There really are women out there who go after other people's husbands

[Anonymous]

I am trying to understand the psychology behind this. It's so cliche, but I am seeing it play out in my circle of friends. She used to flirt big time with my exh but I didn't care at the time because I didn't like him. Heck for all I know they did hook up. But then ff about 5 years later and she's had an affair with a marriage guy in our circle and then it came out she had one with another married man in our town (not in our circle.) She is still married btw. In observing her I have realized she does tend to focus on the dhs more than the other women, and she def asks for their help and advice on things more. I hate to say this because I know not all women who grew up without a dad do this, but she did grow up with dysfunction and no father in the house. FTR we used to be close, but we fell away. The drama happened after that. She's had falling outs with other mutual friends too but I don't know why.

[Anonymous]

In my experience, affairs just happen when two people are attracted to each other. It's unfortunate (and terribly short-sighted) when people such as the woman you describe act on their impulses in their own social circle, but I don't think she nor anyone is purposefully targeting your husband just because he's married to YOU.

[Anonymous]

When you want to stay married but have something on the side, it's smart to target other married people.

[Anonymous]

Wanna send her my way? Been looking to offload my H on someone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When you want to stay married but have something on the side, it's smart to target other married people.

This.

[Anonymous]

It is still not her fault. I mean HER infidelity is her fault, but every husband’s infidelity is on him

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When you want to stay married but have something on the side, it's smart to target other married people.

This.

This. Or even unhappily married people who do want to get divorced but are confused or just want to have an affair as their marriage is unwinding. I think some married women see single women as a threat and don’t want them around, but in reality most single women are not going to waste time on a married guy. Unhappily married women are a much bigger threat than single women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
In my experience, affairs just happen when two people are attracted to each other. It's unfortunate (and terribly short-sighted) when people such as the woman you describe act on their impulses in their own social circle, but I don't think she nor anyone is purposefully targeting your husband just because he's married to YOU.

Did you even read my post?

[Anonymous]

"In your circle" are scummy people. Op, you need to examine why you seek out and choose these people

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
In my experience, affairs just happen when two people are attracted to each other. It's unfortunate (and terribly short-sighted) when people such as the woman you describe act on their impulses in their own social circle, but I don't think she nor anyone is purposefully targeting your husband just because he's married to YOU.

Did you even read my post?

Yes. Your title says "go after other people's husbands", and you press on with details in your post. I don't think she's targeting anyone in particular, just who's available where she is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"In your circle" are scummy people. Op, you need to examine why you seek out and choose these people

I am not sure what you mean. The circle is made up of all kinds of people. Normal people, married, kids, educateds, creatives, successful, leaders in the community, etc. It's a normal circle as far as I can tell.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
In my experience, affairs just happen when two people are attracted to each other. It's unfortunate (and terribly short-sighted) when people such as the woman you describe act on their impulses in their own social circle, but I don't think she nor anyone is purposefully targeting your husband just because he's married to YOU.

Did you even read my post?

Yes. Your title says "go after other people's husbands", and you press on with details in your post. I don't think she's targeting anyone in particular, just who's available where she is.

I guess. Just weird that she knows their wives and was friends with one.

[Anonymous]

There are women that cannot stand other women, and just pretend to be friendly to women because they know there is a societal expectation that women should be sociable and have friends. They crave male approval above all else and most men would see a red flag towards those girls that say "I'm not like other girls!" or "I only have guy friends!" and so they cultivate female friendships, not from a genuine place, but because they are doing it performatively, hoping it will garner them the male approval that is the actual goal.

It's sociopathic and very sad and pathetic. But there's lots of people out there like that, of both genders.

Oh, and there's also just sex addict type women desperate for touch and any affection. But the ones that plot and plan are doing it mostly because they dont like other women and want all the men for themselves

[Anonymous]

Some treacherous women consider married men the biggest prize and ultimate boost to their self-esteem. Who's more powerful than a woman who can get a man to cheat on his wife? Married men are responsible for their infidelities. Women who target married men also are targeting the wives and kids. The goal is total destruction of a family, not just 'an affair'. Very sick and very destructive behavior.

[Anonymous]

Yes. There are some women who purposely go after married men.