What's the biggest secret you're keeping from your SO?

[Anonymous]

The existence of my AP. The fact that I am definitely bisexual.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Husband does not know I was a stripper in College.

NICE! You got any photos, hun?

[Anonymous]

My DH can't provide me with enough spending money (he's an engineer who makes $90 an hour) so I sell myself to rich businessmen for $300 an hour to make a little spare cash.

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Anonymous wrote:My DH can't provide me with enough spending money (he's an engineer who makes $90 an hour) so I sell myself to rich businessmen for $300 an hour to make a little spare cash.

How the hell do you manage this while not drawing your DH's attention? How do you make time for this?

[Anonymous]

I have to think of some seriously Messed Up Sh/t to orgasm during sex with him.

[Anonymous]

I am not attracted to him at all

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Anonymous wrote:The only thing that keeps me from leaving during the arguments is that I am counting on a large inheritance from his father.

Your SO's secret: he already had his dad cut you out of the will.

Isn't it true that as long as inheritance funds aren't co-mingled during a marriage they remain the legal property of the heir in a divorce?

If Dad was smart he put everything in a trust. No DW or exDW can break into a trust.

I was lucky--the divorce was final before Dad died. Dad had investments and insurance which were about five times what I thought he had. A pleasant surprise after all the pain....

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Anonymous wrote:My DH can't provide me with enough spending money (he's an engineer who makes $90 an hour) so I sell myself to rich businessmen for $300 an hour to make a little spare cash.

How the hell do you manage this while not drawing your DH's attention? How do you make time for this?

He works all day and I just bum around shopping and meeting people. Sometimes when he comes home I let him take me without even cleaning up after one of my trysts.

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Anonymous wrote:My DH can't provide me with enough spending money (he's an engineer who makes $90 an hour) so I sell myself to rich businessmen for $300 an hour to make a little spare cash.

How the hell do you manage this while not drawing your DH's attention? How do you make time for this?

He works all day and I just bum around shopping and meeting people. Sometimes when he comes home I let him take me without even cleaning up after one of my trysts.

Girl

[Anonymous]

While DW and i were dating (seriously) had a couple flings. In fact had a wild evening with a FWB the day before I proposed to my wife.

Since then nearly 20 years, only one AP, when we were going through a rough patch.

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That I know he's using a keystroke logger on our system. I also know I have nothing to hide so he can have at it.

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Anonymous wrote:That I lost my virginity to my older sister's husband's twin brother fifteen years ago.

I cannot tell him because Thanksgiving + Christmas would be SO awkward and he doesn't have a clue.

He deserves to know, to me that's grounds for divorce.

Uh, why on earth? It wasn't cheating or incest.

If I was spending holidays sitting next to someone who banged my spouse, I would want to be aware. I feels it's sneaky that several ( two at least, probably more) people know a secret that is being kept from the DH.

NP. What is the point of him knowing? So it can make thinks awkward? I suspect my DH has banged a college friend or two that is still sort of around his friend group. I don't need to know.

That is so not worth knowing or sharing. That said, my DH kept some of his sex partners from me, but eventually the information came out. We continue to see them. I was annoyed that he didn't tell me earlier, and that he felt he had to hide it, but in no way do I actually care that he had sex with the people.

[Anonymous]

I was recently prescribed Adderall. I don't tell him because he'll constantly ask me for some.

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Nothing

[Anonymous]

I was a stripper to pay for the engagement ring.