If your son sexually assaulted a girl WWYD?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What if your daughter got drunk and hooked up with a college guy, then the next day her friends were all gossiping so she decides to say she was raped because she was drunk and so she said she couldn’t consent. Then the boy gets kicked out of college. Happens every day. The girl needs to take responsibility for this. Too many ruined boys from retroactive guilt or embarrassment.

FU, no it doesn't! You're making stuff up that has no bearing in reality. The reality is that the overwhelming majority of campus rapes go unreported.

-- Person who was raped in college and didn't report it

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I've been raped twice and didn't report either. You have no idea what victims go through.

If you don’t report it, you lose the right to bitch about nothing being done to perpetrator.

Wow. You clearly have never dealt with our justice system.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If it were my son I wouldn’t believe it and I would get the best defense and investigators and try to ruin the girl. Just being honest.

And if he raped a 6 year old would this still be your view? If not, why does the age change your opinion?

It would make me think he was also rsped as a child so yes.

But if he raped a woman you wouldn't think he was raped? I'm starting to see why you have your opinion. Your DH probably did something messed up to your son and you never had an appropriate outlet for your anger, so you would try to "ruin" another person because of all the hurt your family went though.

In short: a bad mother who doesn't protect her children when they actually need protection.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What if your daughter got drunk and hooked up with a college guy, then the next day her friends were all gossiping so she decides to say she was raped because she was drunk and so she said she couldn’t consent. Then the boy gets kicked out of college. Happens every day. The girl needs to take responsibility for this. Too many ruined boys from retroactive guilt or embarrassment.

I know or literally no “boys” ruined, I know of many women suffering the after effects of sexual assault and rape.

What rock have you been living under? Google Duke Lacrosse Rape and Brian Banks to name two. Smh.

The Duke Lacrosse team was fully excoriated before the case ever went to trial almost 15 years ago. Brian Banks is a tragedy and, related to sexual assult, and extreme outlier. There are 1000 Brock Turners for every Brian Banks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What if your daughter got drunk and hooked up with a college guy, then the next day her friends were all gossiping so she decides to say she was raped because she was drunk and so she said she couldn’t consent. Then the boy gets kicked out of college. Happens every day. The girl needs to take responsibility for this. Too many ruined boys from retroactive guilt or embarrassment.

Yell your boys to not have sex with drunk or unconscious girls. It's really that simple.

Yep

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If it were my son I wouldn’t believe it and I would get the best defense and investigators and try to ruin the girl. Just being honest.

And if he raped a 6 year old would this still be your view? If not, why does the age change your opinion?

It would make me think he was also rsped as a child so yes.

But if he raped a woman you wouldn't think he was raped? I'm starting to see why you have your opinion. Your DH probably did something messed up to your son and you never had an appropriate outlet for your anger, so you would try to "ruin" another person because of all the hurt your family went though.

In short: a bad mother who doesn't protect her children when they actually need protection.

Np: that is an astronomical leap, you obviously have an agenda here...were you assaulted as a child and your mother didn’t protect you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If it were my son I wouldn’t believe it and I would get the best defense and investigators and try to ruin the girl. Just being honest.

And if he raped a 6 year old would this still be your view? If not, why does the age change your opinion?

It would make me think he was also rsped as a child so yes.

But if he raped a woman you wouldn't think he was raped? I'm starting to see why you have your opinion. Your DH probably did something messed up to your son and you never had an appropriate outlet for your anger, so you would try to "ruin" another person because of all the hurt your family went though.

In short: a bad mother who doesn't protect her children when they actually need protection.

Np: that is an astronomical leap, you obviously have an agenda here...were you assaulted as a child and your mother didn’t protect you?

So you accusing me of making an astronomical leap and now you're making the same leap? Hm.

There's something very "off" about a woman who would try to "ruin" a girl for reporting a rape. I'm just trying to figure out what messed her up.

[Anonymous]

I would be sad and would hire the best defense lawyer I could afford and get him into therapy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What if your daughter got drunk and hooked up with a college guy, then the next day her friends were all gossiping so she decides to say she was raped because she was drunk and so she said she couldn’t consent. Then the boy gets kicked out of college. Happens every day. The girl needs to take responsibility for this. Too many ruined boys from retroactive guilt or embarrassment.

The science and the facts do not support this oft-peddled imaginary scenario. False reports of sexual assault are absolutely miniscule. Women do not voluntarily put themselves through the trauma of reporting for exactly the reason you've demonstrated here. In fact it's the opposite. Girls choose NOT to report legitimate assault ALL THE TIME because they are terrified of what will they will be put through.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If it were my son I wouldn’t believe it and I would get the best defense and investigators and try to ruin the girl. Just being honest.

And if he raped a 6 year old would this still be your view? If not, why does the age change your opinion?

It would make me think he was also rsped as a child so yes.

But if he raped a woman you wouldn't think he was raped? I'm starting to see why you have your opinion. Your DH probably did something messed up to your son and you never had an appropriate outlet for your anger, so you would try to "ruin" another person because of all the hurt your family went though.

In short: a bad mother who doesn't protect her children when they actually need protection.

Look at the.data. People are not born pedophiles. 1 in 5 boys are Rape so I st blame mothers.for.that.

Rape is different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If it were my son I wouldn’t believe it and I would get the best defense and investigators and try to ruin the girl. Just being honest.

And if he raped a 6 year old would this still be your view? If not, why does the age change your opinion?

It would make me think he was also rsped as a child so yes.

But if he raped a woman you wouldn't think he was raped? I'm starting to see why you have your opinion. Your DH probably did something messed up to your son and you never had an appropriate outlet for your anger, so you would try to "ruin" another person because of all the hurt your family went though.

In short: a bad mother who doesn't protect her children when they actually need protection.

Look at the.data. People are not born pedophiles. 1 in 5 boys are Rape so I st blame mothers.for.that.

Rape is different.

Right. So if your DS were raped the blame is firmly on you. I'm glad we agree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If it were my son I wouldn’t believe it and I would get the best defense and investigators and try to ruin the girl. Just being honest.

And if he raped a 6 year old would this still be your view? If not, why does the age change your opinion?

It would make me think he was also rsped as a child so yes.

But if he raped a woman you wouldn't think he was raped? I'm starting to see why you have your opinion. Your DH probably did something messed up to your son and you never had an appropriate outlet for your anger, so you would try to "ruin" another person because of all the hurt your family went though.

In short: a bad mother who doesn't protect her children when they actually need protection.

Look at the.data. People are not born pedophiles. 1 in 5 boys are Rape so I st blame mothers.for.that.

Rape is different.

Right. So if your DS were raped the blame is firmly on you. I'm glad we agree.

Okay Karen

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What if your daughter got drunk and hooked up with a college guy, then the next day her friends were all gossiping so she decides to say she was raped because she was drunk and so she said she couldn’t consent. Then the boy gets kicked out of college. Happens every day. The girl needs to take responsibility for this. Too many ruined boys from retroactive guilt or embarrassment.

FU, no it doesn't! You're making stuff up that has no bearing in reality. The reality is that the overwhelming majority of campus rapes go unreported.

-- Person who was raped in college and didn't report it

+1
I've been raped twice and didn't report either. You have no idea what victims go through.

If you don’t report it, you lose the right to bitch about nothing being done to perpetrator.

Let’s see. If you a woman reports being raped she’s lying. If a woman doesn’t report her rape she loses the right to talk about it. What is a woman supposed to do? Or do you just not believe that rape happens?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What if your daughter got drunk and hooked up with a college guy, then the next day her friends were all gossiping so she decides to say she was raped because she was drunk and so she said she couldn’t consent. Then the boy gets kicked out of college. Happens every day. The girl needs to take responsibility for this. Too many ruined boys from retroactive guilt or embarrassment.

Yell your boys to not have sex with drunk or unconscious girls. It's really that simple.

Yep

Yes. Teach children of all sexes that they need to give and get enthusiastic sober consent before having sex with someone. Tada, now you don’t have to figure out whether to hire a defense lawyer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If it were my son I wouldn’t believe it and I would get the best defense and investigators and try to ruin the girl. Just being honest.

Unfortunately, this is exactly what parents do. And then, they find out about the other girls or years later, the women in college and in his office.

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It does the son NO favors to protect him. It only enables him to live in his bubble of believing "no means yes" and he will never learn anything different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If it were my son I wouldn’t believe it and I would get the best defense and investigators and try to ruin the girl. Just being honest.

And if he raped a 6 year old would this still be your view? If not, why does the age change your opinion?

It would make me think he was also rsped as a child so yes.

But if he raped a woman you wouldn't think he was raped? I'm starting to see why you have your opinion. Your DH probably did something messed up to your son and you never had an appropriate outlet for your anger, so you would try to "ruin" another person because of all the hurt your family went though.

In short: a bad mother who doesn't protect her children when they actually need protection.

Look at the.data. People are not born pedophiles. 1 in 5 boys are Rape so I st blame mothers.for.that.

Rape is different.

Right. So if your DS were raped the blame is firmly on you. I'm glad we agree.

Okay Karen

You said you would ruin someone if they accused your son of rape. I don't think you're in the position to call other people "Karen".