School wrongly accused my child

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He was accused of something that would draw attention of a local law enforcement.

He has ADHD.

I have been in contact with School about lack of support on their part in response to my multiple emails requesting help. I told them that I intend to contact the county and mass media. This is of course, our desperation to get School ‘adequate’ attention (as they were simply footballing my child around ) and I really meant it and I still mean it. After all me and my husband pay a lot of taxes to support the school.

It is right after I complained, the school in rush, pulled my son in and accused him. he right away, pointed out that it’s a different child with the same first name who should be accused. I believe that was the schools way to shut me down, but instead it escalated even more. They didn’t even get their basic facts straight… digital footprint is usually associated with full names so all they had to do is to check which Larla did that…

Very tough times.

You mention digital footprint. If something your child sent to someone or received from someone, don’t you have have the emails or whatever it is on your side? Could you not just print that out and present?

You say “which Larla.” Is that supposed to be your son or is there also a girl involved that you could get help from?

The school was so rushed [to retaliate] that they forgot to look at footprint properly. They had it all. But it had to be my child to defend himself. - I used Larla but it should be Lars I guess in the illustration above.

So the accusation part of this is resolved and clear to school your kid did nothing wrong? If so, doesn’t that strengthen your case?

Yes - it’s resolved but Larlo is shaken up. And me too… I’m processing. This is a new situation, escalating from a very very polite request to help get access to hw…

[Anonymous]

4.5 days left.
Larlo does not want to go to school.
And I don’t want to force him.
Virtual is unavailable…
So, he will be marked as missing (?)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He was accused of something that would draw attention of a local law enforcement.

He has ADHD.

I have been in contact with School about lack of support on their part in response to my multiple emails requesting help. I told them that I intend to contact the county and mass media. This is of course, our desperation to get School ‘adequate’ attention (as they were simply footballing my child around ) and I really meant it and I still mean it. After all me and my husband pay a lot of taxes to support the school.

It is right after I complained, the school in rush, pulled my son in and accused him. he right away, pointed out that it’s a different child with the same first name who should be accused. I believe that was the schools way to shut me down, but instead it escalated even more. They didn’t even get their basic facts straight… digital footprint is usually associated with full names so all they had to do is to check which Larla did that…

Very tough times.

You mention digital footprint. If something your child sent to someone or received from someone, don’t you have have the emails or whatever it is on your side? Could you not just print that out and present?

You say “which Larla.” Is that supposed to be your son or is there also a girl involved that you could get help from?

They school accused her kid of something that another child did and he had to stay home until they realized the mistake. The kid is now upset, understandably and probalby has rumors going around about him even though he is innocent. It wasn't that hard to follow.

This is op. Thanks for your help to explain. Emotions are still raw so my style is not perfect.

To add, the school called me and said on the phone - “we found xyz that your son searched online and he did it at midnight from your home.” — I was speechless for I don’t know how long. Then somehow I gathered myself and said I want to find out more and who exactly is the person who gave my son the idea for that search, because based on my conversation, there is always someone at school influencing my child to choose bad choices…

The school then asked if I could bring my son over with his laptop. When the school showed their XYZ pictures to my son he got immediately visibly upset and immediately replied that was a different Larlo! That Larlo is always on that website!

The quote above is now sitting in my head like PTSD.

[Anonymous]

Having a hard time following this.

Your child has ADHD and requires accommodations.

Part of that is being provided homework assignments? In a paper format?

He was missing assignments, so you were trying to track them down, and the teachers were not cooperating.

After you had been pestering them for a while about the homework, the school raised an issue with your child doing something unsavory on his laptop.

It turned out that the unsavory thing was done by a different kid with the same first name as your child. This mixup has been resolved.

Is this correct?

[Anonymous]

Yes, pretty much…
Unsavory in this case = traumatizing.
DC keeps being teary that the school thought it was him.
I’m also traumatized - can’t sleep…
Freakin incompetence…

[Anonymous]

I am sorry about my presentation.

I just needed to figure out where to go to navigate this so I posted pretty quickly dictating and not seeing the letters very well due to deteriorating eyesight.

I think — with the help form here — my plan is to email the principal because the assistant principal is proving useless, copy county ombudsman, request my son is granted till September the time to complete those assignments (as now I don’t know when will i get him back to being motivated… He needs some rest). And move out!!!

And hold off on media - I just don’t have the space at this time to accomplish it. I can always write a book later. I promise the style will be more coherent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:4.5 days left.
Larlo does not want to go to school.
And I don’t want to force him.
Virtual is unavailable…
So, he will be marked as missing (?)

Go to urgent care and say he has a stomachache or something for a note.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, pretty much…
Unsavory in this case = traumatizing.
DC keeps being teary that the school thought it was him.
I’m also traumatized - can’t sleep…
Freakin incompetence…

Are you saying that Other Larlo accessed or sent p*rn on the school laptop and they showed that material to your son in the office?

[Anonymous]

Your child is an honor roll student the whole year and manages how to find all the work and turn it in except 4th quarter when he stops turning in work. Then the school calls and says your child was accessing something inappropriate from a school issued Chromebook/iPad/other school device at midnight.
You need to consider the possibility your child is staying up really late and being curious is accessing inappropriate things instead of focusing on his schoolwork. Instead of just asking your son and believing everything he says, have you searched his history on his device? Have you stayed up late or set your alarm to see what your son is doing at midnight?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, pretty much…
Unsavory in this case = traumatizing.
DC keeps being teary that the school thought it was him.
I’m also traumatized - can’t sleep…
Freakin incompetence…

Are you saying that Other Larlo accessed or sent p*rn on the school laptop and they showed that material to your son in the office?

It was something else. But yes. They showed it to my son…. And now I am crying how bad it was for him. I feel so sad for him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your child is an honor roll student the whole year and manages how to find all the work and turn it in except 4th quarter when he stops turning in work. Then the school calls and says your child was accessing something inappropriate from a school issued Chromebook/iPad/other school device at midnight.
You need to consider the possibility your child is staying up really late and being curious is accessing inappropriate things instead of focusing on his schoolwork. Instead of just asking your son and believing everything he says, have you searched his history on his device? Have you stayed up late or set your alarm to see what your son is doing at midnight?

It was not him… Yes, I am on top of parental controls. The school already wrote an apology email.
But this is insufficient. I’m still stuck with a child who doesn’t want to go to school..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He was accused of something that would draw attention of a local law enforcement.

He has ADHD.

I have been in contact with School about lack of support on their part in response to my multiple emails requesting help. I told them that I intend to contact the county and mass media. This is of course, our desperation to get School ‘adequate’ attention (as they were simply footballing my child around ) and I really meant it and I still mean it. After all me and my husband pay a lot of taxes to support the school.

It is right after I complained, the school in rush, pulled my son in and accused him. he right away, pointed out that it’s a different child with the same first name who should be accused. I believe that was the schools way to shut me down, but instead it escalated even more. They didn’t even get their basic facts straight… digital footprint is usually associated with full names so all they had to do is to check which Larla did that…

Very tough times.

You mention digital footprint. If something your child sent to someone or received from someone, don’t you have have the emails or whatever it is on your side? Could you not just print that out and present?

You say “which Larla.” Is that supposed to be your son or is there also a girl involved that you could get help from?

They school accused her kid of something that another child did and he had to stay home until they realized the mistake. The kid is now upset, understandably and probalby has rumors going around about him even though he is innocent. It wasn't that hard to follow.

This is op. Thanks for your help to explain. Emotions are still raw so my style is not perfect.

To add, the school called me and said on the phone - “we found xyz that your son searched online and he did it at midnight from your home.” — I was speechless for I don’t know how long. Then somehow I gathered myself and said I want to find out more and who exactly is the person who gave my son the idea for that search, because based on my conversation, there is always someone at school influencing my child to choose bad choices…

The school then asked if I could bring my son over with his laptop. When the school showed their XYZ pictures to my son he got immediately visibly upset and immediately replied that was a different Larlo! That Larlo is always on that website!

The quote above is now sitting in my head like PTSD.

Which laptop did they use to show him these pictures?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your child is an honor roll student the whole year and manages how to find all the work and turn it in except 4th quarter when he stops turning in work. Then the school calls and says your child was accessing something inappropriate from a school issued Chromebook/iPad/other school device at midnight.
You need to consider the possibility your child is staying up really late and being curious is accessing inappropriate things instead of focusing on his schoolwork. Instead of just asking your son and believing everything he says, have you searched his history on his device? Have you stayed up late or set your alarm to see what your son is doing at midnight?

It was not him… Yes, I am on top of parental controls. The school already wrote an apology email.
But this is insufficient. I’m still stuck with a child who doesn’t want to go to school..

This is a great opportunity for your child to show resiliency.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He was accused of something that would draw attention of a local law enforcement.

He has ADHD.

I have been in contact with School about lack of support on their part in response to my multiple emails requesting help. I told them that I intend to contact the county and mass media. This is of course, our desperation to get School ‘adequate’ attention (as they were simply footballing my child around ) and I really meant it and I still mean it. After all me and my husband pay a lot of taxes to support the school.

It is right after I complained, the school in rush, pulled my son in and accused him. he right away, pointed out that it’s a different child with the same first name who should be accused. I believe that was the schools way to shut me down, but instead it escalated even more. They didn’t even get their basic facts straight… digital footprint is usually associated with full names so all they had to do is to check which Larla did that…

Very tough times.

You mention digital footprint. If something your child sent to someone or received from someone, don’t you have have the emails or whatever it is on your side? Could you not just print that out and present?

You say “which Larla.” Is that supposed to be your son or is there also a girl involved that you could get help from?

They school accused her kid of something that another child did and he had to stay home until they realized the mistake. The kid is now upset, understandably and probalby has rumors going around about him even though he is innocent. It wasn't that hard to follow.

This is op. Thanks for your help to explain. Emotions are still raw so my style is not perfect.

To add, the school called me and said on the phone - “we found xyz that your son searched online and he did it at midnight from your home.” — I was speechless for I don’t know how long. Then somehow I gathered myself and said I want to find out more and who exactly is the person who gave my son the idea for that search, because based on my conversation, there is always someone at school influencing my child to choose bad choices…

The school then asked if I could bring my son over with his laptop. When the school showed their XYZ pictures to my son he got immediately visibly upset and immediately replied that was a different Larlo! That Larlo is always on that website!

The quote above is now sitting in my head like PTSD.

Which laptop did they use to show him these pictures?

Their own laptop with screenshots of teacher-provided material which was the other boy’s activity…

[Anonymous]

Then they took away his laptop for further investigation. Laptops were due next day any way for everyone to turn in, so we left it of course.