Resentful About DH's Schedule- A Vent

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No troll at all. If your husband is a drunk who doesn’t work well then complain all you want. But when your husband is a first responder who works overtime and helps family and friends well, I mean c’mon for crying out loud.

I'll repeat this slowly for you again. OP's DH is not the star of their family's show with her in a supporting role. Perhaps that's how you see a husband's place, and in some families, perhaps that's the case. In most families I know who function in a healthy manner and contain an intact marriage, spouses support each other and don't undermine shared goals to be the "neighborhood good guy". Neighborhood good guy eventually goes home to his family and there are no points granted for being absent bc you fixed cousin Joe's muffler for free.

And cut the crap with the faux first responder nobility bit. I'm an ER doc who's been taking a bath in Covid since March. Yeah there's something to being on the front line, but I still have a family who needs me so I don't live at the hospital, no matter how much that would make my chairman cream his shorts (and probably promote me). Nope. My kid needs homework help and my partner likes to tell me about his day. I want to hear about it and not be answering pages bc I'm covering extra call for a few bucks my family doesn't need (and if I'm spending my money on gadgets that's a firm "do not need").

Not OP. But I get damn tired of trolls like you knocking women who are clearly getting the short end of the stick at home, and then have the temerity to turn around and tell her to be grateful. She's not talking about divorcing the guy, she's talking about how to build long term happiness for her family. It's a reasonable goal, no matter what mysogynistic nonsense you'll come up with.

So contribute something useful, own up to your position that OP should be grateful for scraps (as a FT working mom who could probably kick this dude to the curb and be ok), or have several seats.

Thank you.

THANK YOU!