What's the biggest secret you're keeping from your SO?

[Anonymous]

Husband does not know I was a stripper in College.

[Anonymous]

I don't like kissing him. I love him as a friend and partner, but would be happy never having sex with him again. I am madly in love with another man but won't leave because I want to raise our kids with him.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:That he is terrible in bed and has a small penis. I say this in all honesty as someone who loves him dearly.

I think I'm married to your husband.

Why do you gals marry this??

The guys are fine in bed early. But the fickle women get bored or their hormones change. But rather than blame themselves, they rewrite history & forget that they used to like having sex with him.

Can confirm!

Nope. We had a good sex life early on b/c I had to put a lot into it, a lot of time and effort, for us both to get off. Now, 20 years in, post kids, with work, etc., I don't feel like doing so. When you're early into marriage and young, no one thinks you'll be in that position ("Of course I'll always want marathon sex sessions with my DH.") But the reality doesn't always live up to that. I've tried to explain to him that I don't always want oils, candles, massages, etc., let's just make it fast and fun int he shower or whatever, but he can't or won't.

I find it rather disconcerting those of you that feel the need to automatically turn it on the women. It's a load of BS. Yeah, sometimes the men are at fault.

[Anonymous]

My secret is that I don't know which person in the picture he has in a place of honor on the mantel is his father and which is his uncle. (They're both dead.) We've been married for 13 years and it's way too late to ask. I parse every family photo for clues but so far it's been fruitless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Marriage sounds awesome. Where do I sign up?

This kind of thread attracts the miserable. Plenty of us happily marrieds around.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:That I lost my virginity to my older sister's husband's twin brother fifteen years ago.

I cannot tell him because Thanksgiving + Christmas would be SO awkward and he doesn't have a clue.

He deserves to know, to me that's grounds for divorce.

Uh, why on earth? It wasn't cheating or incest.

If I was spending holidays sitting next to someone who banged my spouse, I would want to be aware. I feels it's sneaky that several ( two at least, probably more) people know a secret that is being kept from the DH.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Marriage sounds awesome. Where do I sign up?

This kind of thread attracts the miserable. Plenty of us happily marrieds around.

Haha, yea. I mean, my only secret is earwax picking, otherwise we're good!

[Anonymous]

DH had what I think was an EA (but who knows) last year that ended, and we had a big fight about it months later, after he had a huge tantrum about me acting distant. He swore up and down that nothing happened (not even an EA), and I threw some evidence in his face, but held back two crucial items for when I divorce him over this later. He thinks I believe him.

I have credit card debt, which he knows I have but doesn't know the amount. I told him years ago I'd pay it off, but haven't. Once I pay it off and have some personal money saved, I'm divorcing him. Yes I know he'd be responsible for half if we divorced now, but I don't want him to use it in his post-divorce smear campaign against me which will of course happen because he can't be in the wrong ever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The biggest secret I'm keeping from my spouse is that I paid actual money for boosters in Candy Crush.

*hangs head in shame*

Haha! I was going to say my biggest secret from my husband is what I bought him for his birthday, which is in a couple weeks, but now that I read this, I HAVE paid money for boosters on another similar game and I do not (and will not) tell my husband that!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That he is terrible in bed and has a small penis. I say this in all honesty as someone who loves him dearly.

I think I'm married to your husband.

Why do you gals marry this??

The guys are fine in bed early. But the fickle women get bored or their hormones change. But rather than blame themselves, they rewrite history & forget that they used to like having sex with him.

Can confirm!

Nope. We had a good sex life early on b/c I had to put a lot into it, a lot of time and effort, for us both to get off. Now, 20 years in, post kids, with work, etc., I don't feel like doing so. When you're early into marriage and young, no one thinks you'll be in that position ("Of course I'll always want marathon sex sessions with my DH.") But the reality doesn't always live up to that. I've tried to explain to him that I don't always want oils, candles, massages, etc., let's just make it fast and fun int he shower or whatever, but he can't or won't.

I find it rather disconcerting those of you that feel the need to automatically turn it on the women. It's a load of BS. Yeah, sometimes the men are at fault.

I find it disconcerting that every DCUM thread in which a woman expresses sexual dissatisfaction, the responses automatically assume it's the man's fault (he's gay! he's asexual! he's cheating!). It's a load of BS. Yeah, sometimes the women are at fault.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't like kissing him. I love him as a friend and partner, but would be happy never having sex with him again. I am madly in love with another man but won't leave because I want to raise our kids with him.

I'm guessing he doesn't know this. Probably he's noticed the kissing and the sex are no good, if those are even happening. If you don't fix your marriage, and disengage from this other man, you are going to wind up divorced and you won't be raising kids with your current DH. You know that, right?

[Anonymous]

I fake 98% of orgasms.

[Anonymous]

I'm a higher drive DW and have gone down to having sex 1x/week with him. Although I would enjoy more, I am pregnant and my libido is a bit lower right now and I am hoping that rejecting some of his advances turns him into a higher drive spouse. Seems to be working...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That I lost my virginity to my older sister's husband's twin brother fifteen years ago.

I cannot tell him because Thanksgiving + Christmas would be SO awkward and he doesn't have a clue.

He deserves to know, to me that's grounds for divorce.

Uh, why on earth? It wasn't cheating or incest.

If I was spending holidays sitting next to someone who banged my spouse, I would want to be aware. I feels it's sneaky that several ( two at least, probably more) people know a secret that is being kept from the DH.

NP. What is the point of him knowing? So it can make thinks awkward? I suspect my DH has banged a college friend or two that is still sort of around his friend group. I don't need to know.

[Anonymous]

I know I am completely incapable of supporting myself, so I tell my DH I love him and I have sex with him whenever he wants even though I despise him. It's better than being poor.