How do you discipline or punish your 18 YO?

[Anonymous]

I’m really disappointed in DC parents today, or maybe you all are Magas.

For a group of parents who seem to provide more care and attention to their teens, than other parents. It’s sad and shocking seeing many here think high schoolers who live with their parents, go to school, do not pay any bills, have never worked a job or lived alone, can be adults. Do better, seriously, do better.

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Anonymous wrote:Take phone or car away for x amount of days.

at 18?????

Ridiculous. He shovels when he gets home. Case closed.

Ridiculous, how?

18 is a teen child.

18 is not a child. 18 is an adult who can sign legal contracts, be drafted, and vote. You treating him like a 10 year old doesn't change that.

What they are legally and emotionally are not one and the same.
We don’t just give up on them when they’re 18. They’re part of a family and should help out.
I would make him do it after school if it still needs doing.

I didn't say he shouldn't help you FFS. Everyone who lives in the household should help out. I specifically said several times he should do it after school. However, if you're still taking his phone away as punishment at 18, you've completely failed as a parent. That's who I was responding to.

It isn’t. Just cause my kid is magically an “adult”, that doesn’t mean I’ll stop taking their phone away.

Well I never said you're not a shitty parent.

Well, then all DCUM parents might be shitty parents, because their so involved in their 18 year olds college application process.

There is a difference in providing guidance and advice and treating your 18 year old like a 10 year old by taking his phone away.

But you’ll take your 17 year olds phone away? Taking a phone away isn’t treating them like a 10 year old, it’s treating them like the teen child, that they are. The phone isn’t payed by them either.

Stop trying to put words in my mouth. I never said I would take it away from a 17 year old either. Just face the fact that you've been a shitty, ineffective parent if you are resorting to this tactic at 17 or 18. They are ADULTS!!!! Start treating them like adults.

Okay, atleast your consistent right. But no, 17 and 18 year olds are literal children, not adults. My god.

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I don't know how many times I need to say this. 18 year olds are adults. If he broke the law, he would be treated as an adult in the legal system because that's what he is. But sure, mommy, take his phone away. That will teach him.

The law is BS. Do you think everything about the law is 100% correct 100% of the time?

What difference does that make? My opinion of the law does not change it one iota.

If the law is your only justification as to why teenage high school children are adults, that should speak for itself.

It's not my justification. It's a fact. Again, you seem to be struggling with basic facts.

I also said several times that parenting your 18 year old adult the same way you parent your 10 year old is completely ridiculous and ineffective, and if you're still using the same tactics at 18 that you did at 10 you failed. A logical person knows this already.

Fact based off of what? From where? I really feel sorry for your children. Your being contradictory right now by saying that you need to parent your 18 year old adult. It isn’t ineffective to take your teen child’s phone way, it works best.

I can't decide if you're really this dumb or just pretending to be. 18 year olds are adults in the eyes of the law. THAT IS A FACT!!!!!!!!!!

Please show me where I said you don't need to parent them at all. My mother still parents me from a different continent at almost 48 years old. She doesn't punish me by taking my phone away, which is what you're trying to do. Just idiotic and purposefully obtuse.

Adults do not need parenting.

Are 18 year olds and almost 48 years olds the same?

You're an idiot.

You’re more of an idiot and emotionally stunted and immature to think that you as an almost 48 year old are the same as a teenage high school little child.

That is not what I said. But it's not surprising that someone who can't grasp that 18 year olds are legally adutls also can't grasp something else.

You continue to dodge the real question. We’re not talking about legality.

You're not because you can't grasp that your 18 year old is an adult. The rest of us are able to grasp basic facts.

You haven’t shown me any evidence.

HAHAHAHAHHAHAHHAAA https://www.law.cornell.edu/wex/legal_age

Okay. It seems like the term “adult” is used incorrectly in society. It shouldn’t be used as a marker for when you are given more rights in society. That does not mean that person is an actual adult, it’s old fashioned, arbitrary, and needs to change. Science agrees with me. An adult is a fully mature and grown person, not someone who can do xxx due to some person in history deciding that’s old enough. It might’ve been old enough then, but not now in 2026. And teenagers were always children anyway, now and 500 years ago. Law means nothing. I’m surprised my the amount of people who truly think children can be adults. How sad and awful for these children to be raised by people like this.

Who gets to decide when they are adults?

Society does, but MODERN society.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m really disappointed in DC parents today, or maybe you all are Magas.

For a group of parents who seem to provide more care and attention to their teens, than other parents. It’s sad and shocking seeing many here think high schoolers who live with their parents, go to school, do not pay any bills, have never worked a job or lived alone, can be adults. Do better, seriously, do better.

Present that same argument to a judge and ask that they be charged as juveniles if they commit a felony.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m really disappointed in DC parents today, or maybe you all are Magas.

For a group of parents who seem to provide more care and attention to their teens, than other parents. It’s sad and shocking seeing many here think high schoolers who live with their parents, go to school, do not pay any bills, have never worked a job or lived alone, can be adults. Do better, seriously, do better.

Present that same argument to a judge and ask that they be charged as juveniles if they commit a felony.

That does work, and hopefully it’ll change to be more like that in the future.

[Anonymous]

My son is 18. He is a respectful kid and generally helpful. I could see this scenario if my son overslept. I’d rather him get to school on time. I’d have a conversation to hear his side and then express why it was important that he help out. I wouldn’t punish at all.

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Anonymous wrote:Take phone or car away for x amount of days.

at 18?????

Ridiculous. He shovels when he gets home. Case closed.

Ridiculous, how?

18 is a teen child.

18 is not a child. 18 is an adult who can sign legal contracts, be drafted, and vote. You treating him like a 10 year old doesn't change that.

What they are legally and emotionally are not one and the same.
We don’t just give up on them when they’re 18. They’re part of a family and should help out.
I would make him do it after school if it still needs doing.

I didn't say he shouldn't help you FFS. Everyone who lives in the household should help out. I specifically said several times he should do it after school. However, if you're still taking his phone away as punishment at 18, you've completely failed as a parent. That's who I was responding to.

It isn’t. Just cause my kid is magically an “adult”, that doesn’t mean I’ll stop taking their phone away.

Well I never said you're not a shitty parent.

Well, then all DCUM parents might be shitty parents, because their so involved in their 18 year olds college application process.

There is a difference in providing guidance and advice and treating your 18 year old like a 10 year old by taking his phone away.

But you’ll take your 17 year olds phone away? Taking a phone away isn’t treating them like a 10 year old, it’s treating them like the teen child, that they are. The phone isn’t payed by them either.

Stop trying to put words in my mouth. I never said I would take it away from a 17 year old either. Just face the fact that you've been a shitty, ineffective parent if you are resorting to this tactic at 17 or 18. They are ADULTS!!!! Start treating them like adults.

Okay, atleast your consistent right. But no, 17 and 18 year olds are literal children, not adults. My god.

"you're"

I don't know how many times I need to say this. 18 year olds are adults. If he broke the law, he would be treated as an adult in the legal system because that's what he is. But sure, mommy, take his phone away. That will teach him.

The law is BS. Do you think everything about the law is 100% correct 100% of the time?

What difference does that make? My opinion of the law does not change it one iota.

If the law is your only justification as to why teenage high school children are adults, that should speak for itself.

It's not my justification. It's a fact. Again, you seem to be struggling with basic facts.

I also said several times that parenting your 18 year old adult the same way you parent your 10 year old is completely ridiculous and ineffective, and if you're still using the same tactics at 18 that you did at 10 you failed. A logical person knows this already.

Fact based off of what? From where? I really feel sorry for your children. Your being contradictory right now by saying that you need to parent your 18 year old adult. It isn’t ineffective to take your teen child’s phone way, it works best.

I can't decide if you're really this dumb or just pretending to be. 18 year olds are adults in the eyes of the law. THAT IS A FACT!!!!!!!!!!

Please show me where I said you don't need to parent them at all. My mother still parents me from a different continent at almost 48 years old. She doesn't punish me by taking my phone away, which is what you're trying to do. Just idiotic and purposefully obtuse.

Adults do not need parenting.

Are 18 year olds and almost 48 years olds the same?

You're an idiot.

You’re more of an idiot and emotionally stunted and immature to think that you as an almost 48 year old are the same as a teenage high school little child.

That is not what I said. But it's not surprising that someone who can't grasp that 18 year olds are legally adutls also can't grasp something else.

You continue to dodge the real question. We’re not talking about legality.

You're not because you can't grasp that your 18 year old is an adult. The rest of us are able to grasp basic facts.

You haven’t shown me any evidence.

HAHAHAHAHHAHAHHAAA https://www.law.cornell.edu/wex/legal_age

Okay. It seems like the term “adult” is used incorrectly in society. It shouldn’t be used as a marker for when you are given more rights in society. That does not mean that person is an actual adult, it’s old fashioned, arbitrary, and needs to change. Science agrees with me. An adult is a fully mature and grown person, not someone who can do xxx due to some person in history deciding that’s old enough. It might’ve been old enough then, but not now in 2026. And teenagers were always children anyway, now and 500 years ago. Law means nothing. I’m surprised my the amount of people who truly think children can be adults. How sad and awful for these children to be raised by people like this.

Who gets to decide when they are adults?

Society does, but MODERN society.

Exactly. We have. The law says 18. That's how society decides.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m really disappointed in DC parents today, or maybe you all are Magas.

For a group of parents who seem to provide more care and attention to their teens, than other parents. It’s sad and shocking seeing many here think high schoolers who live with their parents, go to school, do not pay any bills, have never worked a job or lived alone, can be adults. Do better, seriously, do better.

Present that same argument to a judge and ask that they be charged as juveniles if they commit a felony.

That does work, and hopefully it’ll change to be more like that in the future.

Can you provide a single example?

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Anonymous wrote:Take phone or car away for x amount of days.

at 18?????

Ridiculous. He shovels when he gets home. Case closed.

Ridiculous, how?

18 is a teen child.

18 is not a child. 18 is an adult who can sign legal contracts, be drafted, and vote. You treating him like a 10 year old doesn't change that.

What they are legally and emotionally are not one and the same.
We don’t just give up on them when they’re 18. They’re part of a family and should help out.
I would make him do it after school if it still needs doing.

I didn't say he shouldn't help you FFS. Everyone who lives in the household should help out. I specifically said several times he should do it after school. However, if you're still taking his phone away as punishment at 18, you've completely failed as a parent. That's who I was responding to.

It isn’t. Just cause my kid is magically an “adult”, that doesn’t mean I’ll stop taking their phone away.

Well I never said you're not a shitty parent.

Well, then all DCUM parents might be shitty parents, because their so involved in their 18 year olds college application process.

There is a difference in providing guidance and advice and treating your 18 year old like a 10 year old by taking his phone away.

But you’ll take your 17 year olds phone away? Taking a phone away isn’t treating them like a 10 year old, it’s treating them like the teen child, that they are. The phone isn’t payed by them either.

Stop trying to put words in my mouth. I never said I would take it away from a 17 year old either. Just face the fact that you've been a shitty, ineffective parent if you are resorting to this tactic at 17 or 18. They are ADULTS!!!! Start treating them like adults.

Okay, atleast your consistent right. But no, 17 and 18 year olds are literal children, not adults. My god.

"you're"

I don't know how many times I need to say this. 18 year olds are adults. If he broke the law, he would be treated as an adult in the legal system because that's what he is. But sure, mommy, take his phone away. That will teach him.

The law is BS. Do you think everything about the law is 100% correct 100% of the time?

What difference does that make? My opinion of the law does not change it one iota.

If the law is your only justification as to why teenage high school children are adults, that should speak for itself.

It's not my justification. It's a fact. Again, you seem to be struggling with basic facts.

I also said several times that parenting your 18 year old adult the same way you parent your 10 year old is completely ridiculous and ineffective, and if you're still using the same tactics at 18 that you did at 10 you failed. A logical person knows this already.

Fact based off of what? From where? I really feel sorry for your children. Your being contradictory right now by saying that you need to parent your 18 year old adult. It isn’t ineffective to take your teen child’s phone way, it works best.

I can't decide if you're really this dumb or just pretending to be. 18 year olds are adults in the eyes of the law. THAT IS A FACT!!!!!!!!!!

Please show me where I said you don't need to parent them at all. My mother still parents me from a different continent at almost 48 years old. She doesn't punish me by taking my phone away, which is what you're trying to do. Just idiotic and purposefully obtuse.

Adults do not need parenting.

Are 18 year olds and almost 48 years olds the same?

You're an idiot.

You’re more of an idiot and emotionally stunted and immature to think that you as an almost 48 year old are the same as a teenage high school little child.

That is not what I said. But it's not surprising that someone who can't grasp that 18 year olds are legally adutls also can't grasp something else.

You continue to dodge the real question. We’re not talking about legality.

You're not because you can't grasp that your 18 year old is an adult. The rest of us are able to grasp basic facts.

You haven’t shown me any evidence.

HAHAHAHAHHAHAHHAAA https://www.law.cornell.edu/wex/legal_age

Okay. It seems like the term “adult” is used incorrectly in society. It shouldn’t be used as a marker for when you are given more rights in society. That does not mean that person is an actual adult, it’s old fashioned, arbitrary, and needs to change. Science agrees with me. An adult is a fully mature and grown person, not someone who can do xxx due to some person in history deciding that’s old enough. It might’ve been old enough then, but not now in 2026. And teenagers were always children anyway, now and 500 years ago. Law means nothing. I’m surprised my the amount of people who truly think children can be adults. How sad and awful for these children to be raised by people like this.

Who gets to decide when they are adults?

Society does, but MODERN society.

Exactly. We have. The law says 18. That's how society decides.

No, modern society hasn’t decided that. What? 2020s and beyond is nowhere near the same as 1960s or 1970s.

And why exactly is 18 the chosen age and not 17 or 19, if the law is so correct and not arbitrary?

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Anonymous wrote:Take phone or car away for x amount of days.

at 18?????

Ridiculous. He shovels when he gets home. Case closed.

Ridiculous, how?

18 is a teen child.

18 is not a child. 18 is an adult who can sign legal contracts, be drafted, and vote. You treating him like a 10 year old doesn't change that.

What they are legally and emotionally are not one and the same.
We don’t just give up on them when they’re 18. They’re part of a family and should help out.
I would make him do it after school if it still needs doing.

I didn't say he shouldn't help you FFS. Everyone who lives in the household should help out. I specifically said several times he should do it after school. However, if you're still taking his phone away as punishment at 18, you've completely failed as a parent. That's who I was responding to.

It isn’t. Just cause my kid is magically an “adult”, that doesn’t mean I’ll stop taking their phone away.

Well I never said you're not a shitty parent.

Well, then all DCUM parents might be shitty parents, because their so involved in their 18 year olds college application process.

There is a difference in providing guidance and advice and treating your 18 year old like a 10 year old by taking his phone away.

But you’ll take your 17 year olds phone away? Taking a phone away isn’t treating them like a 10 year old, it’s treating them like the teen child, that they are. The phone isn’t payed by them either.

Stop trying to put words in my mouth. I never said I would take it away from a 17 year old either. Just face the fact that you've been a shitty, ineffective parent if you are resorting to this tactic at 17 or 18. They are ADULTS!!!! Start treating them like adults.

Okay, atleast your consistent right. But no, 17 and 18 year olds are literal children, not adults. My god.

"you're"

I don't know how many times I need to say this. 18 year olds are adults. If he broke the law, he would be treated as an adult in the legal system because that's what he is. But sure, mommy, take his phone away. That will teach him.

The law is BS. Do you think everything about the law is 100% correct 100% of the time?

What difference does that make? My opinion of the law does not change it one iota.

If the law is your only justification as to why teenage high school children are adults, that should speak for itself.

It's not my justification. It's a fact. Again, you seem to be struggling with basic facts.

I also said several times that parenting your 18 year old adult the same way you parent your 10 year old is completely ridiculous and ineffective, and if you're still using the same tactics at 18 that you did at 10 you failed. A logical person knows this already.

Fact based off of what? From where? I really feel sorry for your children. Your being contradictory right now by saying that you need to parent your 18 year old adult. It isn’t ineffective to take your teen child’s phone way, it works best.

I can't decide if you're really this dumb or just pretending to be. 18 year olds are adults in the eyes of the law. THAT IS A FACT!!!!!!!!!!

Please show me where I said you don't need to parent them at all. My mother still parents me from a different continent at almost 48 years old. She doesn't punish me by taking my phone away, which is what you're trying to do. Just idiotic and purposefully obtuse.

Adults do not need parenting.

Are 18 year olds and almost 48 years olds the same?

You're an idiot.

You’re more of an idiot and emotionally stunted and immature to think that you as an almost 48 year old are the same as a teenage high school little child.

That is not what I said. But it's not surprising that someone who can't grasp that 18 year olds are legally adutls also can't grasp something else.

You continue to dodge the real question. We’re not talking about legality.

You're not because you can't grasp that your 18 year old is an adult. The rest of us are able to grasp basic facts.

You haven’t shown me any evidence.

HAHAHAHAHHAHAHHAAA https://www.law.cornell.edu/wex/legal_age

Okay. It seems like the term “adult” is used incorrectly in society. It shouldn’t be used as a marker for when you are given more rights in society. That does not mean that person is an actual adult, it’s old fashioned, arbitrary, and needs to change. Science agrees with me. An adult is a fully mature and grown person, not someone who can do xxx due to some person in history deciding that’s old enough. It might’ve been old enough then, but not now in 2026. And teenagers were always children anyway, now and 500 years ago. Law means nothing. I’m surprised my the amount of people who truly think children can be adults. How sad and awful for these children to be raised by people like this.

Who gets to decide when they are adults?

Society does, but MODERN society.

Exactly. We have. The law says 18. That's how society decides.

No, modern society hasn’t decided that. What? 2020s and beyond is nowhere near the same as 1960s or 1970s.

And why exactly is 18 the chosen age and not 17 or 19, if the law is so correct and not arbitrary?

How do you not understand that the law is 18? How am I still having to repeat this pages later? It's lunacy.

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Anonymous wrote:Take phone or car away for x amount of days.

at 18?????

Ridiculous. He shovels when he gets home. Case closed.

Ridiculous, how?

18 is a teen child.

18 is not a child. 18 is an adult who can sign legal contracts, be drafted, and vote. You treating him like a 10 year old doesn't change that.

What they are legally and emotionally are not one and the same.
We don’t just give up on them when they’re 18. They’re part of a family and should help out.
I would make him do it after school if it still needs doing.

I didn't say he shouldn't help you FFS. Everyone who lives in the household should help out. I specifically said several times he should do it after school. However, if you're still taking his phone away as punishment at 18, you've completely failed as a parent. That's who I was responding to.

It isn’t. Just cause my kid is magically an “adult”, that doesn’t mean I’ll stop taking their phone away.

Well I never said you're not a shitty parent.

Well, then all DCUM parents might be shitty parents, because their so involved in their 18 year olds college application process.

There is a difference in providing guidance and advice and treating your 18 year old like a 10 year old by taking his phone away.

But you’ll take your 17 year olds phone away? Taking a phone away isn’t treating them like a 10 year old, it’s treating them like the teen child, that they are. The phone isn’t payed by them either.

Stop trying to put words in my mouth. I never said I would take it away from a 17 year old either. Just face the fact that you've been a shitty, ineffective parent if you are resorting to this tactic at 17 or 18. They are ADULTS!!!! Start treating them like adults.

Okay, atleast your consistent right. But no, 17 and 18 year olds are literal children, not adults. My god.

"you're"

I don't know how many times I need to say this. 18 year olds are adults. If he broke the law, he would be treated as an adult in the legal system because that's what he is. But sure, mommy, take his phone away. That will teach him.

The law is BS. Do you think everything about the law is 100% correct 100% of the time?

What difference does that make? My opinion of the law does not change it one iota.

If the law is your only justification as to why teenage high school children are adults, that should speak for itself.

It's not my justification. It's a fact. Again, you seem to be struggling with basic facts.

I also said several times that parenting your 18 year old adult the same way you parent your 10 year old is completely ridiculous and ineffective, and if you're still using the same tactics at 18 that you did at 10 you failed. A logical person knows this already.

Fact based off of what? From where? I really feel sorry for your children. Your being contradictory right now by saying that you need to parent your 18 year old adult. It isn’t ineffective to take your teen child’s phone way, it works best.

I can't decide if you're really this dumb or just pretending to be. 18 year olds are adults in the eyes of the law. THAT IS A FACT!!!!!!!!!!

Please show me where I said you don't need to parent them at all. My mother still parents me from a different continent at almost 48 years old. She doesn't punish me by taking my phone away, which is what you're trying to do. Just idiotic and purposefully obtuse.

Adults do not need parenting.

Are 18 year olds and almost 48 years olds the same?

You're an idiot.

You’re more of an idiot and emotionally stunted and immature to think that you as an almost 48 year old are the same as a teenage high school little child.

That is not what I said. But it's not surprising that someone who can't grasp that 18 year olds are legally adutls also can't grasp something else.

You continue to dodge the real question. We’re not talking about legality.

You're not because you can't grasp that your 18 year old is an adult. The rest of us are able to grasp basic facts.

You haven’t shown me any evidence.

HAHAHAHAHHAHAHHAAA https://www.law.cornell.edu/wex/legal_age

Okay. It seems like the term “adult” is used incorrectly in society. It shouldn’t be used as a marker for when you are given more rights in society. That does not mean that person is an actual adult, it’s old fashioned, arbitrary, and needs to change. Science agrees with me. An adult is a fully mature and grown person, not someone who can do xxx due to some person in history deciding that’s old enough. It might’ve been old enough then, but not now in 2026. And teenagers were always children anyway, now and 500 years ago. Law means nothing. I’m surprised my the amount of people who truly think children can be adults. How sad and awful for these children to be raised by people like this.

Who gets to decide when they are adults?

Society does, but MODERN society.

Exactly. We have. The law says 18. That's how society decides.

No, modern society hasn’t decided that. What? 2020s and beyond is nowhere near the same as 1960s or 1970s.

And why exactly is 18 the chosen age and not 17 or 19, if the law is so correct and not arbitrary?

How do you not understand that the law is 18? How am I still having to repeat this pages later? It's lunacy.

Again, why is the law correct? You keep doing the same thing, avoiding answering questions, because you know that you’re wrong. You seem demented.

[Anonymous]

As long as I am feeding, housing and educating a child, I do not care about their age. If this CHILD has access to a car that I own, he would lose that privilege for week.

[Anonymous]

Start with curiousity when you get home and get to talk to him. Don't come in defensive and with your own worries/baggage, come from a place of being curious. This will set the stage for good conversation.

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Anonymous wrote:As long as I am feeding, housing and educating a child, I do not care about their age. If this CHILD has access to a car that I own, he would lose that privilege for week.

Spoken like the true loser you are.

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Anonymous wrote:I think you have to start to treat him like an adult.

What would you do if you told your spouse you would shovel before you left, but then you slept in instead?

Probably shoot him a text, right? "Hey I overslept and didn't get to the sidewalk - will be home at 6 and will do it then." or something like that.

So that's what he should do. I think the main thing is to wait and see what he does about skipping it.

This is more of a situation where your spouse told you to shovel before leaving for work, which he was able to do without shoveling, you said mhmhmhm as you turned another side in the bed, woke up and hurried to work/school and don't even remember about it. Now the spouse who didn't bother to shovel himself is fuming and thinking of punishing you for not shoveling!

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Anonymous wrote:Take phone or car away for x amount of days.

at 18?????

Ridiculous. He shovels when he gets home. Case closed.

Ridiculous, how?

18 is a teen child.

18 is not a child. 18 is an adult who can sign legal contracts, be drafted, and vote. You treating him like a 10 year old doesn't change that.

What they are legally and emotionally are not one and the same.
We don’t just give up on them when they’re 18. They’re part of a family and should help out.
I would make him do it after school if it still needs doing.

I didn't say he shouldn't help you FFS. Everyone who lives in the household should help out. I specifically said several times he should do it after school. However, if you're still taking his phone away as punishment at 18, you've completely failed as a parent. That's who I was responding to.

It isn’t. Just cause my kid is magically an “adult”, that doesn’t mean I’ll stop taking their phone away.

Well I never said you're not a shitty parent.

Well, then all DCUM parents might be shitty parents, because their so involved in their 18 year olds college application process.

There is a difference in providing guidance and advice and treating your 18 year old like a 10 year old by taking his phone away.

But you’ll take your 17 year olds phone away? Taking a phone away isn’t treating them like a 10 year old, it’s treating them like the teen child, that they are. The phone isn’t payed by them either.

Stop trying to put words in my mouth. I never said I would take it away from a 17 year old either. Just face the fact that you've been a shitty, ineffective parent if you are resorting to this tactic at 17 or 18. They are ADULTS!!!! Start treating them like adults.

Okay, atleast your consistent right. But no, 17 and 18 year olds are literal children, not adults. My god.

"you're"

I don't know how many times I need to say this. 18 year olds are adults. If he broke the law, he would be treated as an adult in the legal system because that's what he is. But sure, mommy, take his phone away. That will teach him.

The law is BS. Do you think everything about the law is 100% correct 100% of the time?

What difference does that make? My opinion of the law does not change it one iota.

If the law is your only justification as to why teenage high school children are adults, that should speak for itself.

It's not my justification. It's a fact. Again, you seem to be struggling with basic facts.

I also said several times that parenting your 18 year old adult the same way you parent your 10 year old is completely ridiculous and ineffective, and if you're still using the same tactics at 18 that you did at 10 you failed. A logical person knows this already.

Fact based off of what? From where? I really feel sorry for your children. Your being contradictory right now by saying that you need to parent your 18 year old adult. It isn’t ineffective to take your teen child’s phone way, it works best.

I can't decide if you're really this dumb or just pretending to be. 18 year olds are adults in the eyes of the law. THAT IS A FACT!!!!!!!!!!

Please show me where I said you don't need to parent them at all. My mother still parents me from a different continent at almost 48 years old. She doesn't punish me by taking my phone away, which is what you're trying to do. Just idiotic and purposefully obtuse.

Adults do not need parenting.

Are 18 year olds and almost 48 years olds the same?

You're an idiot.

You’re more of an idiot and emotionally stunted and immature to think that you as an almost 48 year old are the same as a teenage high school little child.

That is not what I said. But it's not surprising that someone who can't grasp that 18 year olds are legally adutls also can't grasp something else.

You continue to dodge the real question. We’re not talking about legality.

You're not because you can't grasp that your 18 year old is an adult. The rest of us are able to grasp basic facts.

You haven’t shown me any evidence.

HAHAHAHAHHAHAHHAAA https://www.law.cornell.edu/wex/legal_age

Okay. It seems like the term “adult” is used incorrectly in society. It shouldn’t be used as a marker for when you are given more rights in society. That does not mean that person is an actual adult, it’s old fashioned, arbitrary, and needs to change. Science agrees with me. An adult is a fully mature and grown person, not someone who can do xxx due to some person in history deciding that’s old enough. It might’ve been old enough then, but not now in 2026. And teenagers were always children anyway, now and 500 years ago. Law means nothing. I’m surprised my the amount of people who truly think children can be adults. How sad and awful for these children to be raised by people like this.

Who gets to decide when they are adults?

Society does, but MODERN society.

Exactly. We have. The law says 18. That's how society decides.

No, modern society hasn’t decided that. What? 2020s and beyond is nowhere near the same as 1960s or 1970s.

And why exactly is 18 the chosen age and not 17 or 19, if the law is so correct and not arbitrary?

How do you not understand that the law is 18? How am I still having to repeat this pages later? It's lunacy.

Again, why is the law correct? You keep doing the same thing, avoiding answering questions, because you know that you’re wrong. You seem demented.

Coming from a person who can't even acknowledge a basic fact. It doesn't matter if the law is correct. It is the law. If you don't like it, it makes not difference. You still have to obey it. If you don't like it, you can try to change it. BE sure you present all that "evidence" you claim to have yet haven't presented in any of your idiotic rantings and name calling.