School wrongly accused my child

[Anonymous]

The school tactic to shut you down Appears to be to dig up whatever they can on your child.

[Anonymous]

Is there a language barrier getting in the way of communications between you and the school? Seems like perhaps that could be the case.

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Anonymous wrote:I am sorry about my presentation.

I just needed to figure out where to go to navigate this so I posted pretty quickly dictating and not seeing the letters very well due to deteriorating eyesight.

I think — with the help form here — my plan is to email the principal because the assistant principal is proving useless, copy county ombudsman, request my son is granted till September the time to complete those assignments (as now I don’t know when will i get him back to being motivated… He needs some rest). And move out!!!

And hold off on media - I just don’t have the space at this time to accomplish it. I can always write a book later. I promise the style will be more coherent.

You’re a troll, correct? This is the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever read. You’re going to write a book! LOL!

And you are clearly form the school. Be ready for the recordings of my crying child after what you have done.

Holy cow. OP is on track to blow up her family's whole world and not even see herself do it. I hope there is a co-parent doing damage control.

I also have the picture of my son with really really red eyes from crying because of the school… this is what the school did and they need to know. an apology email to parents is not gonna cut it. They need to apologize to my son as well in person.

That's never going to happen. A school will never apologize because apologizing is admitting guilt and admitting guilt opens them up even more if a lawsuit is brought.

Get your kid some therapy and stat working on healing. If he really is that traumatized, healing needs to happen. REAL healing.

The school already apologized via email. Focus on your son’s healing and not the school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is there a language barrier getting in the way of communications between you and the school? Seems like perhaps that could be the case.

Oh yes, because I’m a foreigner, they appear to think they can football me around.

[Anonymous]

* Foreign born and obvious from the accent. And very direct- I request what I need in a direct plain English. Everything factual. Extremely polite in the beginning and very dry by the end.

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Anonymous wrote:I am sorry about my presentation.

I just needed to figure out where to go to navigate this so I posted pretty quickly dictating and not seeing the letters very well due to deteriorating eyesight.

I think — with the help form here — my plan is to email the principal because the assistant principal is proving useless, copy county ombudsman, request my son is granted till September the time to complete those assignments (as now I don’t know when will i get him back to being motivated… He needs some rest). And move out!!!

And hold off on media - I just don’t have the space at this time to accomplish it. I can always write a book later. I promise the style will be more coherent.

You’re a troll, correct? This is the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever read. You’re going to write a book! LOL!

And you are clearly form the school. Be ready for the recordings of my crying child after what you have done.

Holy cow. OP is on track to blow up her family's whole world and not even see herself do it. I hope there is a co-parent doing damage control.

I also have the picture of my son with really really red eyes from crying because of the school… this is what the school did and they need to know. an apology email to parents is not gonna cut it. They need to apologize to my son as well in person.

That's never going to happen. A school will never apologize because apologizing is admitting guilt and admitting guilt opens them up even more if a lawsuit is brought.

Get your kid some therapy and stat working on healing. If he really is that traumatized, healing needs to happen. REAL healing.

The school already apologized via email. Focus on your son’s healing and not the school.

Yes - exactly what I’m doing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It was all on the OTHER computer that belonged to the child with the same first name. the school was in rush to retaliate and didn’t check properly basics. The most appalling thing is that my child was aware that that child is always on a bad website during school hours. That’s the scary part…. And they only discover it because they want to dig up dirt on my son because I complained that I couldn’t get access to the missing assignments…

I totally believe it but what do you think is going to happen? Do you have any idea how many teachers and administration are in FCPS? If it's not a crime, very few care about any issue in FCPS and FCPS was already ratted on for only following 504s and IEP's of kids with popular parents and nothing has become of it. They still haven't paid parents compensation they are owed. You already were told this with the chocolate bribing. You could work with the system that is or not. These are people that you are dealing with and they simply don't care that much and it's pretty odd that they found these photos or whatever when they were checking your child's laptop but I guess maybe the details make more sense how that came about. Do you want your child to get a good education or not? They won't have these teachers again and you are out of that school in a year. Can you afford private? If you can't, you have to play the cards in your hand against the ones you know exist.

[Anonymous]

And honestly they are getting their karma payback because now they have to investigate this other kid that they should have done anyway. That's more work on their hands. Oh well. Their choice for flipping out over finding homework assignments. I would move on and focus on healing and be very direct that you expect there to be additional help next year with your child emotionally and organizationally to make up for the absurdity of this behavior.

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Anonymous wrote:I have no idea what the problem is but try contacting the ombuds who is there to help families navigate problems. https://www.fcps.edu/ombuds

You can also fine the regional assistant superintendent for your child’s school and contact them. Find your school on the FCPS website and it will say which region and link you to that office.

Thank you — I will contact them.

If you really want help from them, you should request it verbally . . . not in writing.

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Anonymous wrote:I am sorry about my presentation.

I just needed to figure out where to go to navigate this so I posted pretty quickly dictating and not seeing the letters very well due to deteriorating eyesight.

I think — with the help form here — my plan is to email the principal because the assistant principal is proving useless, copy county ombudsman, request my son is granted till September the time to complete those assignments (as now I don’t know when will i get him back to being motivated… He needs some rest). And move out!!!

And hold off on media - I just don’t have the space at this time to accomplish it. I can always write a book later. I promise the style will be more coherent.

You’re a troll, correct? This is the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever read. You’re going to write a book! LOL!

And you are clearly form the school. Be ready for the recordings of my crying child after what you have done.

Holy cow. OP is on track to blow up her family's whole world and not even see herself do it. I hope there is a co-parent doing damage control.

I also have the picture of my son with really really red eyes from crying because of the school… this is what the school did and they need to know. an apology email to parents is not gonna cut it. They need to apologize to my son as well in person.

That's never going to happen. A school will never apologize because apologizing is admitting guilt and admitting guilt opens them up even more if a lawsuit is brought.

Get your kid some therapy and stat working on healing. If he really is that traumatized, healing needs to happen. REAL healing.

The school already apologized via email. Focus on your son’s healing and not the school.

Apologies won’t dissolve the damage made on the child and the family. The school adm has to allow OP to move to another MS. Healing starts in a new environment.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He was accused of something that would draw attention of a local law enforcement.

He has ADHD.

I have been in contact with School about lack of support on their part in response to my multiple emails requesting help. I told them that I intend to contact the county and mass media. This is of course, our desperation to get School ‘adequate’ attention (as they were simply footballing my child around ) and I really meant it and I still mean it. After all me and my husband pay a lot of taxes to support the school.

It is right after I complained, the school in rush, pulled my son in and accused him. he right away, pointed out that it’s a different child with the same first name who should be accused. I believe that was the schools way to shut me down, but instead it escalated even more. They didn’t even get their basic facts straight… digital footprint is usually associated with full names so all they had to do is to check which Larla did that…

Very tough times.

In summary: This was a very brief case of mistaken identity, that was cleared up quickly. OP's son is not in trouble. But (i) OP believes that it was in retaliation for her pressing about homework assignments, (ii) is contacting the ombudsman (or someone else) because of it, and (iii) wants to switch schools because of it.

Conclusion: Op is off her rocker.

You mention digital footprint. If something your child sent to someone or received from someone, don’t you have have the emails or whatever it is on your side? Could you not just print that out and present?

You say “which Larla.” Is that supposed to be your son or is there also a girl involved that you could get help from?

They school accused her kid of something that another child did and he had to stay home until they realized the mistake. The kid is now upset, understandably and probalby has rumors going around about him even though he is innocent. It wasn't that hard to follow.

This is op. Thanks for your help to explain. Emotions are still raw so my style is not perfect.

To add, the school called me and said on the phone - “we found xyz that your son searched online and he did it at midnight from your home.” — I was speechless for I don’t know how long. Then somehow I gathered myself and said I want to find out more and who exactly is the person who gave my son the idea for that search, because based on my conversation, there is always someone at school influencing my child to choose bad choices…

The school then asked if I could bring my son over with his laptop. When the school showed their XYZ pictures to my son he got immediately visibly upset and immediately replied that was a different Larlo! That Larlo is always on that website!

The quote above is now sitting in my head like PTSD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am sorry about my presentation.

I just needed to figure out where to go to navigate this so I posted pretty quickly dictating and not seeing the letters very well due to deteriorating eyesight.

I think — with the help form here — my plan is to email the principal because the assistant principal is proving useless, copy county ombudsman, request my son is granted till September the time to complete those assignments (as now I don’t know when will i get him back to being motivated… He needs some rest). And move out!!!

And hold off on media - I just don’t have the space at this time to accomplish it. I can always write a book later. I promise the style will be more coherent.

What the actual F are yo talking about? That is . . . next year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am sorry about my presentation.

I just needed to figure out where to go to navigate this so I posted pretty quickly dictating and not seeing the letters very well due to deteriorating eyesight.

I think — with the help form here — my plan is to email the principal because the assistant principal is proving useless, copy county ombudsman, request my son is granted till September the time to complete those assignments (as now I don’t know when will i get him back to being motivated… He needs some rest). And move out!!!

And hold off on media - I just don’t have the space at this time to accomplish it. I can always write a book later. I promise the style will be more coherent.

What the actual F are yo talking about? That is . . . next year.

Yes. Not going to happen. No teacher is going to grade these over the summer. It's 7th grade. He can move on and they can drop those assignments from the calculation of grading for the year. Just don't factor them into the grade.

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Anonymous wrote:It was all on the OTHER computer that belonged to the child with the same first name. the school was in rush to retaliate and didn’t check properly basics. The most appalling thing is that my child was aware that that child is always on a bad website during school hours. That’s the scary part…. And they only discover it because they want to dig up dirt on my son because I complained that I couldn’t get access to the missing assignments…

Oh, right, this is all a conspiracy to get you!

Yeah, not crazy at all.

[Anonymous]

FCPS does not care at all about the emotional damage they inflict on our children. Given that this does not seem to involve his classmates or teachers, but just admin, I would try to get him to go to school for at least a partial day. School refusal is a huge problem and it is something that you want to avoid.

And unless the classes with missing work are HS credit classes, it doesn't matter, just move on. Have him physically attend the last few days and then start fresh next year.

You aren't going to get the closure/resolution that you want from the school no matter what you do. The best thing for your child is to move on and encourage him to move on. If this is a two year middle school, he has just one more year and then you are done with that school.