Husband and his partner

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is an emotional affair.

No. It is not.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP: It’s hard. I try to be fair in these things, but my husband is old (we’re 50+), and she is this hot young 20-something. I’m trying to be logical, but I understand the appeal of a shiny new toy. It also doesn’t help that they go into the office together a lot. It’s just the two of them. It just makes me feel uncomfortable.

If your husband wants to cheat he will. He’s not lacking for opportunity in this scenario. Make sure you have your ducks in a row and try to live your life as best as you can.

Disagree. He’s lacking for opportunity to cheat because he’s middle-aged and she’s young and hot. She might like the attention and connection and he might want to be banging her but chances are they won’t.

This- why does everyone think just because you talk to a person of the opposite sex and form a bond you will sleep with them?

It is very Karen Pence around here.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op this is in no way acceptable. Your dh is loving this attention and the partner is loving the emotional aspect she gets from this emotional affair. They are both turning away from their spouses, flirting and over sharing personal information with each other. Please speak with your dh and get back to us. He is not respecting you.

This is not an emotional affair. They are business partners. Asking what someone likes to eat is not an emotional affair ffs.

That they talk about food doesn’t mean it’s not an affair or there is no flirting. It’s about the energy. If OP’s husband is getting more of a thrill talking to the partner than OP and giving her his best energy and giving OP the dregs, there is a problem. Regardless of the name. Sometime a sandwich isn’t just a sandwich.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op this is in no way acceptable. Your dh is loving this attention and the partner is loving the emotional aspect she gets from this emotional affair. They are both turning away from their spouses, flirting and over sharing personal information with each other. Please speak with your dh and get back to us. He is not respecting you.

This is not an emotional affair. They are business partners. Asking what someone likes to eat is not an emotional affair ffs.

That they talk about food doesn’t mean it’s not an affair or there is no flirting. It’s about the energy. If OP’s husband is getting more of a thrill talking to the partner than OP and giving her his best energy and giving OP the dregs, there is a problem. Regardless of the name. Sometime a sandwich isn’t just a sandwich.

OP hasn't mentioned that. Only that sex has lessened. You are grasping at straws to try and denigrate m/f business partnerships and friendships.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you wondered who the father of the baby is?

Yes, DNA testing will be needed.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The one hour coffee every morning is weird.

Talking on the phone to your co workers is normal and can be productive. It's also often better from a liability perspective not to put things in email. SO telling him he should email rather than talk to his worker is weird and controlling.

the baby nausea, well, maybe she's letting him know she feels bad and it is impacting her work.

This is dumb. I see people in my office all the time chattering away in the kitchen, male, female, non-binary. Have you never heard of the proverbial water cooler?

Work colleagues don’t sit an hour before or after work downloading from the night before. I don’t do all this or share all this with work colleagues.

[Anonymous]

Some men like to be the hero for the women around them. It may come from an innocent if naive place, but it can lead to trouble and poor perception of reality.

[Anonymous]

He has a good friendship with his business partner. What’s the problem?
OP is insecure and needs therapy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is an emotional affair.

No. It is not.

Agree. One hallmark of an emotional affair is secrecy.

[Anonymous]

You know that work wife is not an actual wife, right OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you wondered who the father of the baby is?

Hilarious 😂

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This will 200% end in an affair. I have seen it over and over and over again. Business partner is going to be the step-mom and new wife. I give it 5 years.

If you can’t be professional and keep a boundary at work, there’s no hope for a marriage continuing successfully. I’m sorry, OP. I’m trying to give it to you straight. I would be contacting a lawyer soon, especially since he expects you to sit idly by and watch him flirt with an affair.

+1. This is happening to me now. DH recently filed for divorce because he “just realized” how much he is in love with her (after 5 years of emotional affair and at least a year of physical). He’s been being weird and gaslighting me for years. And she’s divorcing her DH and 2 young kids. It’s truly disgusting.

Guys delude themselves that’s it’s not an affair until physical, but their brain gets rewired over time to choose her instead of you

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's not being "cool girl", OP. If you wouldn't feel this way with this arrangement with a male partner, it's a you problem. Yes, running a business is 9 hours of communication a day, why is this so shocking to you?

OP: Well, it wasn’t always like this. We have had a huge decrease in the amount of sex we have since their communication ramped up to where it is now.

I would maybe lead with this. Why aren't we having sex as much instead of attacking his business

Duh. It’s because he is disengaging. All marriage therapists who understand affairs will tell you this. My DH eventually couldn’t get it up because he was so riddled with guilt and lust for her

[Anonymous]

Google it. Stats show:
85% of extramarital affairs are with a coworker.
35-40% of workers cheat on their partner/spouse with a coworker

Disturbing but be aware

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The one hour coffee every morning is weird.

Talking on the phone to your co workers is normal and can be productive. It's also often better from a liability perspective not to put things in email. SO telling him he should email rather than talk to his worker is weird and controlling.

the baby nausea, well, maybe she's letting him know she feels bad and it is impacting her work.

This is dumb. I see people in my office all the time chattering away in the kitchen, male, female, non-binary. Have you never heard of the proverbial water cooler?

Work colleagues don’t sit an hour before or after work downloading from the night before. I don’t do all this or share all this with work colleagues. [/quote

I do. With both men and women that I work with. OP and everyone in her court are way overreacting. Even if the husband is just digging the attention, so what. When you're in your 50s and married for decades, partners do get bored and annoyed with each other. So what if you just like a little new energy in your conversations. OP needs a job and hobbies herself and to stop relying on her husband for all her emotional needs.