“It’s hard to find masculine men who aren’t conservatives”
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Anonymous
You missed the scare quotes. There is also something wrong in wanting a "feminine" woman. "Masculine" men are overly concerned about dominating others, ridicule and suppress feelings other than anger, fear and hate gay people, think women should be subservient, and exhibit any number of other supposedly masculine traits that are, in fact, damaging to themselves and others. You can be masculine without buying into such things. Similarly, desiring a "feminine" woman would involve wanting a woman who hides her intelligence, who suppresses ambitions she may have other than raising children and supporting her husband, and suppresses her sexual desires (or feigns them) when they are inconsistent with what the men in her life thinks they should be. |
Anonymous
Bingo |
Anonymous
Yes, because those women are attractive and normal. |
Anonymous
Seconded. I've dated foreign women ever since I was a teenager (western europe, eastern europe, China) because they aren't fat. No further explanation or logic is needed. |
Anonymous
I'm not sure what you mean. What I find weird is woman who is complaining. When I read the headline, I assumed that her conundrum was sort of analogous to women who say "it's hard to find a guy who is hot and rich." Guys like that are rare but it's not a contradiction in terms. But based on the way she is defining masculine (which is different than the way I define it), what she wants is for all intents and purposes impossible to have. It's like dividing by zero. |
Anonymous
That’s not a liberal then. That’s just “not a Republican.” |
Anonymous
Yep, same here. |
Anonymous
I do agree with women in the US not being as "traditionally feminine" as in Latin America or other regions but that's because so much more is expected of women in the US (self imposed expectations or not). I have a Latina mother. She has never left the house without full makeup, is always dressed up, and has been a SAHM for 50+ years. She did not go to college and was not expected to contribute financially to the household. She has approximately zero money of her own. She is a love but her skills and life are limited to what my father gives her. Many of my friends and family (females) continue to live very similar lifestyles even today. I, on the other hand, had significantly more access to education, athletic opportunities, career prospects, etc., like most US women, and am the primary breadwinner in my home. I do not have the time to spend on beauty and lifestyle that my mother did because - to be frank - I have more sh$t to do and greater responsibilities. All that said, I did marry a more conservative, immigrant DH. He's not liberal but has voted Dem because conservatives are too radical for him. We have "modern" traditional roles that account for HCOL and the fact that both parents must work. He doesn't care if I'm dressed up with tons of make up because, as he's said repeatedly, he'd much rather have the money that my business brings in. Less stress for him and better lifestyle. But we are both very family focused. |
Anonymous
well stated. I'd rather be "unfeminine" than be beholdened to a man for my financial independence. -Asian American woman |
Anonymous
| Liberal men are gay. Surprise surprise. |
Anonymous
| In leveraging toxic masculinity as a political tool to subvert existing social hierarchies, intoxicating masculinity (what the author and 95% of women crave) was memed out of existence. Maybe worth it but you can't have one without the other. There are always knock-on effects |
Anonymous
And homophobic conservatives are closeted gays. |
Anonymous
Tell us how you feel about Bud Light. |
Anonymous
"Intoxicating" masculinity? What women "crave?" Step away from the red pill sites. They're making you talk funny. |
Anonymous
| Is Kid Rock "masculine?" |