The kids aren’t “out.” It’s not like they divorce their father, and it’s not like their care of custody defaults to their mother, nor should it be. If anything, if mom wants to leave, fine, but the kids get to stay with dad since mom’s abandoning the family. |
What is interesting is...
In fact, while 78% of women with a bachelor’s degree have a marriage that lasts at least 20 years, just 49% of women with some college education reach this milestone. And, just 40% of women with a high-school education or less have a marriage that lasts 20 years or more. Also, it's not 90% like OP states, it's 70% and it's not 70% of women, it's 70% of divorced women. |
He's more than welcome to 50/50 if he wants to or can. He can have the dog 100% of the time too. |
I filed. Got full custody. The kids are doing fine all things considered. It's not like if we stayed things would have been great. It was just trading one bad situation for another that I never wanted based on his behavior. Once the other person starts doing dangerous things and you have money to make the best of a bad situation, you just get out having more confidence in yourself to fix a situation than staying with a dangerous unpredictable person for the kids. I did know I would get full custody before filing but either way I was going to divorce him and give the kids a better life. |
That doesn't make sense. Grandmothers and wives of the boomer and prior generations have long marriages outlasted 20 yrs and didn't divorce for any little thing. Women today are selfish don't think of how it'll affect the kids and are unwilling to work thru anything. |
The people who do not file are the ones that are hiding stuff or want to be taken care of or without money. It's not the ones who can't hack it. Typically, college women are not hiding behaviors including addictions, have options for the future, and they have the money to leave and get the best deal in their divorce. They do not need to put up with bad behavior. Maybe these men are emasculated by these women. The men though are the ones that can't hack it in an equal relationship. |
…because women had few job or economic opportunities. They needed a man to survive. |
All those men went to war and came back to find the government handing out loans for married people which don't exist now. It made the men happy to get married because there were perks tied to marriage. They all got jobs and had already lived their hero's journey out so they weren't so lost in life. Boomers are the biggest hypocrites. They love small government except when it applied to them. |
^^^ This |
And grandmothers of previous generations were certainly abused by their husbands, they just couldn’t survive unmarried & divorce was stigmatized. |
lol |
Conservative states have the highest divorce rates, actually. |
Correct. We are now hearing about all the atrocities conducted overseas in the 1900's. If you have the means, you get out of a bad situation and do it on your terms. |
Men benefit from marriage more than women. |
This. Women who are educated and can support themselves don’t need to stay in bad marriages anymore. I’m one of them and I could afford to divorce. |