S/O people who think tattoos are trashy (or not)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP reading this thread made me so happy that I don't live in DC. I see high paid professionals who tattoos every day where I live. Nobody thinks less of them because of tattoos.

Nobody says anything but plenty of people nevertheless think they are trashy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Very few people get better-looking as they age. whether or not they have a tattoo. And almost everyone past a certain age has done at least one thing in their youth that they regretted later. I don't think that reflects bad judgment.

The dumb things I did in my youth are not written on my skin forever for everyone in the world to see. (Thank God!)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't say "trashy", I would just say law class and blue collar.

I'm solidly middle class and white collar, UMC background with an advanced degree that I use. My sister is a neuroscientist and a successful biotech consultant. A close friend of mine from school is a surgeon. Another friend is a decorated military officer. Guess what we all have in common?

You were saying?

+1000

Husband is a lawyer and I am a software developer. HHI 400k+. I am a daughter of a art collector, his parents professor + writer.
And who are you again?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't say "trashy", I would just say law class and blue collar.

Which class, from which law school?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Well op, no one here thinks tattoos are classy. That surprised me.

I have rejected job applicants for having tattoos so it's still a risky thing to do

That's silly. What other superficial aspects have you rejected job applicants for?

Whether or not it's "silly" depends on the job. If it is for someone who interacts with customers, then I'd choose someone without highly visible tats on the face or neck. You can easily find a candidate without that.

Also, I don't think tats are a "superficial" aspect. They are an essentially permanent change to a person's appearance. They reflect something that the person wants you to know about themselves, and it is quite proper to make judgments about it. Tats are not the same as (say) wearing poorly coordinated or cheap clothing to the interview, which I can overlook.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't say "trashy", I would just say law class and blue collar.

I'm solidly middle class and white collar, UMC background with an advanced degree that I use. My sister is a neuroscientist and a successful biotech consultant. A close friend of mine from school is a surgeon. Another friend is a decorated military officer. Guess what we all have in common?

You were saying?

+1000

Husband is a lawyer and I am a software developer. HHI 400k+. I am a daughter of a art collector, his parents professor + writer.
And who are you again?

Right, but where are all these tats? Hidden under most clothing, small on the ankle, or neck or sleeve? Big difference.

[Anonymous]

21 year old sister has visible tattoos on arms and piercing on septum and extra piercings on ears. She works as a seasonal employee at Nordstrom but they asked her to cover her tattoos, remove septum ring. She wanted to get a neck tattoo and I told her the only job she will get is at a gas station.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't say "trashy", I would just say law class and blue collar.

I'm solidly middle class and white collar, UMC background with an advanced degree that I use. My sister is a neuroscientist and a successful biotech consultant. A close friend of mine from school is a surgeon. Another friend is a decorated military officer. Guess what we all have in common?

You were saying?

A need to prove that you’re edgy and cool, despite the UMC creds? See, several posters here have talked about what you’re trying to project, not about your social class.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't say "trashy", I would just say law class and blue collar.

I'm solidly middle class and white collar, UMC background with an advanced degree that I use. My sister is a neuroscientist and a successful biotech consultant. A close friend of mine from school is a surgeon. Another friend is a decorated military officer. Guess what we all have in common?

You were saying?

A need to prove that you’re edgy and cool, despite the UMC creds? See, several posters here have talked about what you’re trying to project, not about your social class.

And why is it wrong to look edgy and cool, and color my hair pink? Why do I have to follow your standards of beauty and wear your preppy shit? I don't judge you for your clothing choices I expect you do the same. But the most judgmental people usually the ones who look so "right".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't say "trashy", I would just say law class and blue collar.

I'm solidly middle class and white collar, UMC background with an advanced degree that I use. My sister is a neuroscientist and a successful biotech consultant. A close friend of mine from school is a surgeon. Another friend is a decorated military officer. Guess what we all have in common?

You were saying?

A need to prove that you’re edgy and cool, despite the UMC creds? See, several posters here have talked about what you’re trying to project, not about your social class.

And why is it wrong to look edgy and cool, and color my hair pink? Why do I have to follow your standards of beauty and wear your preppy shit? I don't judge you for your clothing choices I expect you do the same. But the most judgmental people usually the ones who look so "right".

Except tats prove the psychological need, not the actual edginess. Check out all the posts talking about poseurs. The biker or rock band is edgy, the office worker with a tat...not so much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Except tats prove the psychological need, not the actual edginess. Check out all the posts talking about poseurs. The biker or rock band is edgy, the office worker with a tat...not so much.

A tattoo proves that at some point in your life, for some reason, you decided to get a tattoo, and then did get one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't say "trashy", I would just say law class and blue collar.

I'm solidly middle class and white collar, UMC background with an advanced degree that I use. My sister is a neuroscientist and a successful biotech consultant. A close friend of mine from school is a surgeon. Another friend is a decorated military officer. Guess what we all have in common?

You were saying?

A need to prove that you’re edgy and cool, despite the UMC creds? See, several posters here have talked about what you’re trying to project, not about your social class.

And why is it wrong to look edgy and cool, and color my hair pink? Why do I have to follow your standards of beauty and wear your preppy shit? I don't judge you for your clothing choices I expect you do the same. But the most judgmental people usually the ones who look so "right".

Except tats prove the psychological need, not the actual edginess. Check out all the posts talking about poseurs. The biker or rock band is edgy, the office worker with a tat...not so much.

Well maybe we are bikers in our spare time. Husband used to be professional motorcycle racer. Now he is too old for that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Except tats prove the psychological need, not the actual edginess. Check out all the posts talking about poseurs. The biker or rock band is edgy, the office worker with a tat...not so much.

A tattoo proves that at some point in your life, for some reason, you decided to get a tattoo, and then did get one.

WHY did you decide? That’s what we’re talking about here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Except tats prove the psychological need, not the actual edginess. Check out all the posts talking about poseurs. The biker or rock band is edgy, the office worker with a tat...not so much.

A tattoo proves that at some point in your life, for some reason, you decided to get a tattoo, and then did get one.

WHY did you decide? That’s what we’re talking about here.

Different people have different reasons. To know what a particular person's reason was, you'd have to ask that person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Except tats prove the psychological need, not the actual edginess. Check out all the posts talking about poseurs. The biker or rock band is edgy, the office worker with a tat...not so much.

A tattoo proves that at some point in your life, for some reason, you decided to get a tattoo, and then did get one.

WHY did you decide? That’s what we’re talking about here.

Different people have different reasons. To know what a particular person's reason was, you'd have to ask that person.

But when that’s not possible or tactful, people make assumptions. You see that all over this thread.