't answer your question because you were rude.

No, you were trying to be self-righteous. And you failed on both counts.

No, I spoke of my experience as a woman in my late twenties who would not have found a 39 year old divorced dad a catch. You were butthurt that I wouldn't have wanted this hypothetical man, and lashed out.
That's it.
Sod off.

You guys are both pathetic -- you guys should exchange info. A prozac popping aging single cat woman and an angry divorced dad. What an amazing combo that would be.

[Anonymous]

I hope to raise her to be able to spell “choices” at least...

You are better at spelling than you are at being a decent person. I bet the social fallout at your wedding was amazing.

Besides people who are divorced, do you have any other groups of people for which you have innate prejudice?

[Anonymous]

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Your post is not clear. Were the men mortified to be divorced or mortified to date you? Or both?

Hi. You did not respond to this question.

Why are you so triggered by the idea that a young woman with her whole life ahead of her might not want a much older man with an ex wife and children? If you had a daughter who was, say, 27, maybe in med school, maybe a junior associate at a reputable law firm, maybe working toward a PhD, attractive, fit, interesting, and she told you that she was seeing a nearly forty year old man with two children, would you honestly be happy for her?

Why are you so hateful toward women who don't stroke your ego online?

Sort yourself out. It's pathetic.

Hi again. My daughter is 23 and in graduate school overseas. She is attractive, fit, and interesting. She dates whom she chooses based on who makes her happy. If she loved a forty-year-old man with two children, it would not alter my love for her. Same as if she dated a forty-year-old woman. The nice thing about adults is that they can make their own decisions.

I am more triggered by the fact that your reply was not funny. Please try again. Maybe go into more detail about the character you created (the junior associate or PhD candidate) you so plainly see as the woman you were. Is she in med school and a junior associate? You are almost there as far as fun posts.

If you are really fine with this, then I am going to guess that either:

a) you are African American

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b) Your attractive 23 year old daughter in graduate school isn't actually dating a middle-aged, divorced, father of 2.

[Anonymous]

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I hope to raise her to be able to spell “choices” at least...

You are better at spelling than you are at being a decent person. I bet the social fallout at your wedding was amazing.

Besides people who are divorced, do you have any other groups of people for which you have innate prejudice?

Yes— men who believe they are entitled to attention from women.

[Anonymous]

You were butthurt that I wouldn't have wanted this hypothetical man, and lashed out.

Butthurt? Really? You cannot do better?

I was butthurt because you are sad and too angry to make a point. I do not know you and I do not care who you would or would not have wanted.

I wanted to make your point with style. Sadly, this wish will never come true.

[Anonymous]

Yes— men who believe they are entitled to attention from women.

You need a space between the word "yes" and the line next to it. You did a better job with the spacing before the word "men."

You should not type when you are angry. It shows.

[Anonymous]

If you are really fine with this, then I am going to guess that either:

a) you are African American

- or -

b) Your attractive 23 year old daughter in graduate school isn't actually dating a middle-aged, divorced, father of two.

Your post does not make sense.

[Anonymous]

You guys are both pathetic -- you guys should exchange info. A prozac popping aging single cat woman and an angry divorced dad. What an amazing combo that would be.

By the way, Prozac is a proper noun (it is the name of a drug), and you should have capitalized it. Nice job with the spacing between the lines.

[Anonymous]

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You guys are both pathetic -- you guys should exchange info. A prozac popping aging single cat woman and an angry divorced dad. What an amazing combo that would be.

By the way, Prozac is a proper noun (it is the name of a drug), and you should have capitalized it. Nice job with the spacing between the lines.

Editor and chief of Pathetic Magazine checking in

[Anonymous]

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You guys are both pathetic -- you guys should exchange info. A prozac popping aging single cat woman and an angry divorced dad. What an amazing combo that would be.

By the way, Prozac is a proper noun (it is the name of a drug), and you should have capitalized it. Nice job with the spacing between the lines.

You’re arguing with different people. I’m the one who pointed out you can’t spell “choices” but not the poster above. You’re upset at me because I think my daughter deserves better than to be the second wife of a divorced father who is looking for a “twenty something”. Try to keep up.

[Anonymous]

I know a bunch of educated professional women who married divorced men 10 years older. Some were guys with no kids, marring late 20s women in their 40s. Some were guys with teens who lived mostly with their moms. In most of those cases, guys had a second family with the new wife and older teen (soon 20-something) visited for holidays or summers or whatever. In one case, the new wife didn’t want kids and was willing to play step mom a few times a year. I think in all the cases, it was guys the women met professionally and they just really liked them, thought they were smart, etc.
I am constantly surprised by how many little kids in our UMC neighborhood will casually mention their MUCH older sibling that lives in another city that they see for Christmas or whatever, or is gtraduaring college, etc.

I think there are also younger women willing to date a good looking older guy just for fun, knowing an older guy will take her out nicer places than most guys in their 20s and might be more mature in other ways. That’s a niche market though.