If adults kids don’t have kids what’s the point?

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Sometimes I worry that my 28 and 30 year old will never have kids. They both move out, but don't think they can afford to have kids.

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Anonymous wrote:I am the PP, and PS, yes I will help as much as I can I if/when they chose to procreate. But I vowed that I will not be the source of pressure one way or the other. Their bodies, their choices.

Not really their bodies. This ain’t the Barbie movie.

For thousands of years my family had kids and paid it forward. I doubt they expected in 2023 a future descendent would kill off their unborn children and the blood line would stop

So no not your body really,

My sister and I I only had boys, so our bloodline stopped with them. No more mitochondrial DNA from my ancestors.

Boys get x chromosomes from their moms. Clearly you don't understand genetics.

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Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I worry that my 28 and 30 year old will never have kids. They both move out, but don't think they can afford to have kids.

I had my 1st at 32. My mom thought she'd never have grandchildren. She has 7. There's so alternative options for them. I see your point and I'm encouraging my kids to have children in their late 20s early 30s. They will have family support, of course.

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Anonymous wrote:I am the PP, and PS, yes I will help as much as I can I if/when they chose to procreate. But I vowed that I will not be the source of pressure one way or the other. Their bodies, their choices.

Not really their bodies. This ain’t the Barbie movie.

For thousands of years my family had kids and paid it forward. I doubt they expected in 2023 a future descendent would kill off their unborn children and the blood line would stop

So no not your body really,

My sister and I I only had boys, so our bloodline stopped with them. No more mitochondrial DNA from my ancestors.

Boys get x chromosomes from their moms. Clearly you don't understand genetics.

Not talking about X chromosomes. Talking about mitochondrial DNA which is only passed through the mother. If my boys ever have children, their children will inherit their mitochondrial DNA from their mother.

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Anonymous wrote:I literally gave up 22 years of my life between pregnancy and up college.

From kids soccer, back to school nights, SAT tutors, 21 birthday parties, play dates, paying for everything including college.

What was point of any of it without grandkids?

Lonely sad life for me at an empty Thanksgiving table with no one to even leave my stuff too.

What was point of having kids, what was even point of career or big house?

There is no way that this person is real.

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However, I agree with your greater point. What's the point if my line ends?

Are you the Queen of England or something? Get over yourself.

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However, I agree with your greater point. What's the point if my line ends?

Are you the Queen of England or something? Get over yourself.

+1! All this talk about “lines” is so ridiculous. You’re not a Lannister or royalty.

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Anonymous wrote:I am the PP, and PS, yes I will help as much as I can I if/when they chose to procreate. But I vowed that I will not be the source of pressure one way or the other. Their bodies, their choices.

Not really their bodies. This ain’t the Barbie movie.

For thousands of years my family had kids and paid it forward. I doubt they expected in 2023 a future descendent would kill off their unborn children and the blood line would stop

So no not your body really,

My sister and I I only had boys, so our bloodline stopped with them. No more mitochondrial DNA from my ancestors.

Boys get x chromosomes from their moms. Clearly you don't understand genetics.

Not talking about X chromosomes. Talking about mitochondrial DNA which is only passed through the mother. If my boys ever have children, their children will inherit their mitochondrial DNA from their mother.

There is nothing recognizable about you that comes from your mitochondrial DNA, I promise. It’s factually true that mitochondrial DNA is matrilineal, but it is only your “line” in the most technical sense.

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I’m only 10 years into parenting, but if you gave up your life, that’s on you.

How about raising children that turn into adults you would choose to be friends with if they weren’t your kids? Or being the type of parent your kids want to spend time with? My spouse and I both look forward to and enjoy spending time with our parents.

Both of us grew up with parents who had careers, hobbies, and friends they had more in common with than similar aged children - but were still engaged, involved and loving parents. We are doing our best to do the same. My kids will grow up and move away - but my spouse and I will continue having a life independent of them. My kids don’t owe me entertainment or adoration, but hopefully they’ll want to hang out once in a while.

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Anonymous wrote:The point was to have the experience of raising your children.

+1 and if you’re alone with no one to pass things too, then you did a piss poor job of this.

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The 22 years was the point, lol.

Oy vey.

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I think exactly like you, OP, except that I love parenting and do not regret prioritizing my children.

However, I agree with your greater point. What's the point if my line ends?

I don't know how old you are, but my uncle became a grandfather at 80+ years old. He had his daughter later in life, and she had a daughter at 36. It was probably the happiest day of his life.

The point is that you got to experience life. That’s it. You aren’t going to know anything about your “line” so why do you care? The world could blow up tomorrow. Would you think your life was pointless then?

PP you replied to. I come from a line of aristocrats and the point is to have kids and transmit one's family culture and wealth. We've been doing that for a thousand years. But it's OK you don't understand. I did not create the thread. I hope my kids have kids. I would be so happy to babysit.

I see. I came from a line of people whose culture and wealth were looted by colonial aristocrats. The sooner your line dies the happier I will be.

Wtf is wrong with you? You need therapy. Wishing death to people online isn’t stable.

Wow. Reading comprehension is hard, but there’s a huge difference between wishing people would stop reproducing and wishing for their death.

Maybe read twice next time?

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, I am childfree and so glad that my parents don't feel the way you do. They wanted to have a child to have the experience of raising a child, and that was their decision, not mine, obviously. I do not want this experience, and they understand and accept my decision. Frankly, more and more parents should expect to not have grandchildren, as younger generations come to terms with the devastation that climate change is wreaking on the earth.

Sanctimonious much?

OMG. So brainwashed.

Brainwashed, huh? To my mind, brainwashed is following the life script of college, marriage, house, kids. Try thinking for yourself for a change, not doing what everyone else has done.

I do! You are merely spouting off democrat talking points fed to you by the media.

And you are a mindless slave to your base instincts, no different than a rutting pig or a fertile cockroach. Life support for a reproductive system.

You do realize how crazy that response is, don’t you? Out of your mind.

Insane to me is having children while the planet heaves with almost 8 billion people, and expecting everything to be fine. It’s great to mash your genitals together with someone else’s, just use contraception.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, I am childfree and so glad that my parents don't feel the way you do. They wanted to have a child to have the experience of raising a child, and that was their decision, not mine, obviously. I do not want this experience, and they understand and accept my decision. Frankly, more and more parents should expect to not have grandchildren, as younger generations come to terms with the devastation that climate change is wreaking on the earth.

Sanctimonious much?

OMG. So brainwashed.

Brainwashed, huh? To my mind, brainwashed is following the life script of college, marriage, house, kids. Try thinking for yourself for a change, not doing what everyone else has done.

I do! You are merely spouting off democrat talking points fed to you by the media.

And you are a mindless slave to your base instincts, no different than a rutting pig or a fertile cockroach. Life support for a reproductive system.

You do realize how crazy that response is, don’t you? Out of your mind.

Insane to me is having children while the planet heaves with almost 8 billion people, and expecting everything to be fine. It’s great to mash your genitals together with someone else’s, just use contraception.

Sanctimonious much? Brainwashed cows.

[Anonymous]

This is a wretched thread. Of course people get to be sad if they don’t have grandkids. I want my kids to have kids if only because it was the best thing I ever did and I had to be talked into it. So much more important than my precious career. and I don’t want my kind to die out either!

My husband and I both went to Harvard but we’d rather send our kids to a lesser school with better marriage options and grandkid yield.

I have a friend who works out solely to stay in shape for her grandkids who won’t be born for twenty years. If she didn’t have any I don’t think she’d want to live. She is a very normal and lovely person.