And men are raised never learning how to be intimately connected to another without sex. |
Well a man's expectation seems to be that the woman will continue on as normal after kids. They expect women to have as much time for them, to keep their bodies the same, to be just as fun, etc. And they expect themselves to continue on as normal after kids: to have as much fun with the bros, to have as much free time as they did before, etc. Then they also stop being as romantic. The efforts they put in before like dates and gifts get smaller, until they realize that the wife is irritated and then they expect a necklace to fix everything. I think where women go wrong is that they think marriage will be better for them than it actually is. |
I think too chick flicks and similar can be just as guilty at creating unrealistic expectations for relationship as porn, especially for young women. They still buy into the notion that men should take on traditional gender roles when it comes to caring for them, providing for them, making them feel special, treating them like a princess / queen, being their rock. They see themselves as being capable of a lot but still expect him to place them on a pedestal of sorts and in return they do x, y or z for this man who treats them like a queen. It is just a harmful and unrealistic ideal or expectation to have but I still see it frequently on social media from young women looking to be swept off their feet and for grand gestures and expensive gifts and romantic words. A man who caters to their feelings, needs and wants at the expense of his own and in return they do x and y. It is such an unequal and unhealthy dynamic but still out there. |
I do think men have some very unrealitic expectations of life after marriage and kids but the idea that the man needs to be romantic and give her gifts is as sexist and unrealisitc and the man having the expectation she will want to have wild sex every night. As I said in the comment above, both are sexist traditional gender role expectations. Both people need to respect each other and appreciate each other but these old fashioned expectatios about sex and gifts and romance need to go. They are perpetuated by movies and books and porn etc but are not real life. |
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college women are smart |
They can afford it. Pretty simple. |
College women marry more and get divorced less. Find another gripe OP |
No thanks. I am not taking on a charity case that would be intimidated by me & would want to vacation in Orlando when I would prefer to go to Bali. |
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Yeah, right. I’ve dated a lot of divorced women, many of them with advanced degrees, and when they actually own a house (usually a dusty 1970s row house) they got the money for the house by robbing their ex husband. |
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Huge difference, thanks for the clarification. Since most US adults have not graduated from college. |
NP here. The standards I have for a life partner are not driven my dollars. They relate to character and being equal partners. Your assumption reveals a misogynistic bias. |