If adults kids don’t have kids what’s the point?

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Anonymous wrote:I am the PP, and PS, yes I will help as much as I can I if/when they chose to procreate. But I vowed that I will not be the source of pressure one way or the other. Their bodies, their choices.

Not really their bodies. This ain’t the Barbie movie.

For thousands of years my family had kids and paid it forward. I doubt they expected in 2023 a future descendent would kill off their unborn children and the blood line would stop

So no not your body really,

My sister and I I only had boys, so our bloodline stopped with them. No more mitochondrial DNA from my ancestors.

Boys get x chromosomes from their moms. Clearly you don't understand genetics.

Not talking about X chromosomes. Talking about mitochondrial DNA which is only passed through the mother. If my boys ever have children, their children will inherit their mitochondrial DNA from their mother.

Seriously?!?!? You care about that? Wierd. Ok, you be you.

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Op if you have cousin, or your parents have cousins, or their parents do, and on and on,
you "bloodline" will go on.

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Anonymous wrote:This is a wretched thread. Of course people get to be sad if they don’t have grandkids. I want my kids to have kids if only because it was the best thing I ever did and I had to be talked into it. So much more important than my precious career. and I don’t want my kind to die out either!

My husband and I both went to Harvard but we’d rather send our kids to a lesser school with better marriage options and grandkid yield.

I have a friend who works out solely to stay in shape for her grandkids who won’t be born for twenty years. If she didn’t have any I don’t think she’d want to live. She is a very normal and lovely person.

OP isn't sad because she doesn't have grandkids. She says that there's no point in having kids if she doesn't get grandkids. She thinks that the sacrifices that parent smoke are wasted if there are no grandkids.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, I am childfree and so glad that my parents don't feel the way you do. They wanted to have a child to have the experience of raising a child, and that was their decision, not mine, obviously. I do not want this experience, and they understand and accept my decision. Frankly, more and more parents should expect to not have grandchildren, as younger generations come to terms with the devastation that climate change is wreaking on the earth.

Sanctimonious much?

OMG. So brainwashed.

Brainwashed, huh? To my mind, brainwashed is following the life script of college, marriage, house, kids. Try thinking for yourself for a change, not doing what everyone else has done.

I do! You are merely spouting off democrat talking points fed to you by the media.

And you are a mindless slave to your base instincts, no different than a rutting pig or a fertile cockroach. Life support for a reproductive system.

You do realize how crazy that response is, don’t you? Out of your mind.

Insane to me is having children while the planet heaves with almost 8 billion people, and expecting everything to be fine. It’s great to mash your genitals together with someone else’s, just use contraception.

Sanctimonious much? Brainwashed cows.

Aww, poor little lemming, following everyone else over the cliff.

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Another thing.

I can’t bear the thought of my own babies growing old after I am dead and having nobody in the next generation to love and care for them. Same-age partners and friends are great but not at all the same. And yes, some kids will leave you high and dry so I will urge my kids to have 2-5 kids each if they can.

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Anonymous wrote:Another thing.

I can’t bear the thought of my own babies growing old after I am dead and having nobody in the next generation to love and care for them. Same-age partners and friends are great but not at all the same. And yes, some kids will leave you high and dry so I will urge my kids to have 2-5 kids each if they can.

You’re the MIL from hell.

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Leave the people who don't wish to have children ALONE. Thanks!

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Please be a troll, because if you aren’t, you are completely and utterly ridiculous.

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Anonymous wrote:I totally agree with you. If my kids choose to not have kids I will leave them nothing. Spend all my savings, and give the rest to charity. I did the hard work. If they aren't willing to do the same, they don't need or deserve an inheritance.

You’re absurd. I hope your kids cut you off completely.

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Anonymous wrote:JFC. Did you not enjoy a single second of parenting? Do you not look at your adult children with pride and happiness for the people they have become? Do you never look at them and revel in the magic of a world where this person didn’t exist, and then one day did, and you were lucky enough to get to be their parent?

The reward for parenting is getting to know your child and serve as their guide into the world. It’s an honor. Parenting is a gift in and of itself.

Grandchildren are not prizes.

not OP, but yes I did experience all that and I love my kids. However, they aren't some special snowflakes that enlighten my world just with their presence. Well, actually they are, but my parenting of them is done. Time for them to carry the torch. And how I spend my money will depend on the presence of grandchildren.

Also, don't curse

You aren’t the board monitor. Don’t tell people what to do or not do.

Oh, and grow up.

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I think exactly like you, OP, except that I love parenting and do not regret prioritizing my children.

However, I agree with your greater point. What's the point if my line ends?

I don't know how old you are, but my uncle became a grandfather at 80+ years old. He had his daughter later in life, and she had a daughter at 36. It was probably the happiest day of his life.

The point is that you got to experience life. That’s it. You aren’t going to know anything about your “line” so why do you care? The world could blow up tomorrow. Would you think your life was pointless then?

PP you replied to. I come from a line of aristocrats and the point is to have kids and transmit one's family culture and wealth. We've been doing that for a thousand years. But it's OK you don't understand. I did not create the thread. I hope my kids have kids. I would be so happy to babysit.

Oops, you overplayed your hand.

Troll.

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Anonymous wrote:JFC. Did you not enjoy a single second of parenting? Do you not look at your adult children with pride and happiness for the people they have become? Do you never look at them and revel in the magic of a world where this person didn’t exist, and then one day did, and you were lucky enough to get to be their parent?

The reward for parenting is getting to know your child and serve as their guide into the world. It’s an honor. Parenting is a gift in and of itself.

Grandchildren are not prizes.

not OP, but yes I did experience all that and I love my kids. However, they aren't some special snowflakes that enlighten my world just with their presence. Well, actually they are, but my parenting of them is done. Time for them to carry the torch. And how I spend my money will depend on the presence of grandchildren.

Also, don't curse

Haha I like you!

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Oh FFS. I can't scroll through all of this. But WTF.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, I am childfree and so glad that my parents don't feel the way you do. They wanted to have a child to have the experience of raising a child, and that was their decision, not mine, obviously. I do not want this experience, and they understand and accept my decision. Frankly, more and more parents should expect to not have grandchildren, as younger generations come to terms with the devastation that climate change is wreaking on the earth.

I mean of course your parents told you that. That raising you was the greatest joy. They are your parents- that’s what they say because they are good a parents! They aren’t making you feel guilty for ending their line because they are good parents! Child free adults often lack this sort of self awareness IMO because they have not yet experienced one of the major seasons in life, which is to have a child. If you skip that entire season, your life is stunted. I didn’t get it either until I had kids so I’m sure you will respond with a giant eye roll, but, sorry.

DP. None of the word vomit you just typed out is fact and you’re ridiculous and mentally stunted. Sorry.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, I am childfree and so glad that my parents don't feel the way you do. They wanted to have a child to have the experience of raising a child, and that was their decision, not mine, obviously. I do not want this experience, and they understand and accept my decision. Frankly, more and more parents should expect to not have grandchildren, as younger generations come to terms with the devastation that climate change is wreaking on the earth.

I mean of course your parents told you that. That raising you was the greatest joy. They are your parents- that’s what they say because they are good a parents! They aren’t making you feel guilty for ending their line because they are good parents! Child free adults often lack this sort of self awareness IMO because they have not yet experienced one of the major seasons in life, which is to have a child. If you skip that entire season, your life is stunted. I didn’t get it either until I had kids so I’m sure you will respond with a giant eye roll, but, sorry.

Even if what you say about my parents is true (it isn't), it demonstrates that YOU are not a good parent. Tying inheritance to progeny is some kind of f*cked up reproductive servitude. I hope your kids have kids, and keep them far from you. It will be the worst of both worlds for you.

everyone sees that the hate you spew is actually self-hate

Also, don't curse

Is your name Jeff? No? Then SHUT UP.