School wrongly accused my child
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Anonymous
| OP, is it possible that the language barrier is part of the issue here? Do you have a trusted friend that can support you? |
Anonymous
They don’t have to allow anything. Nobody (teachers/students) at the school will remember anything in the fall. OP doesn’t have a strong enough claim to request new school placement. They should just follow up to make sure that there is no documentation linked back to the student regarding the one day suspension. |
Anonymous
+1, try to get him to go a couple more days next week because as the PP mentioned school refusal is a huge problem to overcome once it sets in. |
Anonymous
There was no other computer at home he could have used for the assignment? Please. |
Anonymous
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OP, it doesn't seem to me like anyone was trying to railroad your child into anything, just because you were asking for missed assignments. Missed assignments, and kids asking to redo them happens ALL the time, and no one is going to form some sort of vendetta on the basis of that.
What it seems like is that someone (tech office? teacher?) noticed inappropriate material on Kid A's computer, and either reported it erroneously as Kid B's computer, or reported it correctly, and the admins made a mistake. Especially if the content was violent, they will take action, and immediately (I would hope so), and your kid got caught in the middle. I don't know your child, but mine would've raged and moved on. I don't think you're doing him any favors by making this out to be "they're all out to get you", when it could be a really simple misunderstanding that they already apologized for. |
Anonymous
Yes there was, of course. I was describing the moment when he was focused on doing h/w at home and suddenly school called, asked to bring laptop, we went, they took away the comp, after false accusations shown on their own laptop. I am not conspiracy theorist. But I can certainly take a course in comms. When I lose my patience, my comms are too direct. |
Anonymous
When the school called me they said, our counselor with whom you were emailing got ‘concerned’ and found blah blah blah in your child’s comp. He searched for xyz at midnight from YOUR home on school comp. |
Anonymous
Every child is different. This child is in tears, and I am the one doing talk therapy. He is better today and warmed to go back and see his friends on the condition that that councilor does not pull him again and some questions that he does not understand… |
Anonymous
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*and some questions that he does not understand…
He just wants to be left alone. |
Anonymous
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This is OP.
I am concerned about the other boy. I asked specific questions - like what is the policy and protocols you followed to establish safety—- but the school replied there is no threat. How can I get a more detailed report about what exactly they have done to come to this assessment? Thanks |
Anonymous
| I think you move on from this. Leave it alone. |
Anonymous
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I really think that those who are telling me to leave it alone are somehow engaged in the school system. Please note this situation brought out the act activist me that never ever happened to me before. Maybe it is a maternal instincts and being fed up by things I’ve seen in the system since my child entered it in the first grade. Perhaps things that I’ve seen just filed up and finally I’m really really fed up and want to speak up.
I will take the time I need to at least try and get those people who are paid by our taxes to just do their jobs a little bit properly. my requests were simple and very specific. ‘Please provide the list of assignments that are missing and indicate where to find them online. if it is a paper assignment, my child probably lost it so we need an electronic version, I said. But I said it in the much much nicer way with a lot of apologies for missing the assignments earlier in the qtr where my child was not focused and didn’t let me help him, telling me that he’s got everything under control and he’s a big boy… Not a single time 5:04 counselor reached out to us with any updates whatsoever or on any check ins that she has conducted. 0 When I reached out to her a couple of times only, She promised things, but did not follow through in full. Just some little things are done, but important things are left out. Secondly, the county still needs to know formally the issues that Schoology Integrated with Google creates for kids with special needs. if you read some of the posts here about Schoology Integrated with Google, you see that for the kid in the middle school to succeed, an adult needs to sit down next to the kid trying to figure out the assignment planning situation on a daily basis for at least one hour or more. I do not think this is OK. especially this is not OK, as It creates extreme difficulties for special needs kids. Once we finally found math assignment by chasing down the teacher, he took freaking two minutes to get it done… |
Anonymous
This says everything. Instead of actually defending your son, you immediately wanted to deflect blame for what you assumed were his actions on someone else. You DID think your son made the search...you just wanted to find someone to blame for putting the idea in his head. So, if I understand your very jumbled story correctly, the student who misused his computer was a different student with the same first name. A mistake on the part of some busy school staff member. A mistake. Not a conspiracy, not a plot. Just a mistake that they took responsibility for after an investigation. But YOU, on the other hand, assumed that your son had done what he was accused of...and you wanted him to have no responsibility for it, claiming only a worse child could have had the idea and somehow planted the idea in his head. It's ironic...the school is actually responsible for exonerating your son. The fact that your son was mistakenly excused does not earn him an extension beyond the school year for assignments that were already overdue. You are manufacturing drama to deflect any responsibility from your son for anything. I have ADHD. I have to learn to live in a world with deadlines. Your son does, too. There is no one in on the school staff who wants your son hurt...they want to do their jobs as best they can and go home to their families. You can't be a good mother while believing that your son can do no wrong and all of his teachers are his enemies. You think you are helping him. Instead, you are hobbling him. |
Anonymous
| He got Fs from lack of organization and confusing technology and staffers doing half a** work, not compression. |
Anonymous
| * not the lack of comprehension. |