ED violation

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP, it's not a violation. People are allowed to appeal for financial reasons, even if you don't agree with them.

DP. It is a violation. Any appeal should have been done and resolved by now. If still not affordable, the person should have withdrawn from ED. If resolved, they are required to withdraw the other apps. Doesn't seem that any of this happened. They've sat on all the apps, accruing acceptances. They are treating it the same as an EA, which is a violation of ED contract.

This. They broke the contract that the parents and child in front of the high school counselor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP, it's not a violation. People are allowed to appeal for financial reasons, even if you don't agree with them.

DP. It is a violation. Any appeal should have been done and resolved by now. If still not affordable, the person should have withdrawn from ED. If resolved, they are required to withdraw the other apps. Doesn't seem that any of this happened. They've sat on all the apps, accruing acceptances. They are treating it the same as an EA, which is a violation of ED contract.

This. They broke the contract that the parents and child in front of the high school counselor.

I have no idea what you are talking about. Why are you so obsessed?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Of course OP should say something. I don’t see why she wouldn’t send an anonymous email. If the child is not violating the ED agreement, no harm no foul.

Sidwell had to send out a letter on parents reporting students ie knock it off. Understand OP someone’s financial situation is zero of your business.

Juicy. Let’s see it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course OP should say something. I don’t see why she wouldn’t send an anonymous email. If the child is not violating the ED agreement, no harm no foul.

Sidwell had to send out a letter on parents reporting students ie knock it off. Understand OP someone’s financial situation is zero of your business.

Juicy. Let’s see it.

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[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe they booked this vacation a year ago? A lot of trips are non-refundable. You don't know -and a trip to the Caribbean is a fraction of the cost of college multiplied by four years. Also, a family's financial situation can change. Let it rest.

get real .The ED contract is signed by the parents and the student in front of the high school college counselor whose job it is to make SURE the parents know that ED is BINDING. The colleges don't like it when students violate the contract. The high school doesn't like it. The college counselor doesn't like it and may refuse to help the student with future applications (sending LOC and transcripts) and yes you are hurting the chances of your kids' fellow classmates. To violate the contract does impact upon the school's reputation and may impact - as noted above - on chances for students to get into the university the next year. See mailing that Sidwell had to send around above.

Even so, stay in your own lane.

I'm in my own lane. I am not OP. I am responding to the idiot talking about booking a vacation and how that somehow excuses the ED contract.

DS accepted his ED1 school. While I’m certain I knew he applied ED1, neither of us remember the actual signing of the agreement. Certainly not in person with the counselor. Not sure what or when the counselor signed. I’m just pointing out that it’s not the holy ritual that pp seems to think it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course OP should say something. I don’t see why she wouldn’t send an anonymous email. If the child is not violating the ED agreement, no harm no foul.

Sidwell had to send out a letter on parents reporting students ie knock it off. Understand OP someone’s financial situation is zero of your business.

Juicy. Let’s see it.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/on-parenting/when-parents-are-so-desperate-to-get-their-kids-into-college-that-they-sabotage-other-students/2019/04/02/decc6b9e-5159-11e9-88a1-ed346f0ec94f_story.html

[Anonymous]

This is so gross. My kid applied ED and got in. He immediately withdraw all 9 other applications that were pending (mostly EA), not wanting to feel guilty about taking a slot that could have gone to a classmate and maybe changed their future. He even followed up with schools that didn’t respond quickly. ED is a commitment. And ethics matter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m wondering if any action can be taken in this situation. My child is a senior at a MCPS school. Another kid applied and was accepted ED to a top private university. The kid and their parents are refusing to commit to the school and refuse to withdraw other applications.

This week the kid got into an EA school when others didn’t. Do universities share their ED lists? It wasn’t my kid this week, but could easily be later in the cycle.

Family says that it’s for financial reasons but went on an expensive vacation last week.

Maybe the expensive vacation was paid for my grandparents or someone else — who are not obligated to also pay for college, Just a thought.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is so gross. My kid applied ED and got in. He immediately withdraw all 9 other applications that were pending (mostly EA), not wanting to feel guilty about taking a slot that could have gone to a classmate and maybe changed their future. He even followed up with schools that didn’t respond quickly. ED is a commitment. And ethics matter.

Immediately is relative. for some it is before getting out of the bed and for others it is after.

Each has their own definition of commitment, but to their benefit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is so gross. My kid applied ED and got in. He immediately withdraw all 9 other applications that were pending (mostly EA), not wanting to feel guilty about taking a slot that could have gone to a classmate and maybe changed their future. He even followed up with schools that didn’t respond quickly. ED is a commitment. And ethics matter.

Liar!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is so gross. My kid applied ED and got in. He immediately withdraw all 9 other applications that were pending (mostly EA), not wanting to feel guilty about taking a slot that could have gone to a classmate and maybe changed their future. He even followed up with schools that didn’t respond quickly. ED is a commitment. And ethics matter.

Same. DD also withdrew right away, not wanting to take a spot from someone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is so gross. My kid applied ED and got in. He immediately withdraw all 9 other applications that were pending (mostly EA), not wanting to feel guilty about taking a slot that could have gone to a classmate and maybe changed their future. He even followed up with schools that didn’t respond quickly. ED is a commitment. And ethics matter.

Liar!

NP here but why do you say this? The schools DD withdrew from did respond quickly, but if they had not, she probably would have followed up too to make sure they got the message. It's a pretty big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is so gross. My kid applied ED and got in. He immediately withdraw all 9 other applications that were pending (mostly EA), not wanting to feel guilty about taking a slot that could have gone to a classmate and maybe changed their future. He even followed up with schools that didn’t respond quickly. ED is a commitment. And ethics matter.

Liar!

NP - what is wrong with you? My kid is in the process of trying to withdraw from schools right now and some of them make it pretty difficult. You sound like an unhinged Republican congressman.

[Anonymous]

Parent of a kid who applied and accept ED by the rules. For those who say MYOB, you're off base. This is OP's business because this kid could be taking a slot away from another classmate, even OP's kid. Schools absolutely compare applicants to others at their school.

Still, OP you don't have all the facts, so I think contacting the schools is an overreach. Contacting the high school counselor is the right level of intervention for you. The counselor can look into it and take it from their. Tell them their concerns based on what you know and then let them do their job.

[Anonymous]

"If you do get accepted into a college you applied ED, you are bound by an honor code to attend. Remember, you, your parents and even your guidance counselor signed a contract that stated if you were accepted into the college, you would enroll. However, while you did sign an agreement, it is not legally binding, and there will be no legal ramifications if you do reject the offer. The college cannot force you to attend or hold you legally responsible for the tuition and fees associated with attending. If you do decide to reject the offer due to financial reasons, you won’t have to pay a deposit or owe the college any money. No ED “rules” or honor code is broken, and you are free to attend another college"