How bad is it to sleep with a married man?

[Anonymous]

It's perfectly fine and almost unavoidable at certain times of your life as long as you maintain the right outlook. A married man is just something to tide you over when you need sex and some companionship, like the last slice of bread and drying leaf of lettuce in your fridge - enough to kill hunger but not really a meal. It can never be a real relationship but can scratch an itch if nothing else is available for a time. Just don't be silly and get feelings involved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm not going to do it. I'm just so horny with no prospects in sight.

Try adult friend finder, co?

I slept with a married man for years. They had no children when it started, and then they had a child. He eventually left her for me. We are in love, and care deeply for eachother. I am pregnant with our first child together.
I would never do it again, or recommend it to someone else. It's a waste of time. I hate the way our relationship started. I've met his family, they seem to really like me. It all starts off innocently until feelings get involved.
Just my 2 cents

Are you kidding?

It isn't starting off innocently? It starts with you sleeping with a married man. Maybe someone can say it is a justifiable wrong (not that I agree), but in no way is it innocent.

Moreover, I presume he was once in love with and cared deeply about his first wife or he wouldn't have married her to begin with. He's already left a woman that he was in love with, cared deeply about, and had a child with. Whatever makes you think he won't do the same to you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's perfectly fine and almost unavoidable at certain times of your life as long as you maintain the right outlook. A married man is just something to tide you over when you need sex and some companionship, like the last slice of bread and drying leaf of lettuce in your fridge - enough to kill hunger but not really a meal. It can never be a real relationship but can scratch an itch if nothing else is available for a time. Just don't be silly and get feelings involved.

This is just as bizarre as the white supremists in Charlottesville.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No kids. I'm looking for discreet sex, no relationship.

Cheating is wrong and extremely damaging to families. Don't contribute to someone cheating on their spouse.

[Anonymous]

I sleep with married man every night. Seems to work out OK. I sleep with another married man about 1-2x per month. That works out OK, to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's bad but it's within the range of mistakes most people make. He is a big boy, go for it.

Just know that he is never leaving his wife for you. Never.

Op here. I don't want him to! Part of why I'm tempted to go down this route is because I don't even want the possibility of a relationship.

Then why not just have sex with me?

[Lucky20]

Anonymous wrote:For me it sucked, but after I divorced him I had some great sex!

Why was the sex better after divorce?

[Anonymous]

Get a FWB! I'm sure if you put a profile on Tinder you can find one.

And then seek therapy. You probably had some trauma in your life if you feel like you don't want a relationship. Heal yourself.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm not going to do it. I'm just so horny with no prospects in sight.

Try adult friend finder, co?

I slept with a married man for years. They had no children when it started, and then they had a child. He eventually left her for me. We are in love, and care deeply for eachother. I am pregnant with our first child together.
I would never do it again, or recommend it to someone else. It's a waste of time. I hate the way our relationship started. I've met his family, they seem to really like me. It all starts off innocently until feelings get involved.
Just my 2 cents

Are you kidding?

It isn't starting off innocently? It starts with you sleeping with a married man. Maybe someone can say it is a justifiable wrong (not that I agree), but in no way is it innocent.

Moreover, I presume he was once in love with and cared deeply about his first wife or he wouldn't have married her to begin with. He's already left a woman that he was in love with, cared deeply about, and had a child with. Whatever makes you think he won't do the same to you?

Quite frankly I feel like a lot of men get married because they're goaded into buying a ring and having a fancy wedding because the woman wants to start popping out kids. It's just the next logical step and it seems easier than leaving. I can think of a lot of couples where I certainly wouldn't classify it as "getting married because they're deeply in love." (Not PP by the way.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's perfectly fine and almost unavoidable at certain times of your life as long as you maintain the right outlook. A married man is just something to tide you over when you need sex and some companionship, like the last slice of bread and drying leaf of lettuce in your fridge - enough to kill hunger but not really a meal. It can never be a real relationship but can scratch an itch if nothing else is available for a time. Just don't be silly and get feelings involved.

Perfectly fine as long as you are amoral and devoid of feelings

[Anonymous]

Get a FWB! I'm sure if you put a profile on Tinder you can find one.

And then seek therapy. You probably had some trauma in your life if you feel like you don't want a relationship. Heal yourself.

I agree she should not sleep with a married man. I don't agree that she had trauma if she feels like she doesn't want a relationship. I've been divorced fairly amicably for 5 years, and don't feel like I want another relationship. I'm incredibly busy with work, my kids, and my extended family (who live nearby). Plus a lot of my free time is spent volunteering for an organization that I care about, and playing a sport that I've been into for years. No trauma, but just don't want a romantic relationship right now. Too much going on, and don't feel I can fit it in, or want to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's perfectly fine and almost unavoidable at certain times of your life as long as you maintain the right outlook. A married man is just something to tide you over when you need sex and some companionship, like the last slice of bread and drying leaf of lettuce in your fridge - enough to kill hunger but not really a meal. It can never be a real relationship but can scratch an itch if nothing else is available for a time. Just don't be silly and get feelings involved.

This is just as bizarre as the white supremists in Charlottesville.

Aaah, NO!

[Anonymous]

It can be very good if you pick the right married man

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's perfectly fine and almost unavoidable at certain times of your life as long as you maintain the right outlook. A married man is just something to tide you over when you need sex and some companionship, like the last slice of bread and drying leaf of lettuce in your fridge - enough to kill hunger but not really a meal. It can never be a real relationship but can scratch an itch if nothing else is available for a time. Just don't be silly and get feelings involved.

This is just as bizarre as the white supremists in Charlottesville.

Aaah, NO!

Yes. Hurting others is hurting others.

Wearing a hood and marching is the same to me as sleeping with a married man/woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No kids. I'm looking for discreet sex, no relationship.

Cheating is wrong and extremely damaging to families. Don't contribute to someone cheating on their spouse.

^ this. While the husband /wife get past it (usually), it can have very long-lasting effects on children. Not only on the relationships with their parents but on how they see relationships altogether.