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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He was accused of something that would draw attention of a local law enforcement.

He has ADHD.

I have been in contact with School about lack of support on their part in response to my multiple emails requesting help. I told them that I intend to contact the county and mass media. This is of course, our desperation to get School ‘adequate’ attention (as they were simply footballing my child around ) and I really meant it and I still mean it.  After all me and my husband pay a lot of taxes to support the school.

It is right after I complained, the school in rush, pulled my son in and accused him. he right away, pointed out that it’s a different child with the same first name who should be accused.  I believe that was the schools way to shut me down, but instead it escalated even more. They didn’t even get their basic facts straight…  digital footprint is usually associated with full names so all they had to do is to check which Larla did that…

Very tough times.

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In summary:  This was a very brief case of mistaken identity, that was cleared up quickly.  OP's son is not in trouble.  But (i) OP believes that it was in retaliation for her pressing about homework assignments, (ii) is contacting the ombudsman (or someone else) because of it, and (iii) wants to switch schools because of it.

Conclusion:  Op is off her rocker.

You mention digital footprint. If something your child sent to someone or received from someone, don’t you have have the emails or whatever it is on your side? Could you not just print that out and present?

You say “which Larla.” Is that supposed to be your son or is there also a girl involved that you could get help from?[/quote]

They school accused her kid of something that another child did and he had to stay home until they realized the mistake. The kid is now upset, understandably and probalby has rumors going around about him even though he is innocent. It wasn't that hard to follow.[/quote]

This is op. Thanks for your help to explain. Emotions are still raw so my style is not perfect.

To add, the school called me and said on the phone - “we found xyz that your son searched online and he did it at midnight from your home.” — I was speechless for I don’t know how long.  [b]Then somehow I gathered myself and said I want to find out more and who exactly is the person who gave my son the idea for that search, because based on my conversation, there is always someone at school influencing my child to choose bad choices…[/b]

The school then asked if I could bring my son over with his laptop. When the school showed their XYZ pictures to my son he got immediately visibly upset and immediately replied that was a different Larlo! That Larlo is always on that website!

The quote above is now sitting in my head like PTSD.[/quote][/quote]

This says everything.  Instead of actually defending your son, you immediately wanted to deflect blame for what you assumed were his actions on someone else.  You DID think your son made the search...you just wanted to find someone to blame for putting the idea in his head.

So, if I understand your very jumbled story correctly, the student who misused his computer was a different student with the same first name.  A mistake on the part of some busy school staff member.  A mistake.  Not a conspiracy, not a plot.  Just a mistake that they took responsibility for after an investigation.

But YOU, on the other hand, assumed that your son had done what he was accused of...and you wanted him to have no responsibility for it, claiming only a worse child could have had the idea and somehow planted the idea in his head.

It's ironic...the school is actually responsible for exonerating your son.

The fact that your son was mistakenly excused does not earn him an extension beyond the school year for assignments that were already overdue.  You are manufacturing drama to deflect any responsibility from your son for anything.

I have ADHD.  I have to learn to live in a world with deadlines.  Your son does, too.  There is no one in on the school staff who wants your son hurt...they want to do their jobs as best they can and go home to their families.

You can't be a good mother while believing that your son can do no wrong and all of his teachers are his enemies.  You think you are helping him.  Instead, you are hobbling him.[/quote]

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