Men dating younger women gives me the ick

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“ Um a 36-year-old man dating a 26-year-old woman is not creepy at all. That’s a pretty normal age gap. He’s not that old and she’s not that young…”

A 10 year age gap is kinda creepy. I dated a 39 year old when I was 29, and there was definitely a power imbalance where he called the shots and I went along. It was until after we broke up that I realized how much he used that to manipulate, as I got older I realized that if I’d been his age when dating him I would not have believed his b.s. or put up with his behavior. And I think a lot of men who regularly date significantly younger do so because they’ve learned that they can can get away with things that they wouldn’t with women who have the same amount of life experiences.

I hope you realize that they are adults, right?

FWIW, my father was a 49-year-old CEO when he married my mother, who was 24 years old at the time, and they had a wonderful life. My father passed away at the age of 82, and my mother has not dated anyone since.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“ Um a 36-year-old man dating a 26-year-old woman is not creepy at all. That’s a pretty normal age gap. He’s not that old and she’s not that young…”

A 10 year age gap is kinda creepy. I dated a 39 year old when I was 29, and there was definitely a power imbalance where he called the shots and I went along. It was until after we broke up that I realized how much he used that to manipulate, as I got older I realized that if I’d been his age when dating him I would not have believed his b.s. or put up with his behavior. And I think a lot of men who regularly date significantly younger do so because they’ve learned that they can can get away with things that they wouldn’t with women who have the same amount of life experiences.

That's on you. The younger, hotter person almost always has the power imbalance (celebrity relationships don't count in this equation).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“ Um a 36-year-old man dating a 26-year-old woman is not creepy at all. That’s a pretty normal age gap. He’s not that old and she’s not that young…”

A 10 year age gap is kinda creepy. I dated a 39 year old when I was 29, and there was definitely a power imbalance where he called the shots and I went along. It was until after we broke up that I realized how much he used that to manipulate, as I got older I realized that if I’d been his age when dating him I would not have believed his b.s. or put up with his behavior. And I think a lot of men who regularly date significantly younger do so because they’ve learned that they can can get away with things that they wouldn’t with women who have the same amount of life experiences.

I hope you realize that they are adults, right?

FWIW, my father was a 49-year-old CEO when he married my mother, who was 24 years old at the time, and they had a wonderful life. My father passed away at the age of 82, and my mother has not dated anyone since.

Is she satisfied that he's gone, or remorseful that his death ruined her golden years before she even knew?

It does best consideration that since women seem to get sick of their men (and all men) after they have kids, marrying an older man partially solves that problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“ Um a 36-year-old man dating a 26-year-old woman is not creepy at all. That’s a pretty normal age gap. He’s not that old and she’s not that young…”

A 10 year age gap is kinda creepy. I dated a 39 year old when I was 29, and there was definitely a power imbalance where he called the shots and I went along. It was until after we broke up that I realized how much he used that to manipulate, as I got older I realized that if I’d been his age when dating him I would not have believed his b.s. or put up with his behavior. And I think a lot of men who regularly date significantly younger do so because they’ve learned that they can can get away with things that they wouldn’t with women who have the same amount of life experiences.

That's on you. The younger, hotter person almost always has the power imbalance (celebrity relationships don't count in this equation).

Dumb pervert.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“ Um a 36-year-old man dating a 26-year-old woman is not creepy at all. That’s a pretty normal age gap. He’s not that old and she’s not that young…”

A 10 year age gap is kinda creepy. I dated a 39 year old when I was 29, and there was definitely a power imbalance where he called the shots and I went along. It was until after we broke up that I realized how much he used that to manipulate, as I got older I realized that if I’d been his age when dating him I would not have believed his b.s. or put up with his behavior. And I think a lot of men who regularly date significantly younger do so because they’ve learned that they can can get away with things that they wouldn’t with women who have the same amount of life experiences.

I hope you realize that they are adults, right?

FWIW, my father was a 49-year-old CEO when he married my mother, who was 24 years old at the time, and they had a wonderful life. My father passed away at the age of 82, and my mother has not dated anyone since.

Is she satisfied that he's gone, or remorseful that his death ruined her golden years before she even knew?

It does best consideration that since women seem to get sick of their men (and all men) after they have kids, marrying an older man partially solves that problem.

So true. Part of the reason why it seems to work is the men know they have to give the women princess treatment or else. Men that marry within age are happy to slack off or be more partners.

The fact that she didn’t remarry doesn’t mean “true love”. It means she’s like hell no I’m not doing that again. People that loved being married look for that again.

[Anonymous]

Because men, especially shallow insecure men, are more likely to choose partners based upon superficial criteria.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's you. It's a reminder that you're not as young as you used to be and you're only getting older. But, it really isn't any of your business who other people date. These flings probably won't last anyway.

Agree. It's insecurity.

It's normal but I recognize it for what it is.

Now if it were like a 70 year old man with an 18 year old, then sure. But 50 and 24, it's just 2 adults. Not what I would do but not harming anyone

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“ Um a 36-year-old man dating a 26-year-old woman is not creepy at all. That’s a pretty normal age gap. He’s not that old and she’s not that young…”

A 10 year age gap is kinda creepy. I dated a 39 year old when I was 29, and there was definitely a power imbalance where he called the shots and I went along. It was until after we broke up that I realized how much he used that to manipulate, as I got older I realized that if I’d been his age when dating him I would not have believed his b.s. or put up with his behavior. And I think a lot of men who regularly date significantly younger do so because they’ve learned that they can can get away with things that they wouldn’t with women who have the same amount of life experiences.

I hope you realize that they are adults, right?

FWIW, my father was a 49-year-old CEO when he married my mother, who was 24 years old at the time, and they had a wonderful life. My father passed away at the age of 82, and my mother has not dated anyone since.

Is she satisfied that he's gone, or remorseful that his death ruined her golden years before she even knew?

It does best consideration that since women seem to get sick of their men (and all men) after they have kids, marrying an older man partially solves that problem.

My mother said that she had 33 wonderful years with him, and that she would do it again in a heartbeat. He took very good care of my mother's side of the family, and paid my mom's brother's college tuition and expenses. Because of the age difference, he made sure that my mother was taken care of financially after he was gone.

[Anonymous]

Older women dating younger guys gives more people the ick than the other way around

[Anonymous]

I went to grad school for a 2nd masters degree when I was 40. In my first semester I met a 22 year old undergrad in his senior year. He was my friend and lover for 2.5 years. He wanted to continue but i knew we would not last longer than another year or two. It's been 10 years and it is hard dating 50 year olds when the freshness of a 22 year old is so memorable.

PP, I hope your second master's degree was in abnormal psychology, so you can help your (mommy-fixated) former flame unscrew himself.

Friend and lover? Yuck. Freshness so memorable? Double yuck. Please tell us you are no longer troll the GMU student center looking for fun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I went to grad school for a 2nd masters degree when I was 40. In my first semester I met a 22 year old undergrad in his senior year. He was my friend and lover for 2.5 years. He wanted to continue but i knew we would not last longer than another year or two. It's been 10 years and it is hard dating 50 year olds when the freshness of a 22 year old is so memorable.

PP, I hope your second master's degree was in abnormal psychology, so you can help your (mommy-fixated) former flame unscrew himself.

Friend and lover? Yuck. Freshness so memorable? Double yuck. Please tell us you are no longer troll the GMU student center looking for fun.

These posts are so funny. Almost all guys I know, like me, had an older “gf” at some point in our 20s. Never anything serious, just an easy fun and consistent lay. And for most of us young inexperienced guys we benefited not just from the easy sex but practical learning experiences. Some of these lasted a few years but most were short term situationships.

The proportion of young guys who marry and settle down with older women is minuscule compared to older man younger women which is pretty common.

Y’all cougars think you are so HOT getting the 20yr pool boy but basically you are just an easy and fun situationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a 36F married to a 36M, two children. All of our friends and associates (mainly lawyers and other professionals) are in similar age appropriate relationships.
Recently I’ve observed a man we know from university, who has aged poorly due to stress of running his own law firm, posting his new younger (mid 20s ish) girlfriend all over social media. She looks like his little sister or niece and it gives me the ick. He is always posting photos of her in revealing clothing hanging all over him like she’s some trophy.
Older women dating younger men don’t seem to give me the same feeling. I’m wondering why that is? Is it because biologically there is much less likely to be children resulting from that type of match, while older men can impregnate younger women with their inferior sperm and have kids well past the age they should become fathers?
Is it because I feel bad for these attractive young women who should really be able to find a decent looking successful man their own age, and instead are settling for an older version?
Or am I having some sort of deep seated insecurities because this woman is younger and prettier than me? To be fair, I am not bad looking and still in decent shape after two kids. I’ve also never had any romantic interest in this man posting on social media.
Fascinating! I suppose I will see more of this type of situation as we get older.

Because the feeling you are having is clearly jealousy. Your DH is going to trade you in for a younger model for sure. And "impregnate" her and "have kids well past the age" where you think he should become a father. A father again, anyway. And there will be no money from him for your kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a man and I find older women with younger men incredibly creepy.

I'm a woman and find it creepy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I went to grad school for a 2nd masters degree when I was 40. In my first semester I met a 22 year old undergrad in his senior year. He was my friend and lover for 2.5 years. He wanted to continue but i knew we would not last longer than another year or two. It's been 10 years and it is hard dating 50 year olds when the freshness of a 22 year old is so memorable.

PP, I hope your second master's degree was in abnormal psychology, so you can help your (mommy-fixated) former flame unscrew himself.

Friend and lover? Yuck. Freshness so memorable? Double yuck. Please tell us you are no longer troll the GMU student center looking for fun.

These posts are so funny. Almost all guys I know, like me, had an older “gf” at some point in our 20s. Never anything serious, just an easy fun and consistent lay. And for most of us young inexperienced guys we benefited not just from the easy sex but practical learning experiences. Some of these lasted a few years but most were short term situationships.

The proportion of young guys who marry and settle down with older women is minuscule compared to older man younger women which is pretty common.

Y’all cougars think you are so HOT getting the 20yr pool boy but basically you are just an easy and fun situationship.

When I was a 26 year old man, I had a fling with a 43 year old woman who I met on a plane, and it was awesome. She was divorced and wanted to get laid all the time. She was fun and easy and had none of the hassle of girls my own age. Today I am in my 50's and happily married (not to her) and I think back on those times and all the great stuff she taught me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Older women dating younger guys gives more people the ick than the other way around

That’s going to depend on the IQ, education level, geographical distribution, religion-adherence, and political party of the people surveyed. Most people I know would be far more grossed out by an old guy targeting a younger woman. There’s much more likely to be exploitation involved.