Family who refuse to stay in hotel - help me understand!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Maybe they just want to use their time actually visiting vs. sitting alone in a hotel.


Such hyperbole. You'd think they be sitting in the hotel alone for 10 hours a day? The hotel just provides them with more space to sleep, shower, and store their stuff. They could still spend the entire day at OP's house.

See? You can't have it both ways. If the house is too small for sleeping, it's certainly too small to spend an entire day at. It's a 2 bedroom with den? ILs can put their stuff in the den, sleep there and hang out with the family mornings and nights and they could all go do stuff out and about during the day. If they're at a hotel room, they'll spend mornings and nights at the hotel, then spend the "entire day" at OP's house.

I hope the folks that are too princessy to buckle up for a few days to let their parents spend a few days in close quarters are learning something about family here. It's these moments you never get back

I, for one, don't want "moments" of four adults and two very small children crammed into close quarters. Those aren't the kind of memories I hope to make with my family. -NP

[Anonymous]

My ILs will drive up to our house and stay in a hotel. During the day, they do expect to spend time at our house with our DS, which is fine. It's small, but at the end of the night, they go back to their hotel, where they can sleep well, and we don't worry about the noise or having to wear our nice PJs when we eat breakfast.

A win-win.

[Anonymous]

Your husband needs to step up to the plate and set the boundaries. Can you afford to offer to pay for the hotel?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Maybe they just want to use their time actually visiting vs. sitting alone in a hotel.


Such hyperbole. You'd think they be sitting in the hotel alone for 10 hours a day? The hotel just provides them with more space to sleep, shower, and store their stuff. They could still spend the entire day at OP's house.

See? You can't have it both ways. If the house is too small for sleeping, it's certainly too small to spend an entire day at. It's a 2 bedroom with den? ILs can put their stuff in the den, sleep there and hang out with the family mornings and nights and they could all go do stuff out and about during the day. If they're at a hotel room, they'll spend mornings and nights at the hotel, then spend the "entire day" at OP's house.

I hope the folks that are too princessy to buckle up for a few days to let their parents spend a few days in close quarters are learning something about family here. It's these moments you never get back

I, for one, don't want "moments" of four adults and two very small children crammed into close quarters. Those aren't the kind of memories I hope to make with my family. -NP

+1

I need a break at the end of the day. Hang out around the house all you want during the day, but I don't want us tip-toeing around each other at night.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The pp who thinks her father looked like the ass is seriously looking bad to me. How heartbroken her father must be to know that her mom is welcomed with open arms but he is not. All because he voiced a concern that he felt you don't treat family like outsiders.

This is such manipulative bs. Her father chose to be obstinate and selfish. He is the selfish one because he wouldn't do what was helpful for his son or daughter. It was most important that things be done his way.

I get so sick of these posts that are aimed mostly at women suggesting that they should lie flatter to achieve the ultimate in door mat experience. [/quote]

I love you. What a great way to put it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Retired people living in your house 2-4 weeks, eating all your food while you go to work full-time, is not "hosting."

So they should travel to see you, stay at a hotel and take you out to dinner for 2-4 weeks so they don't eat up all your food because they are retired? Seriously?

Honestly I think the bottom line is if someone is coming the type of distance/expense that the visits need to be 2-4 weeks (like parents coming in from overseas) either you have to get your parents to pitch in while they are there to make it less of a burden to "host", suck it up to maintain seeing them, or tell them not to come and see if you can maintain a relationship over Skype.