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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Lesbians get divorced at higher rates than gay men. [b]Women have higher expectations for marriage. [/b]It's as simple as that.[/quote]

I disagree with this -- I think women have unrealistic expectations for marriage, particularly post-kids. They let the intimacy wither and die and then wonder why DH isn't feeling romantic/connected with them. I know lots of women who also make parenting choices that trap them into "Mom does it all" dynamics but they won't do anything to extricate themselves from those patterns because of...anxiety? Control issues? Internalized misogyny?

If you don't tolerate dead bedrooms, and if you don't create parenting dynamics and patterns that trap you into resentment, you're much more likely to have a successful marriage.

-woman[/quote]

I think too chick flicks and similar can be just as guilty at creating unrealistic expectations for relationship as porn, especially for young women. They still buy into the notion that men should take on traditional gender roles when it comes to caring for them, providing for them, making them feel special, treating them like a princess / queen, being their rock. They see themselves as being capable of a lot but still expect him to place them on a pedestal of sorts and in return they do x, y or z for this man who treats them like a queen. It is just a harmful and unrealistic ideal or expectation to have but I still see it frequently on social media from young women looking to be swept off their feet and for grand gestures and expensive gifts and romantic words. A man who caters to their feelings, needs and wants at the expense of his own and in return they do x and y. It is such an unequal and unhealthy dynamic but still out there. [/quote]

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