Do "open marriages"/ENM/poly arrangements every really prove happy and stable over the longer term?

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Anonymous wrote:No clue but wanted to mention that all the people involved into these arrangements are SO ugly. The bathe twice per week, overweight, crunchy alternative type.

If you have no clue, how are you so certain about the rest of your statement?

Because I have eyes. I'm not commenting on the happiness of the relationship or lack of.
Look at these. The women dress at Ross, need ozempic and someone who can do proper highlights. The men have crazy eyes, the one in front is a ginger with a gut and a weird two tone color mustache?!

https://www.oregonlive.com/entertainment/2025/03/two-oregon-polyamorous-couples-who-live-together-with-their-kids-star-in-new-tlc-show-polyfamily.html

I mean, you’re talking about rural Oregon. That probably describes most of the people there. No one in Brownstone Brooklyn is wearing Ross, monogamous or not.

Two mistresses of a NYC Wallstreet broker engaging in threesomes for fun would look very different from Oregon farmers wives

Love, those are sex workers on a longer term contract.

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I knew three people who "opened up their marriages," and it did not work out (last longer than a couple of years) for any of them.

For two of them, the DHs were well off and a$$holes (i.e., both were senior BigLaw partners, so the a$$hole part is given). Both guys talked their DWs into open marriages (mainly open for the DHs), and it lasted until their DWs wised up and dumped them. From the outside looking in, it appeared that the DWs were stunned by the initial requests to open the marriages. However, once they had some time to get their footing, they were out of there.

For the other one, a buddy's wife suggested opening the marriage because she wanted them to "get a chance to explore life" before they got too old. He was a bright science nerd, and his DW was the first woman to show him any attention. He went along with it for about six months. During that time, she dated like crazy. Meanwhile, he stayed home at night, taking care of their kid while earning 90% of the HH's income.

He ended up meeting a woman who was not as pretty as his wife, but she was very interested in wielding his lightsaber. After meeting her, he told his DW that the marriage was now very open for her because they were getting a divorce. By then, his DW was ready to close it back up. However, he was done and ready to move on with his new love.