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[quote=Anonymous]I am a 5'6'' male.   I am happy, married, and have several wonderful kids.  I think one of my boys will end up short, but I hope not shorter than me (so even I am guilty).  Heightism definitely exists, but there really is nothing you can do.  Even complaining about it makes you  seem bitter to other folks.   I pretty much move on when I know my height is a barrier.  I know I won't be president, so I will do something else.

The hardest part is dating women.  I definitely had dates and even sexual partners as I aged, but nowhere near the success rate of my friends.  I was completely mortified by women into my late 20s.  Years of getting teased about your height can mess with your confidence.  What's funny is that people will make short jokes right to your face, but they would never do this to a another minority group.    Imagine the Randy Newman Short People song with other groups instead of short people - gays, blacks, asians, muslims, jews, etc).

I have had women tell me that I needed more confidence, but I to be honest, I was extremely confident in all other aspects of my life except dating.  No amount of confidence will get you a date with a woman that won't date short men and you don't really know which one's are which.   That is why I just would accept it and move on with other aspects of my life.

My suggestion to the OP's son is to push his passions and develop confidence from his passions.  Be successful at something like work, education, sports, music, hobbies, etc.   When you become happy and confident in these other areas, you are more attractive to people.  You will then make friends and maybe meet the right life partner.     I often wonder if the miserable marriages described in DCUM started out with a height requirement (or some other attractiveness quotient). I don't think being tall makes you automatically happy.  At any rate, I am happy and short and in my 40s.

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