Why do people feel entitled to not live with roommates?

[Anonymous]

Omg. Really? I had roommates all the way up to when I married my husband and so did he.

My son is choosing to live in a suite with 3 friends next year -sophomore in college. The one bedroom dorm rooms (he didn’t have one) looked so depressing.

He didn’t even know his roommate and they hit it off great.

Spouse and informally did it to save $. He didn’t even have a car when we met. Mine was a very economical Honda civic.

[Anonymous]

I had a single dorm my last year of college and lived alone for 3 years after until we married. BUT I lived in a very LCOL area and was frugal.

You can’t do that in a HCOL and live the “YOLO life” unless you really make bank.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Somewhere between the 60s and 90s people turned into absolute psychopaths. You had roommates killing each other, roommates attempting to kill elderly home owners, neighbors turned out to be killers and crazy. That’s why!

There were movies about that, but I don't recall news stories.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand why people think that living with roommates is immature. I think it’s financially savvy. DH could have afforded a 1br, but he saved a ton of cash instead that we were able to use as a down payment on a lovely house. I also lived with roommates, and was able to put a ton towards retirement. If we’d both lived alone, we’d be in a much worse place, financially.

The most immature person I know felt entitled to live in a studio in NYC on $30,000 a year. Then she complained constantly about finances. I felt really embarrassed for her.

+1

My DH continued living with roommates for an additional 2-3yrs even when he could’ve easily afforded his own place. We were dating for much of that time and I also lived with a roommate though could’ve afforded a studio or similar. We were able to save a lot of $ and were happy where we were (both living in cheap places with college and grad school friends). Everyone had their own bedrooms. It was mostly fun. Eventually we moved in together (into our own place), bought first home soon after.

Yes, I think this is what OP was thinking about. I agree that it's the better financial move by far. My senior parents even currently rent out a room.

But I think others would rather live at home and save even more money. Some of us may think they're missing out on a more vibrant social life and skills that will make them good partners.

I also think that as a society that we're more individualistic and anti-social than ever.

Many factors at play.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:They didn't grow up with Golden Girls

And Threeʻs Company!

Omg that show was so scandalous for the times!
A male roommate living (in his *own* bedroom in a 2-bedroom apartment with his two platonic female friends who shared the second bedroom) was such a taboo that he had to pretend to be gay so that the landlord (played by Don Knotts) would agree to allow him to stay there! The “no hanky-panky” rule was strong—and the general consensus among all of middle America was that opposite sex single roommates would definitely lead to all sorts of inappropriate shenanigans!

Don knotts was the second landord. Norman Fell ( Stanley Roper name of character) was the first

[Anonymous]

I think because of the way the news is now we actually here about the worst case scenarios much more often. it's a skill to chose people you could live well with in a home. I was so fortunate I developed that skill from camp experiences and from having a really difficult and entitled sibling. I turned down a close friend here and there because while I love hanging out then I knew we were not compatible for living together. I have very fond memories of having roommates because I had really good ones. (I hope they feel the same and don't see me as the troublemaker

[Anonymous]

Sorry hear not here

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just another perspective.

I'm French and never lived with a roommate. Neither did my husband. Or my parents. Rented rooms in France are common, and studios can be tiny. My BIL is a landlord and builds houses that are made to be rented out by the room or the studio - mostly to students and young professionals. In Asia rooms are even tinier.

Here apartments are so large that of course, you have to share to be able to afford them!

There might be a building opportunity here...

Cities used to have these here too until they were upzoned out. They were called SROs.

[Anonymous]

Do people really feel entitled or is it just a preference? Many people would prefer not to have roommates after college but do many also expect it?

Maybe if so many parents would stop subsidizing adult life young adults would have more realistic expectations. How many of us who lived with roommates had to because our parents weren’t paying the difference so that we could live solo. So many people post here with “reasons” they have to help their young adults but they’re really excuses, not reasons.

[Anonymous]

OP, I have wondered the same, but I think getting a good financial footing can be achieved without getting a roommate. As you can see, there's a lot of push back when it comes to getting a roommate.
I don't understand why they didn't go for a studio, why do the need their nails done, need a car in the city, or have a pet. Vet bills are what most complain about and car payment.
When I was 19, I worked 50-55 hours a week in a restaurant. Haven't seen any youngster do it in last 25 years.
What was once norm, has greatly changed. 50 hours a week is not a norm or even 40, but 1-bedroom instead of studio is. Imagine the extra money they would have if they just reversed it for two years.
My building does not allow dogs. We have about 50 dogs in the building all claiming to be emotional support animals. Things have changed a lot in last 25-30 years.
Parents supporting their kids is another thing I have noticed. They kids are used to a certain lifestyle and parents try to keep it going for them.Possible that the ones who complain online, are actually supported by their parents. Many wouldn't qualify for 1-bedroom based on their credit and income.

[Anonymous]

Who wants a roommate past their 20s? Peace of mind is way more important than having to manage multiple personalities in one small space.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Because living with a roommate literally made me sick from lack of sleep. Am I not entitled to a quiet, peaceful place to live?

If you can afford it, sure.

I could. Easy. And I only made $26k out of college! So what is OP's issue?

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Anonymous wrote:We are no-roommate people.
college kids have singles, parent lives alone in 5 bedroom house and I live in a four bedroom.
I’d rather scrimp on something else.

This seems so selfish and a waste of resources. Typical rich aholes

Well, it’s clear why these people live alone. No one wants to live with them.

What's your net worth? If it's over $5k, why? This seems so selfish and a waste of resources. Typical rich aholes.

You continue to prove my point.

[Anonymous]

Shacking up with a sex partner is not the same as living with roommates.

[Anonymous]

Ask a sugar daddy or sugar mama to house you.

Especially if your daddy and your mama cannot pay for your accommodation.