Why are all of you so cruel to short men?
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Anonymous
Then you do not fit the description of a good woman. So she needn't worry! |
Anonymous
| My husband is short and is the most wonderful man I know. And I do consider myself a good woman and mother. I'm not at all worried about my son and neither should you be , OP. |
Anonymous
Why should anyone care if they get a notice in your book? |
Anonymous
| One of the most charming (and straight) male friends I have is only 5'-3". He has decent looks, is stylish and in good shape. Women of all ages love to spend time with him. Two of his pluses: 1. He flirts a lot, and 2. He's a great dancer. |
Anonymous
| I'm 5'9'' and my husband is 5'6''. I used to be resistant to shorter men, mostly because it made me feel bigger. But all that went out the window with him. He's amazing and sexy and funny and smart. And he treats me like gold. |
Anonymous
| I'm most attracted to men within a couple inches of my own height (taller or shorter). I'm 5'8". Nothing wrong w/ a 5'6" man! |
Anonymous
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My friend's grandfather was about 5'3", but, as he used to say "I'm a lot taller when I stand on all my money!"
FWIW, my 27 year old 5'4" nephew is a great guy, and he's about to marry a really wonderful woman. |
Anonymous
| I'm tall (5'10") and I've alway had a thing for muscular, sturdy guys that are @ 5'6-5'8. I'm just weird, I guess. |
Anonymous
| Shouldve gotten that abortion 18 years ago op |
Anonymous
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I am a 5'6'' male. I am happy, married, and have several wonderful kids. I think one of my boys will end up short, but I hope not shorter than me (so even I am guilty). Heightism definitely exists, but there really is nothing you can do. Even complaining about it makes you seem bitter to other folks. I pretty much move on when I know my height is a barrier. I know I won't be president, so I will do something else.
The hardest part is dating women. I definitely had dates and even sexual partners as I aged, but nowhere near the success rate of my friends. I was completely mortified by women into my late 20s. Years of getting teased about your height can mess with your confidence. What's funny is that people will make short jokes right to your face, but they would never do this to a another minority group. Imagine the Randy Newman Short People song with other groups instead of short people - gays, blacks, asians, muslims, jews, etc). I have had women tell me that I needed more confidence, but I to be honest, I was extremely confident in all other aspects of my life except dating. No amount of confidence will get you a date with a woman that won't date short men and you don't really know which one's are which. That is why I just would accept it and move on with other aspects of my life. My suggestion to the OP's son is to push his passions and develop confidence from his passions. Be successful at something like work, education, sports, music, hobbies, etc. When you become happy and confident in these other areas, you are more attractive to people. You will then make friends and maybe meet the right life partner. I often wonder if the miserable marriages described in DCUM started out with a height requirement (or some other attractiveness quotient). I don't think being tall makes you automatically happy. At any rate, I am happy and short and in my 40s. It gets better. |
Anonymous
| As a 5'6" man in his 20s, life really can suck sometimes. However I am happily married so chin up OP. The hardest part is knowing which women have height preferences and which don't. It can drive a man mad. |
Anonymous
| All of these comments sound eerily familiar to me, a 5'10" woman. That's why I love working with children -- they don't care at all about this kind of irrelevant, meaningless stuff. |
Anonymous
Ditto from 5'10" woman. Totally get crazy comments myself. Definitely dated guys shorter than me altho my DH is taller than me. Superficial judgments of all sorts are awful. Agreed that folks will prattle on about men's height (not tall enough) or women's (too tall). Also about weight -- too skinny and/or small boobs for a woman? OK for folks to talk about. My DH is balding and he is astonished that it can be party small talk...while someone with wrinkles or gray hair or 20 pounds extra is taboo to talk about. Oh, well...maybe in a nother generation we will stop being alpha-wolves to one another... |
Anonymous
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5'6 guy here, black and proud as well. Straight up, I deal with more nonsense related to my height and being short rather than the colour of my skin. If you're a guy under 5'10, be prepared to get rejected in all facets of life. A lot more than the six foot guys that's for sure. In America the hatred for short guys is magnified exponentially. I try not to let it get me down because depression is not healthy for the mind and body. Instead, I've learned to work with what I've got while always preparing myself for the worst from women. Any good they do for me is a blessing because I've learned not to expect anything from them. This is how you avoid being hurt as a guy. Don't put your faith in any one woman and you're less likely to be disappointed by her.
One more thing. Cruelty in women has nothing to do with height but I've always found the meanest girls tend to be slightly shorter than me or much taller near the 6'0 foot mark. |
Anonymous
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I'm married to a six footer because he got there first, but a warm, confident, good-looking short guy is catnip, because being enough man to overcome the ridiculousness of the prejudice means you have what really counts.
Also, if you're short and confident, I secretly assume you're hung. |