14yo refusing to go on trip

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We weren’t even flying out of DC, but from another state we’ve been in since Saturday. This morning she refused to get out of bed, started crying, and wouldn’t do anything to get ready.
I called my SIL. She stayed on the phone and tried talking to her, but DD ignored her for about 10 minutes and didn’t say a word, just wrapped up in her blanket. After about 20 minutes she finally realized she wasn’t getting off the phone, got up still crying, didn’t even wear her shoes, slammed the door, and then stayed quiet the whole way there and ended up falling asleep.

Stayed quiet the whole way WHERE!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is she autistic and does she habitually display mental rigidity? What is the destination and what, exactly, are her concerns about it? Maybe some of them are legitimate and you could compromise on some activities?

Good Lord she sounds like a normal intransigent teenager. Why must people always jump to diagnoses like autism as a reaction to everything?

I hear two headstrong, moody, sometimes spoiled teenage girls and neither would pull a stunt like this. They know the consequences would not be worth it and we would follow through.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We weren’t even flying out of DC, but from another state we’ve been in since Saturday. This morning she refused to get out of bed, started crying, and wouldn’t do anything to get ready.
I called my SIL. She stayed on the phone and tried talking to her, but DD ignored her for about 10 minutes and didn’t say a word, just wrapped up in her blanket. After about 20 minutes she finally realized she wasn’t getting off the phone, got up still crying, didn’t even wear her shoes, slammed the door, and then stayed quiet the whole way there and ended up falling asleep.

I feel sorry for DD. I'm understanding that she went to the airport. Possibly without shoes?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We weren’t even flying out of DC, but from another state we’ve been in since Saturday. This morning she refused to get out of bed, started crying, and wouldn’t do anything to get ready.
I called my SIL. She stayed on the phone and tried talking to her, but DD ignored her for about 10 minutes and didn’t say a word, just wrapped up in her blanket. After about 20 minutes she finally realized she wasn’t getting off the phone, got up still crying, didn’t even wear her shoes, slammed the door, and then stayed quiet the whole way there and ended up falling asleep.

I feel sorry for DD. I'm understanding that she went to the airport. Possibly without shoes?!

I'd go to the airport with no shoes for a free trip to Italy.

[Anonymous]

Same OP but 15/16 year old boy. He's always been extremely rigid but no official autism diagnosis. I make sure he is on board with plans. I was surprised when he consented and is enjoying Disney with his little siblings. He's giving his Dad a fight over Discovery Cove and doesn't care about Universal which is surprising to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is she autistic and does she habitually display mental rigidity? What is the destination and what, exactly, are her concerns about it? Maybe some of them are legitimate and you could compromise on some activities?

Good Lord she sounds like a normal intransigent teenager. Why must people always jump to diagnoses like autism as a reaction to everything?

She sounds like a spoiled brat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is she autistic and does she habitually display mental rigidity? What is the destination and what, exactly, are her concerns about it? Maybe some of them are legitimate and you could compromise on some activities?

Good Lord she sounds like a normal intransigent teenager. Why must people always jump to diagnoses like autism as a reaction to everything?

She sounds like a spoiled brat.

Agree. My girls can be pretty spoiled and entitled at times and they would never try something like this. I’d disconnect their cell phone plans and sell their phones on Craigslist and they know it!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is she autistic and does she habitually display mental rigidity? What is the destination and what, exactly, are her concerns about it? Maybe some of them are legitimate and you could compromise on some activities?

Good Lord she sounds like a normal intransigent teenager. Why must people always jump to diagnoses like autism as a reaction to everything?

There is nothing about this that is normal teenage behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is she autistic and does she habitually display mental rigidity? What is the destination and what, exactly, are her concerns about it? Maybe some of them are legitimate and you could compromise on some activities?

Good Lord she sounds like a normal intransigent teenager. Why must people always jump to diagnoses like autism as a reaction to everything?

She sounds like a spoiled brat.

No, you can't be responsible for your bratiness, there has to be a "diagnosis" of some sort. C'mon, keep up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is she autistic and does she habitually display mental rigidity? What is the destination and what, exactly, are her concerns about it? Maybe some of them are legitimate and you could compromise on some activities?

Good Lord she sounds like a normal intransigent teenager. Why must people always jump to diagnoses like autism as a reaction to everything?

There is nothing about this that is normal teenage behavior.

Agree. Normal is “ugh I don’t want to go Italy it sounds boring.” Refusing to go and holding up your whole family (who can’t manage you) means your parents have failed to parent you and you’re a belligerent dictator in your family now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We weren’t even flying out of DC, but from another state we’ve been in since Saturday. This morning she refused to get out of bed, started crying, and wouldn’t do anything to get ready.
I called my SIL. She stayed on the phone and tried talking to her, but DD ignored her for about 10 minutes and didn’t say a word, just wrapped up in her blanket. After about 20 minutes she finally realized she wasn’t getting off the phone, got up still crying, didn’t even wear her shoes, slammed the door, and then stayed quiet the whole way there and ended up falling asleep.

I feel sorry for DD. I'm understanding that she went to the airport. Possibly without shoes?!

I'd go to the airport with no shoes for a free trip to Italy.

Saves some time at security too!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is she autistic and does she habitually display mental rigidity? What is the destination and what, exactly, are her concerns about it? Maybe some of them are legitimate and you could compromise on some activities?

Good Lord she sounds like a normal intransigent teenager. Why must people always jump to diagnoses like autism as a reaction to everything?

There is nothing about this that is normal teenage behavior.

Agree. Normal is “ugh I don’t want to go Italy it sounds boring.” Refusing to go and holding up your whole family (who can’t manage you) means your parents have failed to parent you and you’re a belligerent dictator in your family now.

Correct. Normal would be sulking and pouting. Not holding the trip hostage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would just let her stay home as long as she has someone to stay with. I was a complete under batshit b**** to my family when we went on vacation when I was 14.

This is absurd. At 14 she doesn't get to decide on where she wants to go especially when it affects the family with such short notice. If you let her stay home it sets the president that she can throw a fit whenever it suits her and she can control what happens. You nip this in the bud and pull rank and tell her whats going to happen and if by chance she doesn't pack/ get in the car for the trip then she gets no privileges (phone, tablet, going out) until all money is paid back for the full trip that cannot be refunded.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We weren’t even flying out of DC, but from another state we’ve been in since Saturday. This morning she refused to get out of bed, started crying, and wouldn’t do anything to get ready.
I called my SIL. She stayed on the phone and tried talking to her, but DD ignored her for about 10 minutes and didn’t say a word, just wrapped up in her blanket. After about 20 minutes she finally realized she wasn’t getting off the phone, got up still crying, didn’t even wear her shoes, slammed the door, and then stayed quiet the whole way there and ended up falling asleep.

I feel sorry for DD. I'm understanding that she went to the airport. Possibly without shoes?!

I'd go to the airport with no shoes for a free trip to Italy.

Maybe they were on a PJ

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is she autistic and does she habitually display mental rigidity? What is the destination and what, exactly, are her concerns about it? Maybe some of them are legitimate and you could compromise on some activities?

Good Lord she sounds like a normal intransigent teenager. Why must people always jump to diagnoses like autism as a reaction to everything?

She sounds like a spoiled brat.

Agree. My girls can be pretty spoiled and entitled at times and they would never try something like this. I’d disconnect their cell phone plans and sell their phones on Craigslist and they know it!!

I agree. Phones gone in an instant. Computer in family room, used for homework only.