S/O people who think tattoos are trashy (or not)

[Anonymous]

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Except tats prove the psychological need, not the actual edginess. Check out all the posts talking about poseurs. The biker or rock band is edgy, the office worker with a tat...not so much.

A tattoo proves that at some point in your life, for some reason, you decided to get a tattoo, and then did get one.

WHY did you decide? That’s what we’re talking about here.

Different people have different reasons. To know what a particular person's reason was, you'd have to ask that person.

But when that’s not possible or tactful, people make assumptions. You see that all over this thread.

That's why you should not make any assumptions quickly ever.

[Anonymous]

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Except tats prove the psychological need, not the actual edginess. Check out all the posts talking about poseurs. The biker or rock band is edgy, the office worker with a tat...not so much.

A tattoo proves that at some point in your life, for some reason, you decided to get a tattoo, and then did get one.

WHY did you decide? That’s what we’re talking about here.

Different people have different reasons. To know what a particular person's reason was, you'd have to ask that person.

But when that’s not possible or tactful, people make assumptions. You see that all over this thread.

If it's not possible or tactful to ask, then you tell yourself, "I don't know what that person's reason was."

Obviously people do make assumptions. People do all kinds of things. That doesn't mean you have to.

[Anonymous]

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Except tats prove the psychological need, not the actual edginess. Check out all the posts talking about poseurs. The biker or rock band is edgy, the office worker with a tat...not so much.

A tattoo proves that at some point in your life, for some reason, you decided to get a tattoo, and then did get one.

WHY did you decide? That’s what we’re talking about here.

Different people have different reasons. To know what a particular person's reason was, you'd have to ask that person.

But when that’s not possible or tactful, people make assumptions. You see that all over this thread.

If it's not possible or tactful to ask, then you tell yourself, "I don't know what that person's reason was."

Obviously people do make assumptions. People do all kinds of things. That doesn't mean you have to.

Sure, nobody has to, or even should. But many people do. That’s why people here are saying it shows lack of judgement. People are going to assume you’re needy and insecure, even if you’re a former pirate.

[Anonymous]

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Sure, nobody has to, or even should. But many people do. That’s why people here are saying it shows lack of judgement. People are going to assume you’re needy and insecure, even if you’re a former pirate.

I just can't live my life according to what people might assume about me. And I don't have a tattoo, nor have I ever wanted one.

[Anonymous]

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Sure, nobody has to, or even should. But many people do. That’s why people here are saying it shows lack of judgement. People are going to assume you’re needy and insecure, even if you’re a former pirate.

I just can't live my life according to what people might assume about me. And I don't have a tattoo, nor have I ever wanted one.

The thread is about your opinions on tats. Not about whether you care about other peoples’ opinions.

So your answer is, “I don’t judge”? Which is great. But lots of other people judge, as this thread gives constant evidence.

[Anonymous]

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Except tats prove the psychological need, not the actual edginess. Check out all the posts talking about poseurs. The biker or rock band is edgy, the office worker with a tat...not so much.

A tattoo proves that at some point in your life, for some reason, you decided to get a tattoo, and then did get one.

WHY did you decide? That’s what we’re talking about here.

Different people have different reasons. To know what a particular person's reason was, you'd have to ask that person.

But when that’s not possible or tactful, people make assumptions. You see that all over this thread.

If it's not possible or tactful to ask, then you tell yourself, "I don't know what that person's reason was."

Obviously people do make assumptions. People do all kinds of things. That doesn't mean you have to.

Sure, nobody has to, or even should. But many people do. That’s why people here are saying it shows lack of judgement. People are going to assume you’re needy and insecure, even if you’re a former pirate.

See everyone think different. To me the one who judges is the one with insecurities. People who judge are the ones who judge themselves the most. It's a hard way to live this short life.

[Anonymous]

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Sure, nobody has to, or even should. But many people do. That’s why people here are saying it shows lack of judgement. People are going to assume you’re needy and insecure, even if you’re a former pirate.

I just can't live my life according to what people might assume about me. And I don't have a tattoo, nor have I ever wanted one.

The thread is about your opinions on tats. Not about whether you care about other peoples’ opinions.

So your answer is, “I don’t judge”? Which is great. But lots of other people judge, as this thread gives constant evidence.

Lots of other people judge anything and everything, as DCUM gives constant evidence.

[Anonymous]

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Sure, nobody has to, or even should. But many people do. That’s why people here are saying it shows lack of judgement. People are going to assume you’re needy and insecure, even if you’re a former pirate.

I just can't live my life according to what people might assume about me. And I don't have a tattoo, nor have I ever wanted one.

The thread is about your opinions on tats. Not about whether you care about other peoples’ opinions.

So your answer is, “I don’t judge”? Which is great. But lots of other people judge, as this thread gives constant evidence.

If you judge you have to really ask yourself:" why do I judge this person for this? What exactly bothers me in this? Does it affect me somehow?"
You will find some interesting answers. We all want to be free, but very few want to be free thinker.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And why is it wrong to look edgy and cool, and color my hair pink? Why do I have to follow your standards of beauty and wear your preppy shit?

It's not wrong if you want me to hire you. You don't have to follow my standards if you don't want to be hired. Doubtless you'll easily find a less judgmental hiring manager.

Anonymous wrote:And why is it wrong to look edgy and cool, and color my hair pink? Why do I have to follow your standards of beauty and wear your preppy shit? I don't judge you for your clothing choices I expect you do the same. But the most judgmental people usually the ones who look so "right".

Erm, actually, yes you do judge me for my appearance and clothing choices. You called my clothes "preppy shit" and put my "right" appearance in scare quotes. Sounds pretty judgy to me. #SelfAwarenessFail

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And why is it wrong to look edgy and cool, and color my hair pink? Why do I have to follow your standards of beauty and wear your preppy shit?

It's not wrong if you want me to hire you. You don't have to follow my standards if you don't want to be hired. Doubtless you'll easily find a less judgmental hiring manager.

Anonymous wrote:And why is it wrong to look edgy and cool, and color my hair pink? Why do I have to follow your standards of beauty and wear your preppy shit? I don't judge you for your clothing choices I expect you do the same. But the most judgmental people usually the ones who look so "right".

Erm, actually, yes you do judge me for my appearance and clothing choices. You called my clothes "preppy shit" and put my "right" appearance in scare quotes. Sounds pretty judgy to me. #SelfAwarenessFail

You are a decade behind on hiring. You might become too old for new industries too quickly with your old mindset.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And why is it wrong to look edgy and cool, and color my hair pink? Why do I have to follow your standards of beauty and wear your preppy shit?

It's not wrong if you want me to hire you. You don't have to follow my standards if you don't want to be hired. Doubtless you'll easily find a less judgmental hiring manager.

Anonymous wrote:And why is it wrong to look edgy and cool, and color my hair pink? Why do I have to follow your standards of beauty and wear your preppy shit? I don't judge you for your clothing choices I expect you do the same. But the most judgmental people usually the ones who look so "right".

Erm, actually, yes you do judge me for my appearance and clothing choices. You called my clothes "preppy shit" and put my "right" appearance in scare quotes. Sounds pretty judgy to me. #SelfAwarenessFail

You are a decade behind on hiring. You might become too old for new industries too quickly with your old mindset.

Not that pp, but you really are full of it. And clueless. Sorry for judging.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And why is it wrong to look edgy and cool, and color my hair pink? Why do I have to follow your standards of beauty and wear your preppy shit?

It's not wrong if you want me to hire you. You don't have to follow my standards if you don't want to be hired. Doubtless you'll easily find a less judgmental hiring manager.

Anonymous wrote:And why is it wrong to look edgy and cool, and color my hair pink? Why do I have to follow your standards of beauty and wear your preppy shit? I don't judge you for your clothing choices I expect you do the same. But the most judgmental people usually the ones who look so "right".

Erm, actually, yes you do judge me for my appearance and clothing choices. You called my clothes "preppy shit" and put my "right" appearance in scare quotes. Sounds pretty judgy to me. #SelfAwarenessFail

You are a decade behind on hiring. You might become too old for new industries too quickly with your old mindset.

Not that pp, but you really are full of it. And clueless. Sorry for judging.

Sure about that? I work for a major tech company.

[Anonymous]

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Sure, nobody has to, or even should. But many people do. That’s why people here are saying it shows lack of judgement. People are going to assume you’re needy and insecure, even if you’re a former pirate.

I just can't live my life according to what people might assume about me. And I don't have a tattoo, nor have I ever wanted one.

The thread is about your opinions on tats. Not about whether you care about other peoples’ opinions.

So your answer is, “I don’t judge”? Which is great. But lots of other people judge, as this thread gives constant evidence.

If you judge you have to really ask yourself:" why do I judge this person for this? What exactly bothers me in this? Does it affect me somehow?"
You will find some interesting answers. We all want to be free, but very few want to be free thinker.

Not that pp. This is all well and good, but we all make snap judgements. Behavioral scientists say it’s how we make it through our days with a zillion decisions to make.

I don’t have time to ponder the existential meaning of your tattoo when I’ve got to finish this project, figure out what to make for dinner and whether we have the necessary ingredients, drive safely to and from work, talk with DH about planning that vacation, get DCs to finish their summer reading and start getting school supplies, talk to my sick mom’s health aides, and so much more.

[Anonymous]

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Sure about that? I work for a major tech company.

And you exclude people from hiring because they have tattoos? That seems problematic.

[Anonymous]

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Article from 2003.
Decade was right.