Friendly reminder that 90% of divorces are filed by college-educated women

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Anonymous wrote:The title of this post is entirely misleading. 90 percent of divorces are not filed by college educated women. Only 90 of divorces between college educated people are filed by women. It’s not 90 percent of all divorces.

Huge difference, thanks for the clarification.

Since most US adults have not graduated from college.

Very true. It's more for blue collar people than white collar because the majority of working adults never graduated college.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe this is related so bear with me:

Back in grad school, I would watch this show called Love Connection (1980s). This is what I observed:

- when the couple was Afro-American, they almost always decided to go on a second date.

- when the couple was working class, about 75% of the time they would go on a second date

- when the couple was Larry the Lawyer and Mary the Marketing MBA, they almost never picked each other for a second date.

Simple, the higher the education, the higher the expectations. The more divorces, though that 90% seems way too high.

Latino couples today don't tend to be as arrogant as other race people may be. My Salvadoran friend has a masters degree but she married a Hispanic guy who only had a high school degree. Her family didn't like him because they thought he was a bum. Same with other Hispanic couples I know. My boss was a Colombian with a masters degree and her husband was a truck driver. Most of my black women friends with upper degrees are single though. My cousin married an Indian woman whose family had tremendous influence on her decisions. They wanted her to be with a man who had money not the high school sweetheart she married. God those people have no heart and are selfish and cruel.

Those “other race” people are not “arrogant”; it’s called having standards & knowing your options in life. Selfish? Are you under the impression that you’re owed someone’s romantic love?

Having standards is fine but that means dismissing good men who may be better fathers and husbands than the rich man whose income you're eyeballing. You are also dismissing the love that may be the most true and long lasting than the rich man you're looking at.

Love isn't owed its felt and happens naturally and not just because someone's throwing cash at you to buy you things.

NP here. The standards I have for a life partner are not driven my dollars. They relate to character and being equal partners.

Your assumption reveals a misogynistic bias.

I think the problems run in when men or women get taken to the cleaners by their spouse who is just looking for a purse when love runs out. Because women have a second and third role as child bearers and rearers and homemakers, it could be easier for a woman to be taken advantage of by a man who doesn't bring anything to the table but their charm and need for financial support.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think disillusionment is more common in this cohort than in others.

Yes, because:

- they can make their own money, and they know it;

- they dated around more during college, so they know they are desired by many men;

- they know how to access divorce lawyers / more likely to afford one;

- they probably know one or more friends who’ve gotten divorced/ they have support;

- they took feminism 101 and have secretly looked down on men ever since;

- they listen to NPR and/or read the WaPo (or similar) and those sources constantly deride American men.

Next.

You forgot:

- they majored in Gender Studies
- they became radicalized in college
- they joined the Feminazis

Rush, I thought you passed away!

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They empowered to be sluts.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Lol it’s not that they can’t handle it. It’s that they have enough income to have other options when things go south. And yes, some men don’t like that. See Steven Crowder.

This. They have the jobs and financial possibility to leave the men who dont pull their weight as partners.

+1 you treat me or our kids badly, we're out

This is why I left.

[Anonymous]

This isn't true. The more highly educated a woman is, the lower the rate of divorce. 78% of college educated women are still married after 20 years. only 40% of less educated women (high school or less) are still married after 20 years.

The statistic you've misunderstood: when college educated women do get divorced, that divorce is initiated by the woman 90% of the time.

To summarize, college educated women are much less likely to get divorced, but when they do divorce, that divorce is much more likely to have been initiated by the woman.


https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2015/12/04/education-and-marriage/

So, a different friendly reminder--an educated woman is more likely to marry later and to stay married.

[Anonymous]

This isn't true. The more highly educated a woman is, the lower the rate of divorce. 78% of college educated women are still married after 20 years. only 40% of less educated women (high school or less) are still married after 20 years.

The statistic you've misunderstood: when college educated women do get divorced, that divorce is initiated by the woman 90% of the time.

To summarize, college educated women are much less likely to get divorced, but when they do divorce, that divorce is much more likely to have been initiated by the woman.


https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2015/12/04/education-and-marriage/

So, a different friendly reminder--an educated woman is more likely to marry later and to stay married.

[Anonymous]

Divorce correlates to education level. Divorce rates are lower among those with bachelor's degrees or higher.

https://divorce-education.com/divorce-rate-by-education-level/

Studies have found that marriages of college-educated couples seem to last longer than they did 30 years ago — and nearly 78 percent of college-educated women who were married for the first time between 2006 and 2010 can expect their marriages to last at least two decades.

In contrast, individuals with lower levels of education, such as a high school diploma or less, tend to have higher divorce rates. The divorce rate for individuals with a high school diploma was 38.8%, while the divorce rate for those with less than a high school diploma was 45.3%.

[Anonymous]

This is why marriage is a done deal. Men stand to lose half their stuff, access to kids and be miserable.

Also remember that gay couples have low divorce rates as men like to fix things, lesbian couples have divorce rates similar to or more than heterosexual couples. So it’s women who can’t stand being in a marriage even if it’s to the same gender.

For guys, there’s no reason to be married . Level up, get financially secure and aspire to be the top 5%, as all the women chase that top 5%. Then you can just sleep with who you want even if they’re married.

For those guys who haven’t leveled up to at least a 7 get to work. You’ll find your options are really open once you do.

[Anonymous]

The divorce rate of people with college degrees is actually lower than that of people without college degrees (source: Census Bureau), so nice try there.

It is true that women file for divorce more than men do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is why marriage is a done deal. Men stand to lose half their stuff, access to kids and be miserable.

Also remember that gay couples have low divorce rates as men like to fix things, lesbian couples have divorce rates similar to or more than heterosexual couples. So it’s women who can’t stand being in a marriage even if it’s to the same gender.

For guys, there’s no reason to be married . Level up, get financially secure and aspire to be the top 5%, as all the women chase that top 5%. Then you can just sleep with who you want even if they’re married.

For those guys who haven’t leveled up to at least a 7 get to work. You’ll find your options are really open once you do.

Men only stand to lose half of their stuff if they consider everything that their wives bring to the marriage (including her income) to belong to them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is why marriage is a done deal. Men stand to lose half their stuff, access to kids and be miserable.

Also remember that gay couples have low divorce rates as men like to fix things, lesbian couples have divorce rates similar to or more than heterosexual couples. So it’s women who can’t stand being in a marriage even if it’s to the same gender.

For guys, there’s no reason to be married . Level up, get financially secure and aspire to be the top 5%, as all the women chase that top 5%. Then you can just sleep with who you want even if they’re married.

For those guys who haven’t leveled up to at least a 7 get to work. You’ll find your options are really open once you do.

Men only stand to lose half of their stuff if they consider everything that their wives bring to the marriage (including her income) to belong to them.

In most of the US men make more, they usually lose the house, access to kids, pay CS and alimony and are often straddled with lawyers fees and debt. Divorce is a financial disaster for most men, and marriage is too risky for most men too. Unless you’re a gay couple.


That’s why it’s best men avoid it, and there’s no reason to get the state involved honestly. It’s more beneficial for men to skit own their own property and date.

U.S. Census Bureau. States men account for 85% of those ordered to pay child support.

Even in the rare instance where the mother is ordered to pay child support, courts are not ordering women to pay as much as male providers. Annual child support payments averaged $5,450 from male providers and $3,500 from female providers, nearly 56% less.

Mothers get custody 80% of the time when it comes to kids as well.

With divorce rates about or over 50% it’s too risky of a proposition for men. She can cheat and still take half your stuff

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is why marriage is a done deal. Men stand to lose half their stuff, access to kids and be miserable.

Also remember that gay couples have low divorce rates as men like to fix things, lesbian couples have divorce rates similar to or more than heterosexual couples. So it’s women who can’t stand being in a marriage even if it’s to the same gender.

For guys, there’s no reason to be married . Level up, get financially secure and aspire to be the top 5%, as all the women chase that top 5%. Then you can just sleep with who you want even if they’re married.

For those guys who haven’t leveled up to at least a 7 get to work. You’ll find your options are really open once you do.

Men only stand to lose half of their stuff if they consider everything that their wives bring to the marriage (including her income) to belong to them.

In most of the US men make more, they usually lose the house, access to kids, pay CS and alimony and are often straddled with lawyers fees and debt. Divorce is a financial disaster for most men, and marriage is too risky for most men too. Unless you’re a gay couple.


That’s why it’s best men avoid it, and there’s no reason to get the state involved honestly. It’s more beneficial for men to skit own their own property and date.

U.S. Census Bureau. States men account for 85% of those ordered to pay child support.

Even in the rare instance where the mother is ordered to pay child support, courts are not ordering women to pay as much as male providers. Annual child support payments averaged $5,450 from male providers and $3,500 from female providers, nearly 56% less.

Mothers get custody 80% of the time when it comes to kids as well.

With divorce rates about or over 50% it’s too risky of a proposition for men. She can cheat and still take half your stuff

Is half of your stuff $5450/yr?


Look. Divorce is a financial disaster for everyone involved. Family courts tend to be conservative and heavily biased toward men. Mothers get custody 85% of the time, but fathers get custody 95% of the time they actually ask for it. I have personally been involved in a case where a man got partial custody of a child conceived in a convicted rape. (Men also get alimony nearly 100% of the time they ask for it.)

The only way it’s better for a man to date and conceive all of his children out of wedlock is if the couple is so poor that they need the state benefits or if the man is much, much wealthier than the women he dates.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is up with them? Why can’t they handle marriage?

They probably can’t handle the fact their husbands cheated on them

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Lol it’s not that they can’t handle it. It’s that they have enough income to have other options when things go south. And yes, some men don’t like that. See Steven Crowder.

This. They have the jobs and financial possibility to leave the men who dont pull their weight as partners.

+1 you treat me or our kids badly, we're out

Define badly