How bad is it to sleep with a married man?

[Anonymous]

Years ago a single friend of mine told me that when was on business trips he would pretend he was married because he had a better chance of scoring as a married guy. He said many of the women just wanted sex and that a single guy might want more than that. I thought it was pretty bizarre but maybe he was very insightful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In theory, you are not doing anything wrong since you (supposedly) do not know his wife so therefore you owe her nothing....Good or bad.

He, on the other hand is betraying + lying to his wife and deceiving her and the family.

Which makes him so despicable that I wouldn't want to have anything to do w/such riff raff.

So if you steal from someone you don't know that is ok? Who raised you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's perfectly fine and almost unavoidable at certain times of your life as long as you maintain the right outlook. A married man is just something to tide you over when you need sex and some companionship, like the last slice of bread and drying leaf of lettuce in your fridge - enough to kill hunger but not really a meal. It can never be a real relationship but can scratch an itch if nothing else is available for a time. Just don't be silly and get feelings involved.

This is just as bizarre as the white supremists in Charlottesville.

Aaah, NO!

Yes. Hurting others is hurting others.

Wearing a hood and marching is the same to me as sleeping with a married man/woman.

Then know this: you are batshit crazy. Someone died yesterday. Several people are in hospitals in critical condition. It is not slightly analogous and you should really re-examine your values. I find your post offensive.

[Anonymous]

If you are asking, you already know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Get a FWB! I'm sure if you put a profile on Tinder you can find one.

And then seek therapy. You probably had some trauma in your life if you feel like you don't want a relationship. Heal yourself.

I agree she should not sleep with a married man. I don't agree that she had trauma if she feels like she doesn't want a relationship. I've been divorced fairly amicably for 5 years, and don't feel like I want another relationship. I'm incredibly busy with work, my kids, and my extended family (who live nearby). Plus a lot of my free time is spent volunteering for an organization that I care about, and playing a sport that I've been into for years. No trauma, but just don't want a romantic relationship right now. Too much going on, and don't feel I can fit it in, or want to.

Fair point of course! No one needs a relationship...we are whole, complete people just as we are. We can live full lives without romantic love.

I just got a very despairing undertone from OP. Like she doesn't think she's worthy of finding love. I could be wrong of course.

[Anonymous]

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Get a FWB! I'm sure if you put a profile on Tinder you can find one.

And then seek therapy. You probably had some trauma in your life if you feel like you don't want a relationship. Heal yourself.

I agree she should not sleep with a married man. I don't agree that she had trauma if she feels like she doesn't want a relationship. I've been divorced fairly amicably for 5 years, and don't feel like I want another relationship. I'm incredibly busy with work, my kids, and my extended family (who live nearby). Plus a lot of my free time is spent volunteering for an organization that I care about, and playing a sport that I've been into for years. No trauma, but just don't want a romantic relationship right now. Too much going on, and don't feel I can fit it in, or want to.

Fair point of course! No one needs a relationship...we are whole, complete people just as we are. We can live full lives without romantic love.

I think the op and women like her have some sort of trauma. If you don't want a relationship and just want sex that is fine and dandy. However when you seek out married people this is a clear demonstration that you have problems. What emotionally mature and rational human being would find fulfilment in being a wh@re. The man leaves you to go home to his wife and children. I am sure he professes love for the wife and spends holidays and vacations with her. The ow is left alone. What self respecting woman without issues would settle for this. There are plenty of single guys out there who would enjoy hookups with no attachment.

I just got a very despairing undertone from OP. Like she doesn't think she's worthy of finding love. I could be wrong of course.

Yes. This is proof she has problems and finds some sick satisfaction in stealing a man away from his family.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's perfectly fine and almost unavoidable at certain times of your life as long as you maintain the right outlook. A married man is just something to tide you over when you need sex and some companionship, like the last slice of bread and drying leaf of lettuce in your fridge - enough to kill hunger but not really a meal. It can never be a real relationship but can scratch an itch if nothing else is available for a time. Just don't be silly and get feelings involved.

This is just as bizarre as the white supremists in Charlottesville.

Aaah, NO!

Yes. Hurting others is hurting others.

Wearing a hood and marching is the same to me as sleeping with a married man/woman.

Then know this: you are batshit crazy. Someone died yesterday. Several people are in hospitals in critical condition. It is not slightly analogous and you should really re-examine your values. I find your post offensive.

Know this: you are batshit crazy. Kids are hurt and end up depressed, addicted to drugs and killing themselves. It is analogous and you should reexamine your values. I find you repulsive.

Oh, wait you don't know the kids so who cares. Guess what, the driver of the car didn't know the 32 yo woman he killed, he made no vow to her he had no obligation to her or her family.

Dumb ass.

[Anonymous]

If you're comfortable knowing you potentially destroyed in part, another person(s) life then have at it. People's threshold for justifying piss poor behaviors varies greatly. I for one, could never allow my happiness to come at the expense of another's suffering. Also, if it does become more than just sex, from where it started where can it possibly go? Trust will always be an issue.

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Anonymous wrote:It's perfectly fine and almost unavoidable at certain times of your life as long as you maintain the right outlook. A married man is just something to tide you over when you need sex and some companionship, like the last slice of bread and drying leaf of lettuce in your fridge - enough to kill hunger but not really a meal. It can never be a real relationship but can scratch an itch if nothing else is available for a time. Just don't be silly and get feelings involved.

This is just as bizarre as the white supremists in Charlottesville.

Aaah, NO!

Yes. Hurting others is hurting others.

Wearing a hood and marching is the same to me as sleeping with a married man/woman.

Then know this: you are batshit crazy. Someone died yesterday. Several people are in hospitals in critical condition. It is not slightly analogous and you should really re-examine your values. I find your post offensive.

Know this: you are batshit crazy. Kids are hurt and end up depressed, addicted to drugs and killing themselves. It is analogous and you should reexamine your values. I find you repulsive.

Oh, wait you don't know the kids so who cares. Guess what, the driver of the car didn't know the 32 yo woman he killed, he made no vow to her he had no obligation to her or her family.

Dumb ass.

Infantilewhitesupremistsayswhat?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get a FWB! I'm sure if you put a profile on Tinder you can find one.

And then seek therapy. You probably had some trauma in your life if you feel like you don't want a relationship. Heal yourself.

Good luck.

A lot of guys on Tinder are married. Sad, but true.

[Anonymous]

Sex with a married man is just that, sex. Nothing more. As far as breaking up a family is concerned, it was already broken when he decided to cheat on HIS wife.

If your husband is in the basement every night on the computer, something is up. Check his downloaded apps, any chat apps like kik, wechat, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sex with a married man is just that, sex. Nothing more. As far as breaking up a family is concerned, it was already broken when he decided to cheat on HIS wife.

If your husband is in the basement every night on the computer, something is up. Check his downloaded apps, any chat apps like kik, wechat, etc.

Agreed, something was wrong with the relationship. Blaming it all on the other woman is just taking the easy way out