How much would this bug you?

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Anonymous wrote:She lied because she felt she had to. Ask yourself why that is.

Why can’t MIL follow a very simple schedule?

Grandparents will do whatever tf they want. They think your routines, food choices and rules are ridiculous. Even your mom thinks that, op.

NP. That’s absolutely fine. They can be visitors, then, and not caregivers. It is 100% fine if they just want to visit and have fun, and not babysit. If they want to babysit, they will follow the rules.

Or, you could relax. My kids are older now and out of the house, but with the benefit of hindsight I will say that I was way too uptight as a young parent and grandparents generally know what they are doing.

+10000. My kids are teens now. My DH and I joke all the time about how uptight we were as new parents. I already have the quiet eye roll around younger parents. It’s literally the cycle of life. You live and then you learn.

I’m team relax and don’t sweat the small stuff but I would not be comfortable with a caregiver (parent, friend, nanny, anyone) proactively lying to me about what they are doing with my child. Lying this way would not be small stuff to me

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It’s the lying that’s not OK.

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Anonymous wrote:Since this is a matter of principle OP, I am sure you have fully reimbursed her for the cost of great wolf lodge. Correct?

Damn! This is the best post here!

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Anonymous wrote:Since this is a matter of principle OP, I am sure you have fully reimbursed her for the cost of great wolf lodge. Correct?

But but but MIL SHOVED her out the door! There is no recourse for that! The woman has an unsecured pool so clearly there is no reasoning with her when she tells you and your husband to go to Great Wolf completely unexpectedly. I doubt OP eve had time to pack her own underwear.

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No. That’s a little white lie with a wink and a nod because grandma is a better more experienced mom than you. Let her have that one. Maybe she wasn’t keeping track of time. Did she start trying at 1?

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Anonymous wrote:No. That’s a little white lie with a wink and a nod because grandma is a better more experienced mom than you. Let her have that one. Maybe she wasn’t keeping track of time. Did she start trying at 1?

She literally texted, unprompted, at 1:00 saying the baby was sleeping when the baby was not in the crib- and wasn't for another two hours. She did not lose track of time.
It is possible that the baby was sleeping elsewhere. Which is why OP should ASK HER.