Girlfriend Wants A Break

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Anonymous wrote:why are you saps continuing to feed this reddit troll?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure either of you are being mature but you need to communicate. She's worried about wasting her time, you about rushing. Compromise. Promise that you will propose by June or end it. Also you don't need a year between engagement and marriage . Finally spend this time exploring compatibility.. discuss kids, finances, family work...how you each picture marriage and family.

Reach out to her now though.

Best advice in the entire thread. OP - update?

OP here. I stopped coming on here because of the trolls and the obnoxious posts.

We’re back together and will be getting engaged soon. I decided I wanted to wait a year and she wants right now so we comprised on getting engaged by the fall. She will be meeting my family soon and it gives us more time to live together.

Way to go!

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure either of you are being mature but you need to communicate. She's worried about wasting her time, you about rushing. Compromise. Promise that you will propose by June or end it. Also you don't need a year between engagement and marriage . Finally spend this time exploring compatibility.. discuss kids, finances, family work...how you each picture marriage and family.

Reach out to her now though.

Best advice in the entire thread. OP - update?

OP here. I stopped coming on here because of the trolls and the obnoxious posts.

We’re back together and will be getting engaged soon. I decided I wanted to wait a year and she wants right now so we comprised on getting engaged by the fall. She will be meeting my family soon and it gives us more time to live together.

That is awesome. I’m happy you two were able to use this conflict as a tool to strengthen your relationship, and not destroy it. Good luck!! I hope you two continue in a good path with family, and hopefully fun surprises in Hawaii. Thank you for updating. Your response made me very happy. I wish more men would seek opinion outside of their immediate echo chamber.

Good luck!

OP here. I’m planning a trip for September and plan to propose then.

Cool! So much great planning and planning!

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure either of you are being mature but you need to communicate. She's worried about wasting her time, you about rushing. Compromise. Promise that you will propose by June or end it. Also you don't need a year between engagement and marriage . Finally spend this time exploring compatibility.. discuss kids, finances, family work...how you each picture marriage and family.

Reach out to her now though.

Best advice in the entire thread. OP - update?

OP here. I stopped coming on here because of the trolls and the obnoxious posts.

We’re back together and will be getting engaged soon. I decided I wanted to wait a year and she wants right now so we comprised on getting engaged by the fall. She will be meeting my family soon and it gives us more time to live together.

That is awesome. I’m happy you two were able to use this conflict as a tool to strengthen your relationship, and not destroy it. Good luck!! I hope you two continue in a good path with family, and hopefully fun surprises in Hawaii. Thank you for updating. Your response made me very happy. I wish more men would seek opinion outside of their immediate echo chamber.

Good luck!

OP here. I’m planning a trip for September and plan to propose then.

I have no idea why I’m so excited for this, but I am. It is refreshing to see maturity amidst so much selfishness that is often advocated for during this time. You two both seem mature and honorable in your intent — I admired that your girlfriend chose to step away without threats or disrupting and throwing it all away. She was clear in her concern. You responded. This is what relationships are about. I think you’ve shared very solid tools that will serve your future family well in the long run. Hope floats! If you remember please come back after Hawaii and let us know how it goes! (Or I may bookmark the thread and bump it for you near the holidays).

OP here. We may not get to Hawaii depending on everything going on, but I will propose in September. I already have a ring picked out too. I just need to buy it.

Maybe stay local or Mexico? Or maybe she takes a traveling nurse job and you go to her on bended knee.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure either of you are being mature but you need to communicate. She's worried about wasting her time, you about rushing. Compromise. Promise that you will propose by June or end it. Also you don't need a year between engagement and marriage . Finally spend this time exploring compatibility.. discuss kids, finances, family work...how you each picture marriage and family.

Reach out to her now though.

Best advice in the entire thread. OP - update?

OP here. I stopped coming on here because of the trolls and the obnoxious posts.

We’re back together and will be getting engaged soon. I decided I wanted to wait a year and she wants right now so we comprised on getting engaged by the fall. She will be meeting my family soon and it gives us more time to live together.

That is awesome. I’m happy you two were able to use this conflict as a tool to strengthen your relationship, and not destroy it. Good luck!! I hope you two continue in a good path with family, and hopefully fun surprises in Hawaii. Thank you for updating. Your response made me very happy. I wish more men would seek opinion outside of their immediate echo chamber.

Good luck!

OP here. I’m planning a trip for September and plan to propose then.

I have no idea why I’m so excited for this, but I am. It is refreshing to see maturity amidst so much selfishness that is often advocated for during this time. You two both seem mature and honorable in your intent — I admired that your girlfriend chose to step away without threats or disrupting and throwing it all away. She was clear in her concern. You responded. This is what relationships are about. I think you’ve shared very solid tools that will serve your future family well in the long run. Hope floats! If you remember please come back after Hawaii and let us know how it goes! (Or I may bookmark the thread and bump it for you near the holidays).

OP here. We may not get to Hawaii depending on everything going on, but I will propose in September. I already have a ring picked out too. I just need to buy it.

Maybe stay local or Mexico? Or maybe she takes a traveling nurse job and you go to her on bended knee.

Maybe in the last 2 and a half years since the OP posted, they figure this out or not.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure either of you are being mature but you need to communicate. She's worried about wasting her time, you about rushing. Compromise. Promise that you will propose by June or end it. Also you don't need a year between engagement and marriage . Finally spend this time exploring compatibility.. discuss kids, finances, family work...how you each picture marriage and family.

Reach out to her now though.

Best advice in the entire thread. OP - update?

OP here. I stopped coming on here because of the trolls and the obnoxious posts.

We’re back together and will be getting engaged soon. I decided I wanted to wait a year and she wants right now so we comprised on getting engaged by the fall. She will be meeting my family soon and it gives us more time to live together.

That is awesome. I’m happy you two were able to use this conflict as a tool to strengthen your relationship, and not destroy it. Good luck!! I hope you two continue in a good path with family, and hopefully fun surprises in Hawaii. Thank you for updating. Your response made me very happy. I wish more men would seek opinion outside of their immediate echo chamber.

Good luck!

OP here. I’m planning a trip for September and plan to propose then.

I have no idea why I’m so excited for this, but I am. It is refreshing to see maturity amidst so much selfishness that is often advocated for during this time. You two both seem mature and honorable in your intent — I admired that your girlfriend chose to step away without threats or disrupting and throwing it all away. She was clear in her concern. You responded. This is what relationships are about. I think you’ve shared very solid tools that will serve your future family well in the long run. Hope floats! If you remember please come back after Hawaii and let us know how it goes! (Or I may bookmark the thread and bump it for you near the holidays).

OP here. We may not get to Hawaii depending on everything going on, but I will propose in September. I already have a ring picked out too. I just need to buy it.

Maybe stay local or Mexico? Or maybe she takes a traveling nurse job and you go to her on bended knee.

Maybe in the last 2 and a half years since the OP posted, they figure this out or not.

Clearly the sock puppet troll and his evil fictitious nurse GF most definitely did not. Ironically she figured him out in his stories, and left.