How older women react when they see me with younger GF

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Haven't read the whole thread. Just came on to comment that the OP has some insecurities if he's 'noticing' this about other women. What you are 'noticing' is likely totally false.

You think you have self-confidence but in truth, you have doubts about yourself. It's okay to have self-doubts. Truly, it is.

This. Sorry but true.

[Anonymous]

They think you are with your daughter OP, and think it's sweet.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Older woman here.
I knew a woman who married a man with about the same spring-fall age divide.
When he started to get older and sicker, well into his 60s and beyond, she was PISSED off and angry.
She wasn't crazy about retiring into the boonies 2 hours upstate NY for him. She still has at least a decade of active professional life in front of her.

But he wasn't crazy about having another kid (20 year age difference between his first child from first marriage). I am friends with that first child which is how I can see this panning out.

Lucky OP, he got a young nurse. Unlucky her, she's with an old man.

Eek yeah this is hard to watch. Those relationships seem to be pretty fine when you’re both between the 30 and 55 range, but once the man hits his late 50’s/early 60’s there is massive resentment. 58 year old men are ready to slow down and relax, less excited about going out and being social / active all the time…and early 40’s women feel like they’re in the prime of their lives, feeling resentful to be held back by grumpy old fogies. This is playing out among multiple families in our neighborhood / country club and it’s pretty much the same exact story in each case

This is a generalization I’ve found to be untrue. I know a 59 year old with two kids under 10 and he’s definitely still coaching their sports teams, skiing with them, running a business and pursuing his own hobbies. Couple seems to have about a 15 year age. I’m sure you can find all kinds of anecdotes but ultimately every situation is different.

When my dad was 59 he had elementary aged grandkids to ski with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They think you are with your daughter OP, and think it's sweet.

+1 is so funny that OP doesn’t see this

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Older woman here.
I knew a woman who married a man with about the same spring-fall age divide.
When he started to get older and sicker, well into his 60s and beyond, she was PISSED off and angry.
She wasn't crazy about retiring into the boonies 2 hours upstate NY for him. She still has at least a decade of active professional life in front of her.

But he wasn't crazy about having another kid (20 year age difference between his first child from first marriage). I am friends with that first child which is how I can see this panning out.

Lucky OP, he got a young nurse. Unlucky her, she's with an old man.

Eek yeah this is hard to watch. Those relationships seem to be pretty fine when you’re both between the 30 and 55 range, but once the man hits his late 50’s/early 60’s there is massive resentment. 58 year old men are ready to slow down and relax, less excited about going out and being social / active all the time…and early 40’s women feel like they’re in the prime of their lives, feeling resentful to be held back by grumpy old fogies. This is playing out among multiple families in our neighborhood / country club and it’s pretty much the same exact story in each case

This is a generalization I’ve found to be untrue. I know a 59 year old with two kids under 10 and he’s definitely still coaching their sports teams, skiing with them, running a business and pursuing his own hobbies. Couple seems to have about a 15 year age. I’m sure you can find all kinds of anecdotes but ultimately every situation is different.

When my dad was 59 he had elementary aged grandkids to ski with.

That’s a little too young to have elementary grandchildren.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:They think you are with your daughter OP, and think it's sweet.

+1 is so funny that OP doesn’t see this

This was my first thought! That they think you are a single dad devoted to his daughter.

[Anonymous]

My gf is a different race so she probably isn't my daughter, and I've only had a bad reaction once, from a mid-50s white woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My gf is a different race so she probably isn't my daughter, and I've only had a bad reaction once, from a mid-50s white woman.

meh.. my DD is biracial, but looks nonwhite, and when she's with her white dad, people don't think she's his DD. Some people probably give DH the side eye.

[Anonymous]

NP. I didn't read through everything, but if a guy is all that with a hot girlfriend and women apparently falling all over themselves to take a walk in the park with him (lol), then how and why does he have time on a beautiful spring day to post this nonsense on a Mommy board. If is what he's saying is true wouldn't he actually be out with hot girlfriend or siring ladyfriends with walks in the park? Seems more like his objective is just to stir the pot on a Mommy board.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Older woman here.
I knew a woman who married a man with about the same spring-fall age divide.
When he started to get older and sicker, well into his 60s and beyond, she was PISSED off and angry.
She wasn't crazy about retiring into the boonies 2 hours upstate NY for him. She still has at least a decade of active professional life in front of her.

But he wasn't crazy about having another kid (20 year age difference between his first child from first marriage). I am friends with that first child which is how I can see this panning out.

Lucky OP, he got a young nurse. Unlucky her, she's with an old man.

Eek yeah this is hard to watch. Those relationships seem to be pretty fine when you’re both between the 30 and 55 range, but once the man hits his late 50’s/early 60’s there is massive resentment. 58 year old men are ready to slow down and relax, less excited about going out and being social / active all the time…and early 40’s women feel like they’re in the prime of their lives, feeling resentful to be held back by grumpy old fogies. This is playing out among multiple families in our neighborhood / country club and it’s pretty much the same exact story in each case

This is a generalization I’ve found to be untrue. I know a 59 year old with two kids under 10 and he’s definitely still coaching their sports teams, skiing with them, running a business and pursuing his own hobbies. Couple seems to have about a 15 year age. I’m sure you can find all kinds of anecdotes but ultimately every situation is different.

When my dad was 59 he had elementary aged grandkids to ski with.

That’s a little too young to have elementary grandchildren.

He had me after college and I had the eldest grandkid when I was a 3L in law school. Perfectly normal!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My gf is a different race so she probably isn't my daughter, and I've only had a bad reaction once, from a mid-50s white woman.

Oh God I thought you were BF of South Asian Grad Student. At it again! If she knew how pathetic you were on DCUM I strongly suspect she’d dump you immediately.

[Anonymous]

OK

[Anonymous]

OP, no one cares. No one gives 2 s***s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My gf is a different race so she probably isn't my daughter, and I've only had a bad reaction once, from a mid-50s white woman.

Eh, even with difference races when there’s a middle aged guy with a young-mid twenties girl I assume father/daughter and that the mom is a different race. Not like most girls who are in their 20s are the spitting image of - or, in most cases, strongly physically resemble - their middle aged fathers (…thankfully!)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow this post really brought out the "over the hill" ladies. It's okay ladies you'll find someone for you someday 🤣😂🤣

Aww, you’re precious. I’m not old and happily married. On DCUM, most of us are married.

But you tried, so here’s a sticker.