Husband Wants Me To Stop Co-Sleeping.

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09/20/2020 12:06

Subject: Husband Wants Me To Stop Co-Sleeping.

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Anonymous wrote:It's also clearly established that infants in a parent's bed are more likely to die. One NIH study showed 70% of kids who died of SIDS were bedsharing when they died.

My cousin lost her baby boy this way and screams it from the rooftops not to make the same mistake. Bed sharing isn't just bad for you mentally it's dangerous for the baby. There's a reason pediatricians tell you to put the baby in a bassinet or crib. They've seen what happens when bedsharing goes wrong.

Obviously we're talking young babies here, but OP wants a second kid.

Please cite the study that you mention. SUIDS and SIDS are not the same thing. SIDS is a subcategory of SUID and is a cause assigned to infant deaths that cannot be explained after a thorough case investigation including autopsy, a scene investigation, and review of clinical history. SIDS is also called Cot/crib death. "Although the cause is unknown, it appears that SIDS might be associated with defects in the portion of an infant's brain that controls breathing and arousal from sleep."

There is absolutely a way to bedshare safely, the problem is that most people start it (on purpose or through exhaustion) without first determining how to do it safely. There is a safe sleep 7 - must be breastfeeding exclusively,, no pillows or duvets, bed away from the wall, no blankets above the hips, no smoking of any kind by either parent, sober parents, firm mattress (no memory foam), healthy FULL TERM with no weight issues, and no swaddling.

No wires including cell phone chargers and bed should be low-profile or on the floor. Baby should be on their back with mom next to them. Baby is not supposed to be between mom and dad. You can also only safely cosleep in a bed. Not a recliner or couch.

Furthermore, many people dresses babies for bedsharing as they woulld if the baby were in a crib by themselves. Babies who bedshare do not need sleeping bags or fleece pajamas. Rooms should be cool for sleeping 65-72 is ideal. No jewelry, mom should wear tight-fitted clothing and long hair should be pulled back completely.

So many people will say they never bedshare but the AAP even admits that this occurs more than expected:

"Parent-infant bed-sharing for all or part of sleep duration is common. In 1 national survey for the period 2001–2010, 46% of parents responded that they had shared a bed with their infant (8 months or younger) at some point in the preceding 2 weeks, and 13.5% reported that they usually bed-shared.174 In another national survey, any bed-sharing was reported by 42% of mothers at 2 weeks of infant age and 27% of mothers at 12 months of infant age.175 In a third study, almost 60% of mothers of infants from birth to 12 months of age reported bed-sharing at least once.176 The rate of routine bed-sharing is higher among some racial/ethnic groups, including black, Hispanic, and American Indian/Alaska Native parents/infants.20,22,174 There are often cultural and personal reasons why parents choose to bed-share, including convenience for feeding (breast or formula), comforting a fussy or sick infant, helping the infant and/or mother sleep better, bonding and attachment, and because it is a family tradition.175,177 In addition, many parents may believe that their own vigilance is the only way that they can keep their infant safe and that the close proximity of bed-sharing allows them to maintain vigilance, even while sleeping.178 Some parents will use bed-sharing specifically as a safety strategy if the infant sleeps in the prone position23,178 or there is concern about environmental dangers, such as vermin or stray gunfire."

Part of the issues with many studies is the bedsharing includes sharing the same surface with an adult, which includes couch, recliner, etc.