16yo DD Refused to Enter School for Conference

[Anonymous]

Having this kind of fight over something not important with a 16 year old is not worth it. You could have found out what you needed from the teachers (maybe more as the kid wouldn't have been there to hear) and reported back. You are less than 2 years away from having an adult in the house. This could have been a very low stakes way to allow some decision making on her part.

[Anonymous]

Are any of the teachers male?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why did she think acting like a two year old in public was okay??

There needs to be consequences.

I don’t think she was acting like a 2 year old. What specifically was wrong with her behavior? She did not want to go.

Literally running from your parents in parking lot and needing to be physically carried into school to go to conferences is not in the realm of normal behavior. I get she didn’t want to go, but this is extreme.

Have you ever had to run from your dad as a teen? Me neither. Running away from your father is not 2 yo behavior. It's a behavior that is a consequence of having been abused. She knew that if she was caught, she'd be forced to do what she didn't want to do. It's obviously not the first time. The way the parents handle her is that she has to do what she is told, if necessary, by force. The father does this, because he's physically stronger and the mother approves. Now imagine yourself in her shoes.

Yes, it’s SO abusive to make your teenager go to her school conference.

Most of you people sound nuts, and like you’re raising emotionally fragile entitled brats.

Her behavior was ridiculous.

The OPs and her Exs behavior is ridiculous and abusive. The fact that for you chasing another person down on a parking lot to force them to go somewhere is normal speaks for itself. Somebody who sees it will surely call the cops next time.

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Children from abusive households don’t show off in public

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this a private school? This whole situation sounds odd. Why are all of the teachers having conferences for students, together, when there are no issues? Who has time for this? I am a parent and a HS teacher and don’t understand why you went in the first place. Will you tell us the school? No teen wouldn’t to go to this.

I think the students are involved in meetings after the age of 14 if they have an IEP.

I would have told the teachers I brought her but she refused to get out of the car. Have the meeting without her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is this a private school? This whole situation sounds odd. Why are all of the teachers having conferences for students, together, when there are no issues? Who has time for this? I am a parent and a HS teacher and don’t understand why you went in the first place. Will you tell us the school? No teen wouldn’t to go to this.

I think the students are involved in meetings after the age of 14 if they have an IEP.

I would have told the teachers I brought her but she refused to get out of the car. Have the meeting without her.

But why couldn’t they have just brought the meeting to her and held it in the parking lot?

Problem solved!

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Anonymous wrote:Public schools required by law. And DD is a minor, so her biological father picking her up and carrying her into the school against her will is in full accordance with the law, and appropriate.

+1.

It was either that, or a school truancy officer could have placed her in handcuffs and dragged her into the conference.

You and the idiot you are replying to are space aliens pretending to be humans and have no idea what this thread is about. Public school isn't required by law because private schools exist, duh. And conferences are optional meetings outside of school hours, again, duh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are any of the teachers male?

Yeah that was my thought

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why did she think acting like a two year old in public was okay??

There needs to be consequences.

I don’t think she was acting like a 2 year old. What specifically was wrong with her behavior? She did not want to go.

Literally running from your parents in parking lot and needing to be physically carried into school to go to conferences is not in the realm of normal behavior. I get she didn’t want to go, but this is extreme.

Have you ever had to run from your dad as a teen? Me neither. Running away from your father is not 2 yo behavior. It's a behavior that is a consequence of having been abused. She knew that if she was caught, she'd be forced to do what she didn't want to do. It's obviously not the first time. The way the parents handle her is that she has to do what she is told, if necessary, by force. The father does this, because he's physically stronger and the mother approves. Now imagine yourself in her shoes.

Yes, it’s SO abusive to make your teenager go to her school conference.

Most of you people sound nuts, and like you’re raising emotionally fragile entitled brats.

Her behavior was ridiculous.

The OPs and her Exs behavior is ridiculous and abusive. The fact that for you chasing another person down on a parking lot to force them to go somewhere is normal speaks for itself. Somebody who sees it will surely call the cops next time.

.

Children from abusive households don’t show off in public

I doubt that is entirely true. However:

- the daughter is growing up in the shadow of a failed marriage.

It’s no surprise she acts immature and has behavioral issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why did she think acting like a two year old in public was okay??

There needs to be consequences.

I don’t think she was acting like a 2 year old. What specifically was wrong with her behavior? She did not want to go.

Literally running from your parents in parking lot and needing to be physically carried into school to go to conferences is not in the realm of normal behavior. I get she didn’t want to go, but this is extreme.

Have you ever had to run from your dad as a teen? Me neither. Running away from your father is not 2 yo behavior. It's a behavior that is a consequence of having been abused. She knew that if she was caught, she'd be forced to do what she didn't want to do. It's obviously not the first time. The way the parents handle her is that she has to do what she is told, if necessary, by force. The father does this, because he's physically stronger and the mother approves. Now imagine yourself in her shoes.

Yes, it’s SO abusive to make your teenager go to her school conference.

Most of you people sound nuts, and like you’re raising emotionally fragile entitled brats.

Her behavior was ridiculous.

The OPs and her Exs behavior is ridiculous and abusive. The fact that for you chasing another person down on a parking lot to force them to go somewhere is normal speaks for itself. Somebody who sees it will surely call the cops next time.

.

Children from abusive households don’t show off in public

I doubt that is entirely true. However:

- the daughter is growing up in the shadow of a failed marriage.

It’s no surprise she acts immature and has behavioral issues.

The facts are well established: children with divorced parents are, on average, at a higher risk for worse emotional, behavioral, and academic outcomes, including lower grades, higher stress, and potential long-term social difficulties.

Google it.