Were you spanked as child?

[Anonymous]

I am 36 and was spanked often as a child, with hand or wooden spoon. Definitely crossed the line into abuse occasionally. I think it’s awful and I don’t soank my kids, even when they are really pushing my buttons. I went to therapy and thankfully have evolved past that.

[Anonymous]

59 years old- Spankings during elementary school and then smacked in the face during middle and high school. The feelings I harbored against my mom finally surfaced when I was 45. Haven’t spoken to her in seven years. Prior to this, we had a three year period of not speaking.

[Anonymous]

52. My mom slapped me in the face as old as 16.It made me lose total respect for my parents.

I make a lot of parenting mistakes, but that’s not one of them.

[Anonymous]

44
Spanked as a child. I don't remember ever not being spanked as punishment (meaning it started very young.) I can't remember the last time I as spanked, but it gradually turned into slaps/strangulation instead. When I was 18 and in college my mom literally pushed me onto the couch and knelt on my lap to hold me down as she strangled me as punishment.

[Anonymous]

39 here. I was spanked a few times, almost always the judicious kind, or sometimes just a quick swat or two in the moment. Never, ever over the top or abusive.

I've spanked my three kids.

I'm not certain that spanking continues to decline. I think the opposite might be true. It's still widely supported in surveys, and I think there was a Washington Post article not too long ago that revealed Millennial parents were more supportive of spanking than was the prior generation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:41 years old. Spanked with bare hands by my dad and the wooden spoon/slipper /face slap by my mom. The last time my dad spanked me, I was 6 or 7 and it caused an injury that required medical attention (I don't want to get too specific, but think along the lines of broken teeth). I remember my parents being on edge about it, because obviously everyone, including the medical professionals, wanted to know how it happened. Both of them told everyone I was horsing around with my brother and fell down. I think they repeated this so often that they started believing it, although my brother and I both remember the incident. Somehow the injury came up in conversation a few years ago in front of other family members and I said what really happened and my mom was horrified. I will say I was a difficult child and can see why my parents lost their tempers with me. We have a good relationship now although they're in denial about a lot of stuff that happened early on.

8:53 here and I have a similar story, only I was 13. Dad slapped me so hard my front left tooth broke in half. It had a cap for a while but as an adult I had to have it replaced with a fake tooth. It's pretty obvious when i smile too, since it's right in front.
And same with my parents being nervous about the medical/dental treatment and telling me to say that I got in a fight with my brother. They were afraid of being reported to CPS.

[Anonymous]

39, white/Jewish. I remember getting spanked a few times, and there was always the threat. It was humiliating but not painful; it was done to make a point. But a couple of times my mom lost her temper and slapped me across the face, when I was older, probably around 12 or 13 and mouthing off. She always had a hair-trigger temper (still does though she hasn't expressed it physically for years) and was super stressed when my sister and I were little, as my dad worked all the time and she did virtually everything while also working full time. I was furious about the face-slapping and while it didn't affect our relationship, I've never forgotten it and every time I come close to really losing my temper with my kids I think of that.

Does anyone else remember birthday "spankings?" Hated those. Pretend spanking for birthdays. I don't know what the hell that was about. DH remembers that too. When our first kid turned one we looked at each other and said "no birthday spanking ever!" -- and we'd never even talked about it before.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:41 years old. Spanked with bare hands by my dad and the wooden spoon/slipper /face slap by my mom. The last time my dad spanked me, I was 6 or 7 and it caused an injury that required medical attention (I don't want to get too specific, but think along the lines of broken teeth). I remember my parents being on edge about it, because obviously everyone, including the medical professionals, wanted to know how it happened. Both of them told everyone I was horsing around with my brother and fell down. I think they repeated this so often that they started believing it, although my brother and I both remember the incident. Somehow the injury came up in conversation a few years ago in front of other family members and I said what really happened and my mom was horrified. I will say I was a difficult child and can see why my parents lost their tempers with me. We have a good relationship now although they're in denial about a lot of stuff that happened early on.

8:53 here and I have a similar story, only I was 13. Dad slapped me so hard my front left tooth broke in half. It had a cap for a while but as an adult I had to have it replaced with a fake tooth. It's pretty obvious when i smile too, since it's right in front. And same with my parents being nervous about the medical/dental treatment and telling me to say that I got in a fight with my brother. They were afraid of being reported to CPS.

Are you male or female? Disgraceful either way, but it's hard to imagine a dad knocking a daughter's tooth out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:41 years old. Spanked with bare hands by my dad and the wooden spoon/slipper /face slap by my mom. The last time my dad spanked me, I was 6 or 7 and it caused an injury that required medical attention (I don't want to get too specific, but think along the lines of broken teeth). I remember my parents being on edge about it, because obviously everyone, including the medical professionals, wanted to know how it happened. Both of them told everyone I was horsing around with my brother and fell down. I think they repeated this so often that they started believing it, although my brother and I both remember the incident. Somehow the injury came up in conversation a few years ago in front of other family members and I said what really happened and my mom was horrified. I will say I was a difficult child and can see why my parents lost their tempers with me. We have a good relationship now although they're in denial about a lot of stuff that happened early on.

8:53 here and I have a similar story, only I was 13. Dad slapped me so hard my front left tooth broke in half. It had a cap for a while but as an adult I had to have it replaced with a fake tooth. It's pretty obvious when i smile too, since it's right in front. And same with my parents being nervous about the medical/dental treatment and telling me to say that I got in a fight with my brother. They were afraid of being reported to CPS.

Are you male or female? Disgraceful either way, but it's hard to imagine a dad knocking a daughter's tooth out.

Female. They (my parents) said it was justified because I was talking back. They said they spoke to a counselor about it and told them what happened (specifically how I talked back) and the counselor told them that she would have smacked me too, if I talked back to her like that.

[Anonymous]

Yes, but for doing things I shouldnt have been doing like: playing with matches.

[Anonymous]

40. Yes, a handful of times. Both my parents had it worse. Spanked with boards, belts, etc. Even slapped on the face.

[Anonymous]

I was spanked until I turned eighteen.

By a hard stick.

I am fifty.
I hated being spanked, but it is at the bottom of the list on things that I hold against my parents.

[Anonymous]

Some of these descriptions go way beyond normal spanking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some of these descriptions go way beyond normal spanking.

I don't think spanking is normal, so I have no idea what this means.

[Anonymous]

43. Spanked, beaten, beaten with spatulas and spoons and belts, once so hard it broke. scratched, heavy things thrown at me, soap, hot pepper jammed into my mouth. Pinched on face