There really are women out there who go after other people's husbands

[Anonymous]

^ if she met him in her mid-20s and married and he didn’t cheat until she was 45-50 was she really attracted to an immoral guy? He was faithful for 20-25 years. One could say he changed in midlife as people sometimes do and it’s the OW that is attracted to the immoral guy NOT the wife that dunks his cheating @ss.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It is still not her fault. I mean HER infidelity is her fault, but every husband’s infidelity is on him

She is 100% responsible for having an affair with a married person and the impact her actions had on other people (her own husband, the other family)

He is 100% responsible for having an affair and the impacts that has on other people.

It's not a pie. It's not like you cut it up to assign portions of guilt. They are each 100% responsible for their OWN actions and consequences.

Disagree.

HE made the vow to that women. Probably in a church in front of their families.

SHE had never met them and may never meet them.

I don't relate to the other woman because she is attracted to an immoral, lying guy. But I feel like HER betrayal is to her family not his.

I and many, disagree. In addition the Biblical command against coveting thy neighbor's anything (which I will ignore because this will likely mean nothing to you) there are boundaries we all follow for the greater good of the culture. Marriage, faithful marriages still matter. I have been floored, absolutely floored, by the enormous ramifications and ripple effects of one affair. (Our close friend a few years back). There is such denial about people finding out, but they do. A lot of people find out. People you never suspected would know, will know and learn shit about your private affair. Your ap's family, parents, sisters, nieces, nephews, friends, children now and children in years to come, therapists, acquaintances, the list goes on. It was mortifying for it to go public for our friend and it affected the entire group of friends for years, because the family moved away. She can never undo it. There was almost overwhelming shame. It is a big, ugly deal. I would not be so quick to compartmentalize.

It decimated two families completely in our case and the ramifications from that lasted generations.

Selfish. Cheaters only think about their genitals. Nothing else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is still not her fault. I mean HER infidelity is her fault, but every husband’s infidelity is on him

She is 100% responsible for having an affair with a married person and the impact her actions had on other people (her own husband, the other family)

He is 100% responsible for having an affair and the impacts that has on other people.

It's not a pie. It's not like you cut it up to assign portions of guilt. They are each 100% responsible for their OWN actions and consequences.

Disagree.

HE made the vow to that women. Probably in a church in front of their families.

SHE had never met them and may never meet them.

I don't relate to the other woman because she is attracted to an immoral, lying guy. But I feel like HER betrayal is to her family not his.

+1

[Anonymous]

Of course there are. But the man is married. He's the cheater. If she's married to then that's between her and her partner and cheating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of course there are. But the man is married. He's the cheater. If she's married to then that's between her and her partner and cheating.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of course there are. But the man is married. He's the cheater. If she's married to then that's between her and her partner and cheating.

She is an accomplice. It is a fallacy that somebody that knowingly comes into a marriage owes a decent, innocent person nothing. One should never intentionally harm an innocent person and their children which is what an adulteress died when she knows about them and helps him cover his @ss.

God certainly cares. If you don’t believe in God, Karma also cares. If you can live with that on your conscience and the wrath that may come your way when you are found out...carry on in your slutty deceitful whore ways...f@cking a morally corrupt liar.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of course there are. But the man is married. He's the cheater. If she's married to then that's between her and her partner and cheating.

It becomes about you too when you enter their marriage. If you can’t see that you are a complete idiot.

As the other poster said it’s a BS argument that it could have been any whore...it wasn’t any whore, it was YOU. We don’t use that stupid argument in any other circumstance...oh you got hit in the crosswalk..well if it wasn’t my car, it would have been another one.

It’s a way to live in denial of your moral corruptness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is still not her fault. I mean HER infidelity is her fault, but every husband’s infidelity is on him

She is 100% responsible for having an affair with a married person and the impact her actions had on other people (her own husband, the other family)

He is 100% responsible for having an affair and the impacts that has on other people.

It's not a pie. It's not like you cut it up to assign portions of guilt. They are each 100% responsible for their OWN actions and consequences.

Disagree.

HE made the vow to that women. Probably in a church in front of their families.

SHE had never met them and may never meet them.

I don't relate to the other woman because she is attracted to an immoral, lying guy. But I feel like HER betrayal is to her family not his.

I and many, disagree. In addition the Biblical command against coveting thy neighbor's anything (which I will ignore because this will likely mean nothing to you) there are boundaries we all follow for the greater good of the culture. Marriage, faithful marriages still matter. I have been floored, absolutely floored, by the enormous ramifications and ripple effects of one affair. (Our close friend a few years back). There is such denial about people finding out, but they do. A lot of people find out. People you never suspected would know, will know and learn shit about your private affair. Your ap's family, parents, sisters, nieces, nephews, friends, children now and children in years to come, therapists, acquaintances, the list goes on. It was mortifying for it to go public for our friend and it affected the entire group of friends for years, because the family moved away. She can never undo it. There was almost overwhelming shame. It is a big, ugly deal. I would not be so quick to compartmentalize.

It’s amazing when stuff like this is revealed how much people get snapped out of their stupid fantasy world full of justifications and see just how harmful their lies were. Yes- it causes generational damage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course there are. But the man is married. He's the cheater. If she's married to then that's between her and her partner and cheating.

It becomes about you too when you enter their marriage. If you can’t see that you are a complete idiot.

As the other poster said it’s a BS argument that it could have been any whore...it wasn’t any whore, it was YOU. We don’t use that stupid argument in any other circumstance...oh you got hit in the crosswalk..well if it wasn’t my car, it would have been another one.

It’s a way to live in denial of your moral corruptness.

Yes, you do. I’m asexual, and can ensure you that most “good people” don’t adjust to accommodate me. I’m not saying they should, but if my asexuality is not of your business, your marriage isn’t some random woman’s business either(unless she’s purposely targeting you).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course there are. But the man is married. He's the cheater. If she's married to then that's between her and her partner and cheating.

It becomes about you too when you enter their marriage. If you can’t see that you are a complete idiot.

As the other poster said it’s a BS argument that it could have been any whore...it wasn’t any whore, it was YOU. We don’t use that stupid argument in any other circumstance...oh you got hit in the crosswalk..well if it wasn’t my car, it would have been another one.

It’s a way to live in denial of your moral corruptness.

Yes, you do. I’m asexual, and can ensure you that most “good people” don’t adjust to accommodate me. I’m not saying they should, but if my asexuality is not of your business, your marriage isn’t some random woman’s business either(unless she’s purposely targeting you).

If you are married and asexual than “yes” if I am f@cking your husband without your knowledge or you having given him consent to open the marriage - I am knowingly committing adultery and will psychologically hurt you and your kids when they find out about me. It’s especially distressing to women that are not asexual and are still regularly screwing their cheating husband and being exposed to germs unknowingly. Also- if OW gets knocked up it also GREATLY affects your future and your kid’s future. Stop being ridiculous. You are t asexual you are a cheater trying to take zero responsibility for doing harm to another person.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course there are. But the man is married. He's the cheater. If she's married to then that's between her and her partner and cheating.

It becomes about you too when you enter their marriage. If you can’t see that you are a complete idiot.

As the other poster said it’s a BS argument that it could have been any whore...it wasn’t any whore, it was YOU. We don’t use that stupid argument in any other circumstance...oh you got hit in the crosswalk..well if it wasn’t my car, it would have been another one.

It’s a way to live in denial of your moral corruptness.

Yes, you do. I’m asexual, and can ensure you that most “good people” don’t adjust to accommodate me. I’m not saying they should, but if my asexuality is not of your business, your marriage isn’t some random woman’s business either(unless she’s purposely targeting you).

If you are married and asexual than “yes” if I am f@cking your husband without your knowledge or you having given him consent to open the marriage - I am knowingly committing adultery and will psychologically hurt you and your kids when they find out about me. It’s especially distressing to women that are not asexual and are still regularly screwing their cheating husband and being exposed to germs unknowingly. Also- if OW gets knocked up it also GREATLY affects your future and your kid’s future. Stop being ridiculous. You are t asexual you are a cheater trying to take zero responsibility for doing harm to another person.

I’m aromantic, and you’re spilling arbitrary “rules” that benefit you. You can’t have “anarchy” on demand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course there are. But the man is married. He's the cheater. If she's married to then that's between her and her partner and cheating.

It becomes about you too when you enter their marriage. If you can’t see that you are a complete idiot.

As the other poster said it’s a BS argument that it could have been any whore...it wasn’t any whore, it was YOU. We don’t use that stupid argument in any other circumstance...oh you got hit in the crosswalk..well if it wasn’t my car, it would have been another one.

It’s a way to live in denial of your moral corruptness.

Yes, you do. I’m asexual, and can ensure you that most “good people” don’t adjust to accommodate me. I’m not saying they should, but if my asexuality is not of your business, your marriage isn’t some random woman’s business either(unless she’s purposely targeting you).

If you are married and asexual than “yes” if I am f@cking your husband without your knowledge or you having given him consent to open the marriage - I am knowingly committing adultery and will psychologically hurt you and your kids when they find out about me. It’s especially distressing to women that are not asexual and are still regularly screwing their cheating husband and being exposed to germs unknowingly. Also- if OW gets knocked up it also GREATLY affects your future and your kid’s future. Stop being ridiculous. You are t asexual you are a cheater trying to take zero responsibility for doing harm to another person.

I’m aromantic, and you’re spilling arbitrary “rules” that benefit you. You can’t have “anarchy” on demand.

Same poster. BTW, your ex/dh is responsible for it, nobody said otherwise.

[Anonymous]

There are plenty of married women out there going after all types of men. For five years I was a country club golf pro during the day and a bartender at night (golf pay is lousy). I was surprised how often women I taught would show up at the bar alone and it was clear what they were interested in. They were all UMC or higher and at the club they were the picture of a happy wife but clearly they were not. I was single at the time so maybe I was fair game but there were plenty of guys at the club that I’m sure would have been happy to spend time with them.

[Anonymous]

Their husbands aren’t interested in them so they want somebody else’s. Most of these women have husbands that no longer want sex with them so they go out looking for D.