How older women react when they see me with younger GF

[Anonymous]

To be honest you are a very safe bet for her. She apparently needs a safe bet right now.

I think you are right to wonder if she’s really with you for you, or if she’s just afraid of being hurt/abandoned by someone her own age. While it’s nice for your ego to think you’re just very special, and it probably boosts your confidence and attractability, the more likely scenario is it’s a match made out of fear on her part more than love. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd feel bad for you. She's going to want a baby and your 50. Seen it time and time again. Brutal.

I'm looking forward to having a child when I'm 60.

Also, this board needs a sub-forum just for menopausal and post-menopausal women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd feel bad for you. She's going to want a baby and your 50. Seen it time and time again. Brutal.

I'm looking forward to having a child when I'm 60.

Also, this board needs a sub-forum just for menopausal and post-menopausal women.

Well there is already a lgbtq forum that would work for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd feel bad for you. She's going to want a baby and your 50. Seen it time and time again. Brutal.

I'm looking forward to having a child when I'm 60.

Also, this board needs a sub-forum just for menopausal and post-menopausal women.

So bizarre that you plan to be either dead or a walking corpse by your kid’s college grad.

And I’m a young mom of a baby so I don’t know what good you think a menopause topic board would do. Women of all ages find this stuff creepy and weird. Maybe even especially women my age and younger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd feel bad for you. She's going to want a baby and your 50. Seen it time and time again. Brutal.

I'm looking forward to having a child when I'm 60.

Also, this board needs a sub-forum just for menopausal and post-menopausal women.

So bizarre that you plan to be either dead or a walking corpse by your kid’s college grad.

And I’m a young mom of a baby so I don’t know what good you think a menopause topic board would do. Women of all ages find this stuff creepy and weird. Maybe even especially women my age and younger.

It’s a troll. Not of what they are saying is real. Just messing around.

[Anonymous]

My friend had twins when he was 50 and his wife was 44. She had Brest cancer and he almost died from gastric cancer and the kids are juniors in high school. He’ll probably be dead before they graduate from college and she will be on her own with two young adults no partner and a history of breast cancer that may or may not recur.

[Anonymous]

Sorry hun, didn’t notice either of you. Where did you expect me to see you and have thoughts?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My friend had twins when he was 50 and his wife was 44. She had Brest cancer and he almost died from gastric cancer and the kids are juniors in high school. He’ll probably be dead before they graduate from college and she will be on her own with two young adults no partner and a history of breast cancer that may or may not recur.

? six years is not that big of a difference, but I hear ya about the issues with having much older parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My friend had twins when he was 50 and his wife was 44. She had Brest cancer and he almost died from gastric cancer and the kids are juniors in high school. He’ll probably be dead before they graduate from college and she will be on her own with two young adults no partner and a history of breast cancer that may or may not recur.

? six years is not that big of a difference, but I hear ya about the issues with having much older parents.

It’s the kids at 50 part and partner being left alone with them

[Anonymous]

OP here: Thank you. Good point. But at the same time, some people clearly do care about the choices made by me and men who date even younger women. Many accuse us of of beeing creepy, gross, and even predatory. My point is that some post-menapausal (older) women are (maybe subconscously) more interested in me now. Obviously the women who seem to be more interested in me are not the women who post on DCUM (even though they are professionals, well educated, progressive, upper middle class, etc.).

I'm a woman that has been married for 20 years, and we have a 12 year age gap. We married when I was in mid-20s. I probably have daddy issues (father abandoned us), DH is wealthy, and I also experienced something very traumatic right before we started dating, so was looking to feel safe and liked that DH seemed normal and settled. So yes - I think people are correct when they see people in these relationships to assume there are underlying issues that bring people together. DH likes intelligent women, but he also wants someone attractive and doesn't find post-menopausal women to be attractive because I think he assumes that the sex wouldn't be good. Now that I'm in my 40s, this worries me and I wish there was someway I could stop menopause from happening. From an intellectual standpoint, I think he may have been happier with someone his own age. Also, even with ED medication, older men can't completely satisfy younger women. Despite all that, we have had a wonderful marriage, and I consider him my best friend.

OP, I included your quote above because I think you also categorize women as pre and post menopausal. Sex is really important to you. It's possible that this extra attention is all in your mind.

There is also another possibility. Assuming that what you say is true: specifically, women seeking you out for conversation, this would indicate to me that unlike the typical man looking for a younger woman, you are a man that genuinely likes women as people and doesn't see them as objects (doable/not-doable) and women sense this and enjoy talking to you as a friend. If you are in a serious relationship, this could lead these women to want to talk to you even more because they don't have to worry about you thinking it means anything and they genuinely enjoy your friendship. If you really are this kind of guy, you probably weren't seeking out this age gap relationship on purpose. I have only known maybe 5 or 6 men like this. They typically have a lot of attractive female friends and other men assume they are sleeping with these women, but really it's just friendship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd feel bad for you. She's going to want a baby and your 50. Seen it time and time again. Brutal.

I'm looking forward to having a child when I'm 60.

Also, this board needs a sub-forum just for menopausal and post-menopausal women.

So bizarre that you plan to be either dead or a walking corpse by your kid’s college grad.

And I’m a young mom of a baby so I don’t know what good you think a menopause topic board would do. Women of all ages find this stuff creepy and weird. Maybe even especially women my age and younger.

Based on family genetics I will live to see grandchildren. Two of my uncles are late 70s, early 80s and still working.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd feel bad for you. She's going to want a baby and your 50. Seen it time and time again. Brutal.

I'm looking forward to having a child when I'm 60.

Also, this board needs a sub-forum just for menopausal and post-menopausal women.

So bizarre that you plan to be either dead or a walking corpse by your kid’s college grad.

And I’m a young mom of a baby so I don’t know what good you think a menopause topic board would do. Women of all ages find this stuff creepy and weird. Maybe even especially women my age and younger.

Based on family genetics I will live to see grandchildren. Two of my uncles are late 70s, early 80s and still working.

If your child is a daughter and has a child at the average age of 29 you’ll be 89. Your 70-something uncles are irrelevant. Odds are strong you’ll be very dead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd feel bad for you. She's going to want a baby and your 50. Seen it time and time again. Brutal.

I'm looking forward to having a child when I'm 60.

Also, this board needs a sub-forum just for menopausal and post-menopausal women.

So bizarre that you plan to be either dead or a walking corpse by your kid’s college grad.

And I’m a young mom of a baby so I don’t know what good you think a menopause topic board would do. Women of all ages find this stuff creepy and weird. Maybe even especially women my age and younger.

Based on family genetics I will live to see grandchildren. Two of my uncles are late 70s, early 80s and still working.

If your child is a daughter and has a child at the average age of 29 you’ll be 89. Your 70-something uncles are irrelevant. Odds are strong you’ll be very dead.

It’s a troll so the whole thing is irrelevant.

[Anonymous]

OP - have you ever been married before? At your age, it's a red flag either way.

[Anonymous]

Now that I'm in my 40s, this worries me and I wish there was someway I could stop menopause from happening. From an intellectual standpoint, I think he may have been happier with someone his own age. Also, even with ED medication, older men can't completely satisfy younger women.

So he needs to take Viagra but you worry that you need to delay menopause? Please say I’m misreading this.