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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It is still not her fault.  I mean HER infidelity is her fault, but every husband’s infidelity is on him[/quote]

She is 100% responsible for having an affair with a married person and the impact her actions had on other people (her own husband, the other family)

He is 100% responsible for having an affair and the impacts that has on other people.

It's not a pie.  It's not like you cut it up to assign portions of guilt.  They are each 100% responsible for their OWN actions and consequences.[/quote]

Disagree.

HE made the vow to that women. Probably in a church in front of their families.

SHE had never met them and may never meet them.

I don't relate to the other woman because she is attracted to an immoral, lying guy. But I feel like HER betrayal is to her family not his.[/quote]

I and many, disagree. In addition the Biblical command against coveting thy neighbor's anything  (which I will ignore because this will likely mean nothing to you) there are boundaries we all follow for the greater good of the culture. Marriage, faithful marriages still matter. I have been floored, absolutely floored, by the enormous ramifications and ripple effects of one affair. (Our close friend a few years back).  There is such denial about people finding out, but they do. A lot of people find out. People you never suspected would know, will know and learn shit about your private affair. Your ap's family, parents, sisters, nieces, nephews, friends, children now and children in years to come, therapists, acquaintances, the list goes on. It was mortifying for it to go public for our friend and it affected the entire group of friends for years, because the family moved away. She can never undo it. There was almost overwhelming shame. It is a big, ugly deal. I would not be so quick to compartmentalize. [/quote]

It decimated two families completely in our case and the ramifications from that lasted generations.

Selfish.  Cheaters only think about their genitals.  Nothing else.[/quote]

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