Perspecitive from the mother of a very popular teenage boy or girl.
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Anonymous
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After talking with my sibs with 14yo and observing our own, I think that 14 tends to be an introspective year for many teens. Even the extroverts in the extended family have withdrawn to the home front that year, which also coincides often with freshman year of HS, which is a huge transition in itself.
Also, I agree with the introvert comments - I was one myself and enjoyed time alone at that age. |
Anonymous
 Yes. The mom sounds like a DCUM version of Honey Boo Boo's mom or Dance mom! Her comments made me cringe!
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Anonymous
| I think early exposure to certain social situations via the parents can influence kids ideas about socialization but I think a kids eventual social inclinations are formed well before exposure from his/her family....I believe it is genetic so wish and try as you might....they will grow into the person they are destined to be. It makes me sad to think of a parent nor being able to accept their child as they are. |
Anonymous
| OP, no time to read all the responses, but here's my take. While respecting her introversion, I think it would be good for you to provide your daughter with opportunties to meet like-minded kids and gain some independence. Maybe sign her up for an art class or other activity where she can meet other kids with similar interests and dispositions? My niece was like your daughter, and as a young teen preferred to spend most of her time with family. She was and still is a lovely young woman. But at 24, she still struggles to do things independently (like go to the dentist, apply for jobs, etc)and wants a family member to do them with her. So, I would maybe sign DD up for that art class and teach her to take public transit to get there! |
Anonymous
NP here and WoW! You sound bitter as hell. I think OP needs to leave her daughter alone if she's happy. She's also 14, which means that she may become more sociable as she gets further along in HS. And let's be real: Our HS friends become distant memories the minute we set off for college and begin making those friends that last a lifetime. |
Anonymous
| I am in a similar situation to the OP. I worry that my DD is missing out on all the fun things in HS. I think she would do some things if she had friends to go with her. She is too shy to ask. I think it is really much harder today because they can look on Facebook and twitter and see what everybody did over the weekend while she spent the weekend watching Netflix. |
Anonymous
This is also the Asian crowds in our community. |
Anonymous
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90210 = Churchill, really
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