Is refusing to date or marry outside of your race/culture considered racism?

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Anonymous wrote:This idea that black women have to date white men or they are racist is horrifying. Nobody is entitled to their bodies like that!

No one has to date anyone, but if you consider any race of people unilaterally unattractive, you are exhibiting racism.

The OP is specifically asking about dating, not considering people attractive. So let's be clear: are you saying that black women who will not date white men are racist?

If you are saying that a black woman must date white men or those women are racist, that is horrific.

By definition, Black people can't be racist.

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Not possible.

Explain this? So a white woman who refuses to date a black man is racist, but a black man who refuses to date a white woman is not. Is that what you're saying?

That is exactly what pp is saying and anyone can be racist. The definition is not specific to any ethnicity.
rac·ism
/ˈrāˌsizəm/
noun
prejudice, discrimination, or antagonism directed against a person or people on the basis of their membership of a particular racial or ethnic group, typically one that is a minority or marginalized.

Whites are not a minority or marganilized. It would atypical for a Black person to be considered racist. Did you even read the definition?

Definition is BS. The whole idea that it has to be a “marginalized” race is a brand new addition by a humanities researcher who just one day decided to change the definition

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The heart wants what it wants?

I’ve never been attracted to anyone with blonde hair or fair features. I’ve only ever been attracted to men with dark hair and dark features.

Some people really do have a type, and that’s okay.

From my perspective, certain religions and races have very strong opinions about dating outside their group. I have more than one Asian friend whose parents boycotted the wedding because they married a different kind of Asian (think: Chinese marrying Vietnamese as but one example).

My white friend married a black man, and some of his relatives openly disapproved of him marrying a white woman.

A Jewish relative recently married a nice Christian guy originally from the Midwest. They had a very small wedding because of the vehement antisemitism prompted by their engagement.

I could go on. It’s certainly not just a white wasp thing.

And, sometimes being clear about who you are and what you want is the right thing to do. I had a Jewish friend who was adamant that they would never allow a Christmas tree in their house. They had a serious relationship end when this fact came out years into the relationship. I gently suggested they should go on JDate and simply tighten up the dating pool moving forward since it’s pretty dumb to spring that on someone as a deal breaker.

Was your Jewish family okay with this relative marrying someone who wasn’t Jewish?

Interestingly, yes. But they’re reform.

I married into the Jewish family; I’m Catholic. My Jewish in-laws definitely weren’t thrilled with their son marrying a catholic, but they came around.

My bottom line is that anyone can be jerky about race and religion. Anyone. I think it’s stupid, and I call it out.

[Anonymous]

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This idea that black women have to date white men or they are racist is horrifying. Nobody is entitled to their bodies like that!



No one has to date anyone, but if you consider any race of people unilaterally unattractive, you are exhibiting racism.



The OP is specifically asking about dating, not considering people attractive. So let's be clear: are you saying that black women who will not date white men are racist?

If you are saying that a black woman must date white men or those women are racist, that is horrific.



By definition, Black people can't be racist.



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Not possible.



Oh but they can be....



DP. Black people are quite racist towards hispanic people. I do not think black people can be racist towards white people because of power imbalance structures though.



Exactly. Societal structures with baked in racism have treated us poorly over the years.

If there is any resentment from that situation, I would not call it “racism”

Please look again at the definition above. It most certainly is racism.

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Anonymous wrote:This idea that black women have to date white men or they are racist is horrifying. Nobody is entitled to their bodies like that!

No one has to date anyone, but if you consider any race of people unilaterally unattractive, you are exhibiting racism.

The OP is specifically asking about dating, not considering people attractive. So let's be clear: are you saying that black women who will not date white men are racist?

If you are saying that a black woman must date white men or those women are racist, that is horrific.

By definition, Black people can't be racist.

+1000

Not possible.

Explain this? So a white woman who refuses to date a black man is racist, but a black man who refuses to date a white woman is not. Is that what you're saying?

That is exactly what pp is saying and anyone can be racist. The definition is not specific to any ethnicity.
rac·ism
/ˈrāˌsizəm/
noun
prejudice, discrimination, or antagonism directed against a person or people on the basis of their membership of a particular racial or ethnic group, typically one that is a minority or marginalized.

Whites are not a minority or marganilized. It would atypical for a Black person to be considered racist. Did you even read the definition?

Definition is BS. The whole idea that it has to be a “marginalized” race is a brand new addition by a humanities researcher who just one day decided to change the definition

We don't use your definition. We use the agreed upon definition. That's how it works.

[Anonymous]

There will be no Equal Opportunity Dating Commission handing out fines for people who aren’t don’t exercise diversity in their personal relationships.

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Anonymous wrote:This idea that black women have to date white men or they are racist is horrifying. Nobody is entitled to their bodies like that!

No one has to date anyone, but if you consider any race of people unilaterally unattractive, you are exhibiting racism.

The OP is specifically asking about dating, not considering people attractive. So let's be clear: are you saying that black women who will not date white men are racist?

If you are saying that a black woman must date white men or those women are racist, that is horrific.

By definition, Black people can't be racist.

+1000

Not possible.

Explain this? So a white woman who refuses to date a black man is racist, but a black man who refuses to date a white woman is not. Is that what you're saying?

That is exactly what pp is saying and anyone can be racist. The definition is not specific to any ethnicity.
rac·ism
/ˈrāˌsizəm/
noun
prejudice, discrimination, or antagonism directed against a person or people on the basis of their membership of a particular racial or ethnic group, typically one that is a minority or marginalized.

Whites are not a minority or marganilized. It would atypical for a Black person to be considered racist. Did you even read the definition?

Definition is BS. The whole idea that it has to be a “marginalized” race is a brand new addition by a humanities researcher who just one day decided to change the definition

We don't use your definition. We use the agreed upon definition. That's how it works.

. Your definition is certainly not “agreed upon”.

[Anonymous]

How about this better definition

https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/racism

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Anonymous wrote:This idea that black women have to date white men or they are racist is horrifying. Nobody is entitled to their bodies like that!

No one has to date anyone, but if you consider any race of people unilaterally unattractive, you are exhibiting racism.

The OP is specifically asking about dating, not considering people attractive. So let's be clear: are you saying that black women who will not date white men are racist?

If you are saying that a black woman must date white men or those women are racist, that is horrific.

By definition, Black people can't be racist.

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Not possible.

Oh but they can be....

DP. Black people are quite racist towards hispanic people. I do not think black people can be racist towards white people because of power imbalance structures though.

Hispanics are considered white. Ergo, Blacks cannot be racist.

Hispanic is not a race. It’s an ethnicity. There are Hispanics of all races.

[Anonymous]

Can’t help how/where you grow up and who you develop attractions for.

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I think yes, and I say this as a person who would never have a child with someone outside my own race.
As for my child, when he grows up, he can do whatever he wants. I won’t love his biracial kids less.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think yes, and I say this as a person who would never have a child with someone outside my own race.
As for my child, when he grows up, he can do whatever he wants. I won’t love his biracial kids less.

So you’re racist?

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Anonymous wrote:I think yes, and I say this as a person who would never have a child with someone outside my own race.
As for my child, when he grows up, he can do whatever he wants. I won’t love his biracial kids less.

So you’re racist?

It’s already been determined all white people are racist. So who cares?

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Anonymous wrote:This idea that black women have to date white men or they are racist is horrifying. Nobody is entitled to their bodies like that!

No one has to date anyone, but if you consider any race of people unilaterally unattractive, you are exhibiting racism.

The OP is specifically asking about dating, not considering people attractive. So let's be clear: are you saying that black women who will not date white men are racist?

If you are saying that a black woman must date white men or those women are racist, that is horrific.

By definition, Black people can't be racist.

+1000

Not possible.

Explain this? So a white woman who refuses to date a black man is racist, but a black man who refuses to date a white woman is not. Is that what you're saying?

That is exactly what pp is saying and anyone can be racist. The definition is not specific to any ethnicity.
rac·ism
/ˈrāˌsizəm/
noun
prejudice, discrimination, or antagonism directed against a person or people on the basis of their membership of a particular racial or ethnic group, typically one that is a minority or marginalized.

Whites are not a minority or marganilized. It would atypical for a Black person to be considered racist. Did you even read the definition?

Definition is BS. The whole idea that it has to be a “marginalized” race is a brand new addition by a humanities researcher who just one day decided to change the definition

No, Merriam-Webster just agreed to update the definition. The revised definition has actually been around since the 70s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m surprised you’re just encountering this phenomenon for the first time

I would think it would be unusual for kids that age.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it’s racism. I also think you are lumping together two very different things. I am white and Jewish, I would have no problem dating Jewish POC, even though they are relatively uncommon. I know I would have bigger issues dating a white Christian. To me a desire to date within your culture or religion is very natural.

If you had children, would you allow them to date a non-religious POC?

Realistically, I can’t “not allow” my children to date someone, no good will come out of it either way. My two oldest are in college, so I know what I am talking about. I can only hope that the way I raised my kids, their Jewishness is a big and significant part of who they are, so when the time comes for them to choose life partners, if they are not Jewish, those people will at least be open to leading a somewhat Jewish life, even if they don’t formally convert.

What makes a ‘Jewish life’ in your opinion? I’m not Jewish and so I’m curious.