How to kindly turn down hocom ask?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"No thanks." She doesn't owe him a reason why. If she wants, she can (quietly, so as not to embarrass him) say "I don't think we like each other in the same way."

But "No" is actually a complete sentence.

No. No is not a complete sentence. It is a simple interjection or declarative. Sentences have both a subject and a predicate. The shortest sentence is English is “I am.” As in, “ I am sorry you are a moron who failed English and still wonder why you were never asked on a date.”

This is terrible writing advice. Some of the best sentences lack subjects and/or verbs.

[Anonymous]

Some people have no class or manners. It’s never appropriate or kind to reply with a “no” to an invitation. I’m pretty sure the parents telling their daughters that that’s appropriate or acceptable are not in high society. You should be kind and gracious and give some kind of an explanation and say you have another date already or something else to smooth the rejection. She doesn’t have to do that but it would be nice and gracious and classy to do that.

[Anonymous]

Persnickety people waste other people's time. Move on to the subject at hand please.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"No thanks." She doesn't owe him a reason why. If she wants, she can (quietly, so as not to embarrass him) say "I don't think we like each other in the same way."

But "No" is actually a complete sentence.

No. No is not a complete sentence. It is a simple interjection or declarative. Sentences have both a subject and a predicate. The shortest sentence is English is “I am.” As in, “ I am sorry you are a moron who failed English and still wonder why you were never asked on a date.”

The following can all be answered with "No."

Is it raining out?
Are you going to the movie tomorrow?
Did you like the movie?
Can you pick up that rock?
WILL YOU GO TO HOMECOMING WITH ME?

DP. You are correct, all of those questions can be answered with "No." That means that "No" is a complete answer. It does not mean that "No" is a complete sentence.

I can’t even imagine declining an invitation - regardless of the occasion or gender - by simply saying “No”. How incredibly rude.

+1

"No thank you, I have other plans" - at the very, very least - and this is if you really, really don't want to talk to the kid ever again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"No thanks." She doesn't owe him a reason why. If she wants, she can (quietly, so as not to embarrass him) say "I don't think we like each other in the same way."

But "No" is actually a complete sentence.

No. No is not a complete sentence. It is a simple interjection or declarative. Sentences have both a subject and a predicate. The shortest sentence is English is “I am.” As in, “ I am sorry you are a moron who failed English and still wonder why you were never asked on a date.”

The following can all be answered with "No."

Is it raining out?
Are you going to the movie tomorrow?
Did you like the movie?
Can you pick up that rock?
WILL YOU GO TO HOMECOMING WITH ME?

DP. You are correct, all of those questions can be answered with "No." That means that "No" is a complete answer. It does not mean that "No" is a complete sentence.

I can’t even imagine declining an invitation - regardless of the occasion or gender - by simply saying “No”. How incredibly rude.

+1

"No thank you, I have other plans" - at the very, very least - and this is if you really, really don't want to talk to the kid ever again.

Totally agree. The parents that are giving their kids this advice are clearly not in certain social circles. It’s sad for the kids because they’re teaching them to be ungracious and society will judge them by their lack of manners in the situations.

[Anonymous]

one should always say no to hokum. No explanation necessary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"No thanks." She doesn't owe him a reason why. If she wants, she can (quietly, so as not to embarrass him) say "I don't think we like each other in the same way."

But "No" is actually a complete sentence.

No. No is not a complete sentence. It is a simple interjection or declarative. Sentences have both a subject and a predicate. The shortest sentence is English is “I am.” As in, “ I am sorry you are a moron who failed English and still wonder why you were never asked on a date.”

The following can all be answered with "No."

Is it raining out?
Are you going to the movie tomorrow?
Did you like the movie?
Can you pick up that rock?
WILL YOU GO TO HOMECOMING WITH ME?

DP. You are correct, all of those questions can be answered with "No." That means that "No" is a complete answer. It does not mean that "No" is a complete sentence.

I can’t even imagine declining an invitation - regardless of the occasion or gender - by simply saying “No”. How incredibly rude.

+1

"No thank you, I have other plans" - at the very, very least - and this is if you really, really don't want to talk to the kid ever again.

Totally agree. The parents that are giving their kids this advice are clearly not in certain social circles. It’s sad for the kids because they’re teaching them to be ungracious and society will judge them by their lack of manners in the situations.

Yup. Just like society judges the moms who overdo it or underdo it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some people have no class or manners. It’s never appropriate or kind to reply with a “no” to an invitation. I’m pretty sure the parents telling their daughters that that’s appropriate or acceptable are not in high society. You should be kind and gracious and give some kind of an explanation and say you have another date already or something else to smooth the rejection. She doesn’t have to do that but it would be nice and gracious and classy to do that.

High Society?!? This is not the antebellum south, lady.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"No thanks." She doesn't owe him a reason why. If she wants, she can (quietly, so as not to embarrass him) say "I don't think we like each other in the same way."

But "No" is actually a complete sentence.

No. No is not a complete sentence. It is a simple interjection or declarative. Sentences have both a subject and a predicate. The shortest sentence is English is “I am.” As in, “ I am sorry you are a moron who failed English and still wonder why you were never asked on a date.”

The following can all be answered with "No."

Is it raining out?
Are you going to the movie tomorrow?
Did you like the movie?
Can you pick up that rock?
WILL YOU GO TO HOMECOMING WITH ME?

DP. You are correct, all of those questions can be answered with "No." That means that "No" is a complete answer. It does not mean that "No" is a complete sentence.

I can’t even imagine declining an invitation - regardless of the occasion or gender - by simply saying “No”. How incredibly rude.

+1

"No thank you, I have other plans" - at the very, very least - and this is if you really, really don't want to talk to the kid ever again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"No thanks." She doesn't owe him a reason why. If she wants, she can (quietly, so as not to embarrass him) say "I don't think we like each other in the same way."

But "No" is actually a complete sentence.

No. No is not a complete sentence. It is a simple interjection or declarative. Sentences have both a subject and a predicate. The shortest sentence is English is “I am.” As in, “ I am sorry you are a moron who failed English and still wonder why you were never asked on a date.”

The following can all be answered with "No."

Is it raining out?
Are you going to the movie tomorrow?
Did you like the movie?
Can you pick up that rock?
WILL YOU GO TO HOMECOMING WITH ME?

DP. You are correct, all of those questions can be answered with "No." That means that "No" is a complete answer. It does not mean that "No" is a complete sentence.

I can’t even imagine declining an invitation - regardless of the occasion or gender - by simply saying “No”. How incredibly rude.

+1

"No thank you, I have other plans" - at the very, very least - and this is if you really, really don't want to talk to the kid ever again.

This isn’t a marriage proposal, the kid went into this with an expectation of the risk of rejection. Obviously she should say, “No, f*ck you, you ugly piece of sh*t”, but a simple, “oh, no, sorry”, “no thanks, thanks though” or something like that suffices. She doesn’t need to write an essay (and he doesn’t want to read an essay, he wants an answer).

[Anonymous]

Soooo...how did the rejection go OP?