Wife and I have dramatically different opinions about how much financial help should be given to adult kids

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As much as I can afford and still be able to retire in comfort.

So it's not about grand (stupid) principles of whether kids should pay their own way. It's strictly about my own finances and what I can afford. I will always help my kids if I can. Thankfully my husband agrees with me.

Amazing how so many people act as if it's impossible to spoil adult children. Then you end up with people like Trump "succeeding" in life and have to deal with their petulant, emotionally underdeveloped personalities that directly result from them never having to earn anything.

Way to go nuclear! If you pay for your kids grad school/down payment, they will end up like Trump!!

Great job completely missing the point. The point is that you end up with a country full of people who will vote for Trump, because apparently the ideal president is someone who inherited a famous name and a shitload of money without having to work for it. The foundation of American values is now selfishness: divorce your wife and get a new young one whenever you want, grab em by the p****, say whatever you want whenever you want, do whatever you want. It's everyone for themselves at this point--zero national identity, zero concern about the future for kids/grandkids (because no one has any and the deficit is too big to fight now anyway).

But hey, at least you have you internet, Netflix, and your own shitty personality to live with. Surely that will replace community, faith, family values, etc., right?

Cool, go ahead and live by your values. Tell your kids that you are going to help them because you don't want them to turn out like Trump. Me? I'm going to take that risk and help them as much as I can.

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Anonymous wrote:A lot of delusional people on this thread who don't realize how normal it is to help kids with these three items.

In DC, the Wapo reported this year that 12% of homebuyers got family help to buy their house. That's of all home purchases. First time home buyers is way higher. The number is so high that it clearly bears no correlation to whether the kids work hard, have high earning jobs, are nice people. Some people get parent help and some people don't. That's all it is.

But sure, if you want to tell your kids out of principle that they're SOL even if you have the means to help them, that's your prerogative. They'll just be left behind all their peers, that's all.

Just because a lot of people do something doesn't mean it's advisable or correct. A lot of people are addicted to fentanyl.

And what about giving them a zero-interest loan instead? Also, they don't have to live in the DC area. The vast majority of America is affordable by comparison.

It's still amusing to me that people actually think you're letting a 25 year old adult child (with a graduate degree you paid for) get "left behind" if you don't drop 250k on a down payment for them. LOL. Talk about delusional

Great, don't help your kids. I plan to help mine.

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Anonymous wrote:A lot of delusional people on this thread who don't realize how normal it is to help kids with these three items.

In DC, the Wapo reported this year that 12% of homebuyers got family help to buy their house. That's of all home purchases. First time home buyers is way higher. The number is so high that it clearly bears no correlation to whether the kids work hard, have high earning jobs, are nice people. Some people get parent help and some people don't. That's all it is.

But sure, if you want to tell your kids out of principle that they're SOL even if you have the means to help them, that's your prerogative. They'll just be left behind all their peers, that's all.

Just because a lot of people do something doesn't mean it's advisable or correct. A lot of people are addicted to fentanyl.

And what about giving them a zero-interest loan instead? Also, they don't have to live in the DC area. The vast majority of America is affordable by comparison.

It's still amusing to me that people actually think you're letting a 25 year old adult child (with a graduate degree you paid for) get "left behind" if you don't drop 250k on a down payment for them. LOL. Talk about delusional

Great, don't help your kids. I plan to help mine.

This is the only website on the internet with people dumb enough to think giving your kid a trust fund is "helping" them.

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Anonymous wrote:If you can comfortably afford it, definitely all three.

Anyone who looks around at comfortable UMC and rich people knows that those who got these things paid for by their parents had a very good head start. And anyone who thinks kids “should” pay for these things has their head in the sand. In places like dc, down payments and college costs are paid by parents a lot. It’s pretty standard MO and kids who don’t have this help are already starting out one step behind.

My parents paid for all these things. They are wealthy but not bagillionaires. I still managed to be married with a well maintained home by 26, graduate top of my class from law school, and now in my forties I make seven figures. I’m also married to a hardworking man who makes similar. He came from poverty and got nothing from his family. I don’t believe this kind of financial support plays any role in what kind of adult kids turn into - other than helping to ensure they are financially comfortable adults!

So you and your husband ended up in the same place, despite the fact that you got help and he didn’t. This shows that smart, hard-working people will be just fine, even without handouts from mommy and daddy.

I don’t think you’re making the point you think you are.

My husband had to take out college and grad school loans, which I promptly paid off for him within three months of starting as a lawyer. And he benefited from that same first house as me. And fwiw, dh works hard, but I work WAY harder. And he makes a lot. But I make a LOT more than him. So if there is a lazier person in our home, it’s him. Not me - who grew up with parents who paid for these things. Also fwiw I’ve never taken another cent from my parents - out twenties were really lean because we just didn’t have much money. But now I’m loaded - because I worked so hard - and I’m able to throw money around like mad. In fact, my parents needed a new car and didn’t have enough cash in their checking account on the day we were at the dealership, and dh and I were like no worries we can write the check right now so you don’t have to wait a day for cash to move between your accounts, and you don’t have to pay us back. So yeah not entitled.

But pretty confident that when you remove financial impediments to 20 year olds, they can make better choices and end up in better financial places.

But shhhh sounds like you live in one of the middle class families that hasn’t figured out how many families do this for their kids and launch their kids into their own successful financial lives.

I don’t honestly believe this is true. The families in the DMV where the parents paid for lots of things are just not successful financially. They were never launched…they need their parents to still pay for lots of things, especially any private school (lots of these folks at Big3 privates). I assume because they knew there was a backstop.

So…not sure what the answer may be.

Most of my friends in DC had family help to buy their first home. Almost all my friends are highly driven and successful in their careers. There is no correlation.

Define success…I don’t get it…successful people don’t need their parents help to buy their first home…even a $2MM+ home is a $400k down payment which isn’t all that much…for successful people.

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Anonymous wrote:A lot of delusional people on this thread who don't realize how normal it is to help kids with these three items.

In DC, the Wapo reported this year that 12% of homebuyers got family help to buy their house. That's of all home purchases. First time home buyers is way higher. The number is so high that it clearly bears no correlation to whether the kids work hard, have high earning jobs, are nice people. Some people get parent help and some people don't. That's all it is.

But sure, if you want to tell your kids out of principle that they're SOL even if you have the means to help them, that's your prerogative. They'll just be left behind all their peers, that's all.

No…it’s because the kids can’t afford it…which is literally what the article said.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you care if you have grandkids?

I haven't thought about it this way but great point. Mine paid for 1&2 + wedding (DH and I earned enough to comfortably buy a house and easier without student loan debt). It has made our financial situation so much easier and we have two young kids now.

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What is this great point? If you don’t help your kids, they won’t have children to spite you?

Np but no...it would not be out of spite, but these decisions would significantly impact whether your kids feel financially secure enough to have their own. Finances are a huge reason people delay or don't end up having kids

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Anonymous wrote:If you can comfortably afford it, definitely all three.

Anyone who looks around at comfortable UMC and rich people knows that those who got these things paid for by their parents had a very good head start. And anyone who thinks kids “should” pay for these things has their head in the sand. In places like dc, down payments and college costs are paid by parents a lot. It’s pretty standard MO and kids who don’t have this help are already starting out one step behind.

My parents paid for all these things. They are wealthy but not bagillionaires. I still managed to be married with a well maintained home by 26, graduate top of my class from law school, and now in my forties I make seven figures. I’m also married to a hardworking man who makes similar. He came from poverty and got nothing from his family. I don’t believe this kind of financial support plays any role in what kind of adult kids turn into - other than helping to ensure they are financially comfortable adults!

So you and your husband ended up in the same place, despite the fact that you got help and he didn’t. This shows that smart, hard-working people will be just fine, even without handouts from mommy and daddy.

I don’t think you’re making the point you think you are.

My husband had to take out college and grad school loans, which I promptly paid off for him within three months of starting as a lawyer. And he benefited from that same first house as me. And fwiw, dh works hard, but I work WAY harder. And he makes a lot. But I make a LOT more than him. So if there is a lazier person in our home, it’s him. Not me - who grew up with parents who paid for these things. Also fwiw I’ve never taken another cent from my parents - out twenties were really lean because we just didn’t have much money. But now I’m loaded - because I worked so hard - and I’m able to throw money around like mad. In fact, my parents needed a new car and didn’t have enough cash in their checking account on the day we were at the dealership, and dh and I were like no worries we can write the check right now so you don’t have to wait a day for cash to move between your accounts, and you don’t have to pay us back. So yeah not entitled.

But pretty confident that when you remove financial impediments to 20 year olds, they can make better choices and end up in better financial places.

But shhhh sounds like you live in one of the middle class families that hasn’t figured out how many families do this for their kids and launch their kids into their own successful financial lives.

I don’t honestly believe this is true. The families in the DMV where the parents paid for lots of things are just not successful financially. They were never launched…they need their parents to still pay for lots of things, especially any private school (lots of these folks at Big3 privates). I assume because they knew there was a backstop.

So…not sure what the answer may be.

Most of my friends in DC had family help to buy their first home. Almost all my friends are highly driven and successful in their careers. There is no correlation.

The problem with you and your friends is that you have that “born on third base but think you hit a triple” mentality. So you not only get completely unearned advantages (for instance, rich kids using their family “help” money to drive the cost of real estate ever higher); you also use your unearned privilege to enact and support policies that f$@k over the actual hard-working adults in your community and your country.

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Anonymous wrote:If you can comfortably afford it, definitely all three.

Anyone who looks around at comfortable UMC and rich people knows that those who got these things paid for by their parents had a very good head start. And anyone who thinks kids “should” pay for these things has their head in the sand. In places like dc, down payments and college costs are paid by parents a lot. It’s pretty standard MO and kids who don’t have this help are already starting out one step behind.

My parents paid for all these things. They are wealthy but not bagillionaires. I still managed to be married with a well maintained home by 26, graduate top of my class from law school, and now in my forties I make seven figures. I’m also married to a hardworking man who makes similar. He came from poverty and got nothing from his family. I don’t believe this kind of financial support plays any role in what kind of adult kids turn into - other than helping to ensure they are financially comfortable adults!

So you and your husband ended up in the same place, despite the fact that you got help and he didn’t. This shows that smart, hard-working people will be just fine, even without handouts from mommy and daddy.

I don’t think you’re making the point you think you are.

My husband had to take out college and grad school loans, which I promptly paid off for him within three months of starting as a lawyer. And he benefited from that same first house as me. And fwiw, dh works hard, but I work WAY harder. And he makes a lot. But I make a LOT more than him. So if there is a lazier person in our home, it’s him. Not me - who grew up with parents who paid for these things. Also fwiw I’ve never taken another cent from my parents - out twenties were really lean because we just didn’t have much money. But now I’m loaded - because I worked so hard - and I’m able to throw money around like mad. In fact, my parents needed a new car and didn’t have enough cash in their checking account on the day we were at the dealership, and dh and I were like no worries we can write the check right now so you don’t have to wait a day for cash to move between your accounts, and you don’t have to pay us back. So yeah not entitled.

But pretty confident that when you remove financial impediments to 20 year olds, they can make better choices and end up in better financial places.

But shhhh sounds like you live in one of the middle class families that hasn’t figured out how many families do this for their kids and launch their kids into their own successful financial lives.

I don’t honestly believe this is true. The families in the DMV where the parents paid for lots of things are just not successful financially. They were never launched…they need their parents to still pay for lots of things, especially any private school (lots of these folks at Big3 privates). I assume because they knew there was a backstop.

So…not sure what the answer may be.

Most of my friends in DC had family help to buy their first home. Almost all my friends are highly driven and successful in their careers. There is no correlation.

Define success…I don’t get it…successful people don’t need their parents help to buy their first home…even a $2MM+ home is a $400k down payment which isn’t all that much…for successful people.

This is how poor people think LOL.

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Anonymous wrote:If you can comfortably afford it, definitely all three.

Anyone who looks around at comfortable UMC and rich people knows that those who got these things paid for by their parents had a very good head start. And anyone who thinks kids “should” pay for these things has their head in the sand. In places like dc, down payments and college costs are paid by parents a lot. It’s pretty standard MO and kids who don’t have this help are already starting out one step behind.

My parents paid for all these things. They are wealthy but not bagillionaires. I still managed to be married with a well maintained home by 26, graduate top of my class from law school, and now in my forties I make seven figures. I’m also married to a hardworking man who makes similar. He came from poverty and got nothing from his family. I don’t believe this kind of financial support plays any role in what kind of adult kids turn into - other than helping to ensure they are financially comfortable adults!

So you and your husband ended up in the same place, despite the fact that you got help and he didn’t. This shows that smart, hard-working people will be just fine, even without handouts from mommy and daddy.

I don’t think you’re making the point you think you are.

My husband had to take out college and grad school loans, which I promptly paid off for him within three months of starting as a lawyer. And he benefited from that same first house as me. And fwiw, dh works hard, but I work WAY harder. And he makes a lot. But I make a LOT more than him. So if there is a lazier person in our home, it’s him. Not me - who grew up with parents who paid for these things. Also fwiw I’ve never taken another cent from my parents - out twenties were really lean because we just didn’t have much money. But now I’m loaded - because I worked so hard - and I’m able to throw money around like mad. In fact, my parents needed a new car and didn’t have enough cash in their checking account on the day we were at the dealership, and dh and I were like no worries we can write the check right now so you don’t have to wait a day for cash to move between your accounts, and you don’t have to pay us back. So yeah not entitled.

But pretty confident that when you remove financial impediments to 20 year olds, they can make better choices and end up in better financial places.

But shhhh sounds like you live in one of the middle class families that hasn’t figured out how many families do this for their kids and launch their kids into their own successful financial lives.

I don’t honestly believe this is true. The families in the DMV where the parents paid for lots of things are just not successful financially. They were never launched…they need their parents to still pay for lots of things, especially any private school (lots of these folks at Big3 privates). I assume because they knew there was a backstop.

So…not sure what the answer may be.

Most of my friends in DC had family help to buy their first home. Almost all my friends are highly driven and successful in their careers. There is no correlation.

The problem with you and your friends is that you have that “born on third base but think you hit a triple” mentality. So you not only get completely unearned advantages (for instance, rich kids using their family “help” money to drive the cost of real estate ever higher); you also use your unearned privilege to enact and support policies that f$@k over the actual hard-working adults in your community and your country.

Jealous?

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Anonymous wrote:If you can comfortably afford it, definitely all three.

Anyone who looks around at comfortable UMC and rich people knows that those who got these things paid for by their parents had a very good head start. And anyone who thinks kids “should” pay for these things has their head in the sand. In places like dc, down payments and college costs are paid by parents a lot. It’s pretty standard MO and kids who don’t have this help are already starting out one step behind.

My parents paid for all these things. They are wealthy but not bagillionaires. I still managed to be married with a well maintained home by 26, graduate top of my class from law school, and now in my forties I make seven figures. I’m also married to a hardworking man who makes similar. He came from poverty and got nothing from his family. I don’t believe this kind of financial support plays any role in what kind of adult kids turn into - other than helping to ensure they are financially comfortable adults!

So you and your husband ended up in the same place, despite the fact that you got help and he didn’t. This shows that smart, hard-working people will be just fine, even without handouts from mommy and daddy.

I don’t think you’re making the point you think you are.

My husband had to take out college and grad school loans, which I promptly paid off for him within three months of starting as a lawyer. And he benefited from that same first house as me. And fwiw, dh works hard, but I work WAY harder. And he makes a lot. But I make a LOT more than him. So if there is a lazier person in our home, it’s him. Not me - who grew up with parents who paid for these things. Also fwiw I’ve never taken another cent from my parents - out twenties were really lean because we just didn’t have much money. But now I’m loaded - because I worked so hard - and I’m able to throw money around like mad. In fact, my parents needed a new car and didn’t have enough cash in their checking account on the day we were at the dealership, and dh and I were like no worries we can write the check right now so you don’t have to wait a day for cash to move between your accounts, and you don’t have to pay us back. So yeah not entitled.

But pretty confident that when you remove financial impediments to 20 year olds, they can make better choices and end up in better financial places.

But shhhh sounds like you live in one of the middle class families that hasn’t figured out how many families do this for their kids and launch their kids into their own successful financial lives.

I don’t honestly believe this is true. The families in the DMV where the parents paid for lots of things are just not successful financially. They were never launched…they need their parents to still pay for lots of things, especially any private school (lots of these folks at Big3 privates). I assume because they knew there was a backstop.

So…not sure what the answer may be.

Most of my friends in DC had family help to buy their first home. Almost all my friends are highly driven and successful in their careers. There is no correlation.

The problem with you and your friends is that you have that “born on third base but think you hit a triple” mentality. So you not only get completely unearned advantages (for instance, rich kids using their family “help” money to drive the cost of real estate ever higher); you also use your unearned privilege to enact and support policies that f$@k over the actual hard-working adults in your community and your country.

Jealous?

I mean… of course? My husband and I actually have to work and save and sacrifice for what we have. It’d be great to be part of the American Royalty that doesn’t have to do jacksh!t and gets the food cooked in their mouths.

But what irritates me is when you societal leeches have the nerve to pretend that you’ve earned everything you have. Just because mommy paid for you to go to law school out of her trust fund and daddy’s golfing buddy hooked you up with a job in his firm making seven figures while contributing nothing.

Yeah, it must be nice

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Anonymous wrote:If you can comfortably afford it, definitely all three.

Anyone who looks around at comfortable UMC and rich people knows that those who got these things paid for by their parents had a very good head start. And anyone who thinks kids “should” pay for these things has their head in the sand. In places like dc, down payments and college costs are paid by parents a lot. It’s pretty standard MO and kids who don’t have this help are already starting out one step behind.

My parents paid for all these things. They are wealthy but not bagillionaires. I still managed to be married with a well maintained home by 26, graduate top of my class from law school, and now in my forties I make seven figures. I’m also married to a hardworking man who makes similar. He came from poverty and got nothing from his family. I don’t believe this kind of financial support plays any role in what kind of adult kids turn into - other than helping to ensure they are financially comfortable adults!

So you and your husband ended up in the same place, despite the fact that you got help and he didn’t. This shows that smart, hard-working people will be just fine, even without handouts from mommy and daddy.

I don’t think you’re making the point you think you are.

My husband had to take out college and grad school loans, which I promptly paid off for him within three months of starting as a lawyer. And he benefited from that same first house as me. And fwiw, dh works hard, but I work WAY harder. And he makes a lot. But I make a LOT more than him. So if there is a lazier person in our home, it’s him. Not me - who grew up with parents who paid for these things. Also fwiw I’ve never taken another cent from my parents - out twenties were really lean because we just didn’t have much money. But now I’m loaded - because I worked so hard - and I’m able to throw money around like mad. In fact, my parents needed a new car and didn’t have enough cash in their checking account on the day we were at the dealership, and dh and I were like no worries we can write the check right now so you don’t have to wait a day for cash to move between your accounts, and you don’t have to pay us back. So yeah not entitled.

But pretty confident that when you remove financial impediments to 20 year olds, they can make better choices and end up in better financial places.

But shhhh sounds like you live in one of the middle class families that hasn’t figured out how many families do this for their kids and launch their kids into their own successful financial lives.

I don’t honestly believe this is true. The families in the DMV where the parents paid for lots of things are just not successful financially. They were never launched…they need their parents to still pay for lots of things, especially any private school (lots of these folks at Big3 privates). I assume because they knew there was a backstop.

So…not sure what the answer may be.

Most of my friends in DC had family help to buy their first home. Almost all my friends are highly driven and successful in their careers. There is no correlation.

Define success…I don’t get it…successful people don’t need their parents help to buy their first home…even a $2MM+ home is a $400k down payment which isn’t all that much…for successful people.

This is how poor people think LOL.

Correct…UMC children becoming poors need parent welfare to keep up appearances. I agree.

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Anonymous wrote:A lot of delusional people on this thread who don't realize how normal it is to help kids with these three items.

In DC, the Wapo reported this year that 12% of homebuyers got family help to buy their house. That's of all home purchases. First time home buyers is way higher. The number is so high that it clearly bears no correlation to whether the kids work hard, have high earning jobs, are nice people. Some people get parent help and some people don't. That's all it is.

But sure, if you want to tell your kids out of principle that they're SOL even if you have the means to help them, that's your prerogative. They'll just be left behind all their peers, that's all.

Just because a lot of people do something doesn't mean it's advisable or correct. A lot of people are addicted to fentanyl.

And what about giving them a zero-interest loan instead? Also, they don't have to live in the DC area. The vast majority of America is affordable by comparison.

It's still amusing to me that people actually think you're letting a 25 year old adult child (with a graduate degree you paid for) get "left behind" if you don't drop 250k on a down payment for them. LOL. Talk about delusional

Great, don't help your kids. I plan to help mine.

This is the only website on the internet with people dumb enough to think giving your kid a trust fund is "helping" them.

Like I said, no problems! Your kids are going to do amazing when you withhold money from them. You should feel sorry for my kids apparently for getting that trust fund. It’s going to hurt them after all.

PS, it’s pretty clear your pool is very limited if you think that parents all over the world aren’t giving their kids everything they have. It’s rich white people who seem to think this is a moral dilemma.

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We paid all education (2 PhDs and 1 thru medical school) + 250k for each kid. We don’t plan to give anything more.

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Anonymous wrote:A lot of delusional people on this thread who don't realize how normal it is to help kids with these three items.

In DC, the Wapo reported this year that 12% of homebuyers got family help to buy their house. That's of all home purchases. First time home buyers is way higher. The number is so high that it clearly bears no correlation to whether the kids work hard, have high earning jobs, are nice people. Some people get parent help and some people don't. That's all it is.

But sure, if you want to tell your kids out of principle that they're SOL even if you have the means to help them, that's your prerogative. They'll just be left behind all their peers, that's all.

Just because a lot of people do something doesn't mean it's advisable or correct. A lot of people are addicted to fentanyl.

And what about giving them a zero-interest loan instead? Also, they don't have to live in the DC area. The vast majority of America is affordable by comparison.

It's still amusing to me that people actually think you're letting a 25 year old adult child (with a graduate degree you paid for) get "left behind" if you don't drop 250k on a down payment for them. LOL. Talk about delusional

Great, don't help your kids. I plan to help mine.

This is the only website on the internet with people dumb enough to think giving your kid a trust fund is "helping" them.

Like I said, no problems! Your kids are going to do amazing when you withhold money from them. You should feel sorry for my kids apparently for getting that trust fund. It’s going to hurt them after all.

PS, it’s pretty clear your pool is very limited if you think that parents all over the world aren’t giving their kids everything they have. It’s rich white people who seem to think this is a moral dilemma.

I just don’t understand why you think your kids will be such losers.

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Anonymous wrote:A lot of delusional people on this thread who don't realize how normal it is to help kids with these three items.

In DC, the Wapo reported this year that 12% of homebuyers got family help to buy their house. That's of all home purchases. First time home buyers is way higher. The number is so high that it clearly bears no correlation to whether the kids work hard, have high earning jobs, are nice people. Some people get parent help and some people don't. That's all it is.

But sure, if you want to tell your kids out of principle that they're SOL even if you have the means to help them, that's your prerogative. They'll just be left behind all their peers, that's all.

Just because a lot of people do something doesn't mean it's advisable or correct. A lot of people are addicted to fentanyl.

And what about giving them a zero-interest loan instead? Also, they don't have to live in the DC area. The vast majority of America is affordable by comparison.

It's still amusing to me that people actually think you're letting a 25 year old adult child (with a graduate degree you paid for) get "left behind" if you don't drop 250k on a down payment for them. LOL. Talk about delusional

Great, don't help your kids. I plan to help mine.

This is the only website on the internet with people dumb enough to think giving your kid a trust fund is "helping" them.

Like I said, no problems! Your kids are going to do amazing when you withhold money from them. You should feel sorry for my kids apparently for getting that trust fund. It’s going to hurt them after all.

PS, it’s pretty clear your pool is very limited if you think that parents all over the world aren’t giving their kids everything they have. It’s rich white people who seem to think this is a moral dilemma.

I just don’t understand why you think your kids will be such losers.

Is that the best you can do? Sad.