Husband and his partner

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Final question—would you feel this way if it was a male partner?

NP, late to the party. You (and others) made this point several times, but the fact is: It WOULDN'T happen if the partner were male. Two straight dudes would not be giggling on the phone about personal matters all hours of the day. His desire to entertain this crap is entirely because he gets a titillating ego boost from talking to a mid-20s woman.

As a guy I wouldn’t refer to it a giggling (although my wife does tease me that I do giggle with my friends). But I have discussed all kids of personal matters with my friends some of whom I work with. In fact I think all of the friends I’ve made since graduating college I met through work or kids. It’s the make/female thing that makes this different

[Anonymous]

This would definitely concern me

[Anonymous]

NP. If your husband's business partner were a man, this would be considered normal bonding behavior. Nobody would bat an eyelash. It would be a pity to obstruct a business relationship only because the business partners are different genders.

I am a woman, and have experienced plenty of drawbacks in my professional life because male bosses and mentors didn't consider it appropriate to behave toward me the same way as toward my male colleagues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP. If your husband's business partner were a man, this would be considered normal bonding behavior. Nobody would bat an eyelash. It would be a pity to obstruct a business relationship only because the business partners are different genders.

I am a woman, and have experienced plenty of drawbacks in my professional life because male bosses and mentors didn't consider it appropriate to behave toward me the same way as toward my male colleagues.

As a man I totally agree. Same gendered coworkers often have deep and intimate relationships- some of my best friends are current or former coworkers and we’ve talked about everything from golf to disabled kids to cancer diagnosis.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP. If your husband's business partner were a man, this would be considered normal bonding behavior. Nobody would bat an eyelash. It would be a pity to obstruct a business relationship only because the business partners are different genders.

I am a woman, and have experienced plenty of drawbacks in my professional life because male bosses and mentors didn't consider it appropriate to behave toward me the same way as toward my male colleagues.

This OP apparently was ID'd by the site moderator as the same OP of a more recent thread. She got proof that her DH and the business partner have been having an affair. I think that thread might have been deleted but it went on for many, many pages recently. So while it's absolutely true that women and men can be excellent and completely platonic professional colleagues, it seems that in this case, the OP's instinct was right, and her DH was screwing his younger female businss partner.

Which is utterly sickening on many levels, one of which is: It only adds fuel to the damaging stereotype that "men and women can't work together, because, sex."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP. If your husband's business partner were a man, this would be considered normal bonding behavior. Nobody would bat an eyelash. It would be a pity to obstruct a business relationship only because the business partners are different genders.

I am a woman, and have experienced plenty of drawbacks in my professional life because male bosses and mentors didn't consider it appropriate to behave toward me the same way as toward my male colleagues.

This OP apparently was ID'd by the site moderator as the same OP of a more recent thread. She got proof that her DH and the business partner have been having an affair. I think that thread might have been deleted but it went on for many, many pages recently. So while it's absolutely true that women and men can be excellent and completely platonic professional colleagues, it seems that in this case, the OP's instinct was right, and her DH was screwing his younger female businss partner.

Which is utterly sickening on many levels, one of which is: It only adds fuel to the damaging stereotype that "men and women can't work together, because, sex."

Sorry- the site moderator id’Ed this OP as the poster on the other thread on the affair? Why???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP. If your husband's business partner were a man, this would be considered normal bonding behavior. Nobody would bat an eyelash. It would be a pity to obstruct a business relationship only because the business partners are different genders.

I am a woman, and have experienced plenty of drawbacks in my professional life because male bosses and mentors didn't consider it appropriate to behave toward me the same way as toward my male colleagues.

This OP apparently was ID'd by the site moderator as the same OP of a more recent thread. She got proof that her DH and the business partner have been having an affair. I think that thread might have been deleted but it went on for many, many pages recently. So while it's absolutely true that women and men can be excellent and completely platonic professional colleagues, it seems that in this case, the OP's instinct was right, and her DH was screwing his younger female businss partner.

Which is utterly sickening on many levels, one of which is: It only adds fuel to the damaging stereotype that "men and women can't work together, because, sex."

It’s not that sickening. You can have a good strong working relationship without crossing the line into flirting etc. I chat with my male boss occasionally about personal stuff but 90 percent or more of our conversation is about work. And that’s really the way it should be, for lots of reasons including that the days of promoting people because they’re just like you are waning.