What's the biggest secret you're keeping from your SO?

[Anonymous]

I'm 31 and may have breast cancer. Waiting until I get all tests and doctor appointments done with until I say anything

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Anonymous wrote:That yesterday was my birthday. He said on Sunday (a mere two days earlier) to the kids "Guess what, your mom's birthday is on Tuesday!" and they asked him what was planned and he said "Maybe you can help me plan something special" he and they seem to have forgotten to even wish me a nice day. I was sure, when DH called to say he was running late and wouldn't make it for dinner that he was bringing something nice home, like cupcake for the kids, but...nope, he was at the gym, the grocery store, etc. I'm a little miffed, but more so because he seems to have stopped noticing me lately in general. Like, I get my hair cut and colored every 3/4 months and he never says anything (even though he gets huffy if I dont notice his hair cuts, which are every 3 weeks); I lost 10+ lbs recently and back into a size 4 and he never said anything. I will tell him something and he swears I havent. I kind of feel invisible these days, except when I am doing something he thinks I shouldn't, like pour the milk in my son's cereal bowl before he is downstairs because it will get soggy.

Forget him & put you first.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 31 and may have breast cancer. Waiting until I get all tests and doctor appointments done with until I say anything

Aren't you worried? Wouldn't it be nice to talk with him about it?

[Anonymous]

I'm pregnant! I'm thrilled, but for some reason I just haven't come out with it. 9 weeks...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 31 and may have breast cancer. Waiting until I get all tests and doctor appointments done with until I say anything

Hope it comes out negative xx

[Anonymous]

I hid cancer from my DH too. He was due to take the bar in February and I was diagnosed in Nov. He was working full time and JUST accepted the job within his company he needs his JD for. He was graduating in Dec so had finals thats next week and was going to take the bar 8 weeks after graduation. He was literally almost killing himself. He was working his office job for 9 hours, went to class 3 hours a night 3x a week and then would study until midnight or 1 am. Every night. I couldnt tell him. I did just up and quit my job though. It didnt look suspicious because he had just accepted his new position and the kids were little and staying at home was always talked about. I got through thanksgiving, graduation, christmas, and then had surgery and chemo in January. My best friend "took me away" on a girls trip one weekend for the surgery. The chemo was managable and only 3 times a week during the day. As soon as he walked out of that hotel where he took the bar I met him in the hotel lobby and told him. My hair was starting to fall out in clumps. I pray for you PP. I pray for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hid cancer from my DH too. He was due to take the bar in February and I was diagnosed in Nov. He was working full time and JUST accepted the job within his company he needs his JD for. He was graduating in Dec so had finals thats next week and was going to take the bar 8 weeks after graduation. He was literally almost killing himself. He was working his office job for 9 hours, went to class 3 hours a night 3x a week and then would study until midnight or 1 am. Every night. I couldnt tell him. I did just up and quit my job though. It didnt look suspicious because he had just accepted his new position and the kids were little and staying at home was always talked about. I got through thanksgiving, graduation, christmas, and then had surgery and chemo in January. My best friend "took me away" on a girls trip one weekend for the surgery. The chemo was managable and only 3 times a week during the day. As soon as he walked out of that hotel where he took the bar I met him in the hotel lobby and told him. My hair was starting to fall out in clumps. I pray for you PP. I pray for you.

That's love. Very selfless and courageous. Wish you all the best.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hid cancer from my DH too. He was due to take the bar in February and I was diagnosed in Nov. He was working full time and JUST accepted the job within his company he needs his JD for. He was graduating in Dec so had finals thats next week and was going to take the bar 8 weeks after graduation. He was literally almost killing himself. He was working his office job for 9 hours, went to class 3 hours a night 3x a week and then would study until midnight or 1 am. Every night. I couldnt tell him. I did just up and quit my job though. It didnt look suspicious because he had just accepted his new position and the kids were little and staying at home was always talked about. I got through thanksgiving, graduation, christmas, and then had surgery and chemo in January. My best friend "took me away" on a girls trip one weekend for the surgery. The chemo was managable and only 3 times a week during the day. As soon as he walked out of that hotel where he took the bar I met him in the hotel lobby and told him. My hair was starting to fall out in clumps. I pray for you PP. I pray for you.

I'm surprised he didn't notice. How is your treatment going?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm pregnant! I'm thrilled, but for some reason I just haven't come out with it. 9 weeks...

My DH would notice if I was 9 weeks pregnant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hid cancer from my DH too. He was due to take the bar in February and I was diagnosed in Nov. He was working full time and JUST accepted the job within his company he needs his JD for. He was graduating in Dec so had finals thats next week and was going to take the bar 8 weeks after graduation. He was literally almost killing himself. He was working his office job for 9 hours, went to class 3 hours a night 3x a week and then would study until midnight or 1 am. Every night. I couldnt tell him. I did just up and quit my job though. It didnt look suspicious because he had just accepted his new position and the kids were little and staying at home was always talked about. I got through thanksgiving, graduation, christmas, and then had surgery and chemo in January. My best friend "took me away" on a girls trip one weekend for the surgery. The chemo was managable and only 3 times a week during the day. As soon as he walked out of that hotel where he took the bar I met him in the hotel lobby and told him. My hair was starting to fall out in clumps. I pray for you PP. I pray for you.

I'm surprised he didn't notice. How is your treatment going?

By that next thanksgiving I was in remission! Looking forward to my 5 years soon. Im sure under any other circumstances he would have noticed but it was a short, crazy, very tough, stage of life! Luckily kids were all under 4 and dont remember much!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hid cancer from my DH too. He was due to take the bar in February and I was diagnosed in Nov. He was working full time and JUST accepted the job within his company he needs his JD for. He was graduating in Dec so had finals thats next week and was going to take the bar 8 weeks after graduation. He was literally almost killing himself. He was working his office job for 9 hours, went to class 3 hours a night 3x a week and then would study until midnight or 1 am. Every night. I couldnt tell him. I did just up and quit my job though. It didnt look suspicious because he had just accepted his new position and the kids were little and staying at home was always talked about. I got through thanksgiving, graduation, christmas, and then had surgery and chemo in January. My best friend "took me away" on a girls trip one weekend for the surgery. The chemo was managable and only 3 times a week during the day. As soon as he walked out of that hotel where he took the bar I met him in the hotel lobby and told him. My hair was starting to fall out in clumps. I pray for you PP. I pray for you.

I'm surprised he didn't notice. How is your treatment going?

By that next thanksgiving I was in remission! Looking forward to my 5 years soon. Im sure under any other circumstances he would have noticed but it was a short, crazy, very tough, stage of life! Luckily kids were all under 4 and dont remember much!

So Glad to hear that!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm pregnant! I'm thrilled, but for some reason I just haven't come out with it. 9 weeks...

What! Why aren't you telling him? Will he be happy? Is it your first?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm pregnant! I'm thrilled, but for some reason I just haven't come out with it. 9 weeks...

What! Why aren't you telling him? Will he be happy? Is it your first?

Is it not his?

[Anonymous]

My law school roommate was a cam girl. They aren't into it, it's all fake and they are ruthlessly mocking you afterwards.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I hid cancer from my DH too. He was due to take the bar in February and I was diagnosed in Nov. He was working full time and JUST accepted the job within his company he needs his JD for. He was graduating in Dec so had finals thats next week and was going to take the bar 8 weeks after graduation. He was literally almost killing himself. He was working his office job for 9 hours, went to class 3 hours a night 3x a week and then would study until midnight or 1 am. Every night. I couldnt tell him. I did just up and quit my job though. It didnt look suspicious because he had just accepted his new position and the kids were little and staying at home was always talked about. I got through thanksgiving, graduation, christmas, and then had surgery and chemo in January. My best friend "took me away" on a girls trip one weekend for the surgery. The chemo was managable and only 3 times a week during the day. As soon as he walked out of that hotel where he took the bar I met him in the hotel lobby and told him. My hair was starting to fall out in clumps. I pray for you PP. I pray for you.

I'm surprised he didn't notice. How is your treatment going?

By that next thanksgiving I was in remission! Looking forward to my 5 years soon. Im sure under any other circumstances he would have noticed but it was a short, crazy, very tough, stage of life! Luckily kids were all under 4 and dont remember much!

So Glad to hear that!

I'm glad to hear that, too. Here's to a clean bill! Hugs!