If you’re a single woman having an affair with a married man

[Anonymous]

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Why don't we hear a lot from the men who are having affairs with married women?

I can give you my story. I was freshly divorced and met a woman ("Betty") via OLD. She stayed over on our first date, and I thought this was going to be great. However, I started noticing things were off. For example, we never went to her place. She said it was because her soon-to-be ex-husband still had to live with her so he could stay on her health insurance. Additionally, she would only call at specific times of the day (I believe she could only call during her commute home). I figured out that she might get a divorce "someday", but that day was not anytime soon, and for right now, she was married.

However, she was very submissive and did not care if our "dates" were limited to dropping by my apartment when we were free. She had no boundaries that I ever found, and it was a perfect form of NSA fun. It got old quickly when I started seeing other women, and I found I could get everything I got from her from them without any creepy "I'll call today at 5:10 to plan a 6:15 hookup" vibe.

I ended it by stopping picking up when she called at 5:10.

Similar situation here. Currently seeing a married OW who is very submissive, wants kinky exploration, and her husband is as vanilla as apple pie & ice cream. She has kids, can only meet up during the day time, only plays at a hotel, and communicates only using Snap set to 24 hour expiration. She’s very discreet. Loves to send dirty texts, but will not send anything with her face. I found her on the apps. Her DH has zero clue.

I actually think most of the OW for married men are married women. Both have something to lose, need to be discreet, and can understand pains of scheduling around family life. There’s no hurt feelings about canceling at the last minute or sending/receiving a last minute “Are you free today?” message. Married men are nuts to take on a OW (1) who is younger and wants kids and (2) without getting a vasectomy.

In short, I think it’s more common for the OW to be a married woman these days.

If only

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Can I ask why you do it? You do realize he’s married and his loyalty stays with his wife and children. Just curious what the single woman thinks the end result will be? Usually when affairs are discovered the AP is immediately dropped. You gotta be a real desperate loser to think you have a chance.

My uncle left my aunt and 3 young kids to be with his much- younger side piece. She got the promotion to second wife and he walked away from his first family without a second glance and without a cent of financial support. They’re still together 25 years later.

Cheating is abhorrent. But if your aunt got fat or was not having sex with her husband, then she is part of the problem. Not justifying cheating but telling you what caused it. Feel bad for your cousins

The wife was caring for 3 young kids on her own, the whore was not. As simple as that.

Okay but taking care of the kids does not make it okay to not fulfill your marital obligations

Lemme take a wild guess. You’re a cheater trying to pathetically excuse your behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can I ask why you do it? You do realize he’s married and his loyalty stays with his wife and children. Just curious what the single woman thinks the end result will be? Usually when affairs are discovered the AP is immediately dropped. You gotta be a real desperate loser to think you have a chance.

My uncle left my aunt and 3 young kids to be with his much- younger side piece. She got the promotion to second wife and he walked away from his first family without a second glance and without a cent of financial support. They’re still together 25 years later.

Cheating is abhorrent. But if your aunt got fat or was not having sex with her husband, then she is part of the problem. Not justifying cheating but telling you what caused it. Feel bad for your cousins

give me a break. this guy didn’t cheat, he abandoned his entire family. that’s disgusting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can I ask why you do it? You do realize he’s married and his loyalty stays with his wife and children. Just curious what the single woman thinks the end result will be? Usually when affairs are discovered the AP is immediately dropped. You gotta be a real desperate loser to think you have a chance.

My uncle left my aunt and 3 young kids to be with his much- younger side piece. She got the promotion to second wife and he walked away from his first family without a second glance and without a cent of financial support. They’re still together 25 years later.

Cheating is abhorrent. But if your aunt got fat or was not having sex with her husband, then she is part of the problem. Not justifying cheating but telling you what caused it. Feel bad for your cousins

give me a break. this guy didn’t cheat, he abandoned his entire family. that’s disgusting.

If she became obese or she was not having sex with him, what was he supposed to do?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You post this every quarter, OP.

1. Get therapy.

2. The blame lies with the married affair partner, not the unmarried one. The single person doesn't betray anyone. It's the married person who betrays their spouse.

- married person

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can I ask why you do it? You do realize he’s married and his loyalty stays with his wife and children. Just curious what the single woman thinks the end result will be? Usually when affairs are discovered the AP is immediately dropped. You gotta be a real desperate loser to think you have a chance.

My uncle left my aunt and 3 young kids to be with his much- younger side piece. She got the promotion to second wife and he walked away from his first family without a second glance and without a cent of financial support. They’re still together 25 years later.

Cheating is abhorrent. But if your aunt got fat or was not having sex with her husband, then she is part of the problem. Not justifying cheating but telling you what caused it. Feel bad for your cousins

give me a break. this guy didn’t cheat, he abandoned his entire family. that’s disgusting.

If she became obese or she was not having sex with him, what was he supposed to do?

I’m sure he was a perfect specimen of a man!

[Anonymous]

I’ve dated people in other relationships, one married. It’s was their agreement being broken, not mine. No one had kids. I was single at the time and it was an easy way to have my needs met, spend time with someone great, and have a full life without the weight of a relationship.

I do understand the damage it could cause- that was their choice and commitment being broken not my own. In hindsight I prob should have looked for poly couples. So it was more transparent. I’m in a monogamous relationship now, due to my partner wanting that. I would be upset if they broke their agreement (cheated), but also if we had open communication about their wanting to be with another person I might be ok with that. It would take some emotional growth but there is an understanding that we can’t be all things to all people, including our partners.

Deception is awful. I do have remorse for any damage my previous relationships had. As far as I know they were never discovered. Also the men pursued me, one where I did not initially know about their relationship and the other was a simultaneous affair where they became more serious with the other person over time and i ended it because I really liked their partner. We’re all still friends.

[Anonymous]

In hindsight I prob should have looked for poly couples.

Nah. Stay away.

🦙🦙🦙🦙🦙

[Anonymous]

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In hindsight I prob should have looked for poly couples.

Nah. Stay away.

🦙🦙🦙🦙🦙

Um. Well duh. It’s the past.

[Anonymous]

Back during my cheating years I assumed my APs would all be cheating married or attached women but half of them were single women.

One of them told me that plenty of single women would be glad to get with me on a FWB arrangement.

I didn't understand it then or now but I was glad for it at the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Back during my cheating years I assumed my APs would all be cheating married or attached women but half of them were single women.

One of them told me that plenty of single women would be glad to get with me on a FWB arrangement.

I didn't understand it then or now but I was glad for it at the time.

Paraphrasing. “Back when I was a scuzzball, chix were into me. Especially ones I thought weren’t good enough. Hot. “

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve dated people in other relationships, one married. It’s was their agreement being broken, not mine. No one had kids. I was single at the time and it was an easy way to have my needs met, spend time with someone great, and have a full life without the weight of a relationship.

I do understand the damage it could cause- that was their choice and commitment being broken not my own. In hindsight I prob should have looked for poly couples. So it was more transparent. I’m in a monogamous relationship now, due to my partner wanting that. I would be upset if they broke their agreement (cheated), but also if we had open communication about their wanting to be with another person I might be ok with that. It would take some emotional growth but there is an understanding that we can’t be all things to all people, including our partners.

Deception is awful. I do have remorse for any damage my previous relationships had. As far as I know they were never discovered. Also the men pursued me, one where I did not initially know about their relationship and the other was a simultaneous affair where they became more serious with the other person over time and i ended it because I really liked their partner. We’re all still friends.

Fornication and Adultry are even worse

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve dated people in other relationships, one married. It’s was their agreement being broken, not mine. No one had kids. I was single at the time and it was an easy way to have my needs met, spend time with someone great, and have a full life without the weight of a relationship.

I do understand the damage it could cause- that was their choice and commitment being broken not my own. In hindsight I prob should have looked for poly couples. So it was more transparent. I’m in a monogamous relationship now, due to my partner wanting that. I would be upset if they broke their agreement (cheated), but also if we had open communication about their wanting to be with another person I might be ok with that. It would take some emotional growth but there is an understanding that we can’t be all things to all people, including our partners.

Deception is awful. I do have remorse for any damage my previous relationships had. As far as I know they were never discovered. Also the men pursued me, one where I did not initially know about their relationship and the other was a simultaneous affair where they became more serious with the other person over time and i ended it because I really liked their partner. We’re all still friends.

Fornication and Adultry are even worse

The church lady with the cheating husband is back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can I ask why you do it? You do realize he’s married and his loyalty stays with his wife and children. Just curious what the single woman thinks the end result will be? Usually when affairs are discovered the AP is immediately dropped. You gotta be a real desperate loser to think you have a chance.

My uncle left my aunt and 3 young kids to be with his much- younger side piece. She got the promotion to second wife and he walked away from his first family without a second glance and without a cent of financial support. They’re still together 25 years later.

Cheating is abhorrent. But if your aunt got fat or was not having sex with her husband, then she is part of the problem. Not justifying cheating but telling you what caused it. Feel bad for your cousins

give me a break. this guy didn’t cheat, he abandoned his entire family. that’s disgusting.

If she became obese or she was not having sex with him, what was he supposed to do?

I’m sure he was a perfect specimen of a man!

This incel posts in every thread of this kind that the wife got fat and/or stopped having sex, so anything goes after that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve dated people in other relationships, one married. It’s was their agreement being broken, not mine. No one had kids. I was single at the time and it was an easy way to have my needs met, spend time with someone great, and have a full life without the weight of a relationship.

I do understand the damage it could cause- that was their choice and commitment being broken not my own. In hindsight I prob should have looked for poly couples. So it was more transparent. I’m in a monogamous relationship now, due to my partner wanting that. I would be upset if they broke their agreement (cheated), but also if we had open communication about their wanting to be with another person I might be ok with that. It would take some emotional growth but there is an understanding that we can’t be all things to all people, including our partners.

Deception is awful. I do have remorse for any damage my previous relationships had. As far as I know they were never discovered. Also the men pursued me, one where I did not initially know about their relationship and the other was a simultaneous affair where they became more serious with the other person over time and i ended it because I really liked their partner. We’re all still friends.

Sorry, but your part still shows a total lack of character. I have never hooked up with a married and I was raised that way. You know- you don’t covet thy neighbor’s wife/spouse and all.

Even if the person isn’t respecting their own marriage- I still respect the legal and moral boundaries as an outsider.

You are disgusting.