IOW part of the charge is that he is cheating and it is forbidden. ew. |
Not true. He leaves his wife for her over 75 percent of the time With new red state laws this will change. Women on the side will never be the wife |
Agree 100 % |
No the AP is not married stop blaming them The person who is married is the trash |
No it's like 10% of the time. And if those relationships turn into marriage (which is rare), they have a 75% divorce rate. Now we're talking about a lot of people so there are always exceptions to the rules. But just based on how many divorces are initiated by the wife, not the husband, and how many men cheat, your math is impossible. |
NP. That is your interpretation of PP’s statement. Try to understand why you interpreted that way and why it bothers you so much. |
The question isn't about blame, it's about understanding someone's motivation. What no one has mentioned is that as mammals we have a mate-poaching instinct. If you see someone already successfully raising his children, then survival-wise you figure he is a safe bet. Of course, in a complex society where women can take care of themselves, this instinct probably causes more problems than it solves. But it's a thing and we'd be foolish to ignore how much we do things without really understanding ourselves. |
Huh? Only 2% ever marry/end up with the AP. Not great odds there |
I’m more evolved than an animal. I don’t go banging someone else’s spouse just because I feel a buzz in my crotch. |
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So your uncle was the problem. Poor moral character. The woman was irrelevant. Proves some PPs points. |
I think there's an inherent projection/flawed thinking. What is the statistic that few divorced/widowed women remarry because marriage isn't great for us. Why is there an assumption that these OW/AP wants to keep this man. Maybe she's just using him? Is that counter to the assumption that the wife is guarding her prize of a DH? Is it an insult that a woman may be just using YOUR DH and that's it?
Or is that narrative inconvenient? |
On this forum women are quick to say that men suffer from mental illness. I think most of us are not equipped with the skills/training to diagnose someone with a mental illness. People here are quick to say yeah he has ASD, autism, this, that. You can criticize men in hundreds of ways before concluding that they are mentally ill. |
And then 60% of those get divorced |
+1. Don't blame me if your husband lied to you last night to be with me. He gives me all the time and attention I need. I didn't ask him. If he stops I'll be just fine. Perhaps take better care of your husband and he won't step out. |